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Topic: I'm gay. No joke.
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Okay so I'm really trying to be more open with my sexuality and it is much more difficult than i had anticipated. Not that it's hard for me to tell people when they ask, but lately the people who do ask don't beleive me when i say I'm gay. It kinda makes me laugh really cause hey... cantcha tell?
So anyways, someone at work would ask me if i was gay and what i would tell him at first is "Its okay man". By saying that, i wasn't being completely out of the closet but i was subtly hinting the fact that i was gay at the same time. But then later on he kept getting confused about my sexuality and so he would ask me again. This time i would say "Yes of course i am. Can't you tell?" I thought he believed me but then i was wrong cause he still keeps asking me and telling me that he doesn't know if I'm gay or straight. Come on man, I told you once do i really have to tell you again?
And then another guy at work starts talking about girls getting girlfriends and hooking up with some chicks. He just kept going on and on until I told himn that i liked men. I straight up told him that i am not attracted to girls and that i like men. Did he believe me? No he thought iwas joking the whole time! And then he had to ask me again if i was gay. I told him "Yes of course i am" i still don't think he bleiieves me. I mean is it honestly that hard to tell? If you ever knew me in person you'd get the impression that i was gay although i'm not flamboyouantly gay.
Has this ever happened to you guys at all, where you tell people taht your gay but they'll think that you're joking around with them?
Idk it just really bugs me cause they are not making my coming out any easier.
"Do you believe in life after love?"
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Post: #114154  , Sat 29 Dec 07, 5:51AM |
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Hmm..
Maybe you said it so easily where they took it as a joke?
Otherwise, they're just stupid.
You do what you love, and fuck the rest.
-Little Miss Sunshine
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Post: #114157 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 5:59AM |
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Pssh.
As long as you can be who you are, it shouldn't matter either way.
The mere impulse of appetite is slavery, while obedience to the law we prescribe to ourselves is liberty. - Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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Post: #114158 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 6:02AM |
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Yeah i know it shouldn't matter too much as long as I'm being myself, but my goal is to be more open with my sexuality AND to let people know for sure if they ask me. Them thinking that i'm joking around defeats the purpose. But jeeze what do i have to do to get the message across? It's like, do I have to go find a guy and totally suck face right in front of these people? what will it take? ugh
"Do you believe in life after love?"
"No i believe in Cher after love"
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Post: #114174 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 6:29AM |
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Jeremy, you would be my hero if you did that.
..Do it!
You do what you love, and fuck the rest.
-Little Miss Sunshine
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Post: #114178 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 6:40AM |
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For some reason alot of people never believe them when I tell them I'm gay . I guess for some if you don't fit the preconceived stereotypes one can't be gay .
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Post: #114188 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 7:07AM |
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:: sine
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
Three people told me I wasn't gay because I was "too straight." One of them later told me I wasn't 'allowed' to be gay. It was really weird. I hang out with a very gay-centric gropu, so I found it odd that some of them were like that.
It all blew over in a week, though. Just give it time and you'll be fine.
The absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence.
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Post: #114223 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 5:12PM |
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same here. a lot of people didn't believe i was dating my girlfriend. they just thought we were being dumb and messing with them. they finally got it though. but Jeremy, i'm not gonna lie. it took a make-out session in front of them to finally have them believe us. ahah
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Post: #114225 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 5:16PM |
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Kate, Steph I'll totally do it!!! Now all i need is a gay guy to makeout with. Thing is there's barely any here. I know only one, and i'm not even gonna touch him in any intimate way..ugh.
"Do you believe in life after love?"
"No i believe in Cher after love"
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Post: #114229 , Sat 29 Dec 07, 5:31PM |
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I usually don't have that sort of problem. I'm not really flamboyant or anything, but I'm still fairly effeminate, so it's not too much of a stretch to imagine that I'd be gay. =P A lot of people knew before I did, and others have figured it out since then without me telling them. There are some that don't, though...but when I tell them, they're just surprised. They might be like "o_o Seriously?" at first, but if I say yes they tend to accept it. So I can't totally relate. =P
But yeah, the making out plan would be a surefire way to let people know you aren't joking...I can't see any straight guy taking a joke THAT far. XP
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Post: #114293 , Sun 30 Dec 07, 1:00AM |
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:: hoco
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
Haha it was kinda like that with my friends. I told them and they were like, oh, ok, cool. And then whenever I would talk about girls or something, they'd be all, "Damn. You really ARE gay, aren't you? Wow." Uh, duh! They said it continually surprised them for awhile...because at first they thought it was "just one of my things" (whatever that means!).
It's probably a combination of you not being stereotypically gay, and the nonchalant way in which you announced it. It's ok, they'll get it eventually  .
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Post: #114295 , Sun 30 Dec 07, 1:18AM |
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:: maxsteen
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
Man it is the most annoying reaction. It's happened once to me, with the first guy from school i tried to tell. He just said, very funny. I took such a stupid reply to mean that he obviously wasnt ready to hear it, so i dropped it. Must be alot harder when you get such a dumb reaction from loadza people around you.
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Post: #114367 , Sun 30 Dec 07, 4:50PM |
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:: soma
:: QA8 High Householder | |
All of my friends' parents just figured it out.
The first time I met one of my best friends' mom, after I left, she asked "Does he like boys?"
I don't really seem to have a problem letting people know..
if they don't believe you, does it really matter?
"I'm sick of not having the courage to be an absolute nobody"- J.D. Salinger
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Post: #114370 , Sun 30 Dec 07, 5:15PM |
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:: gator1
:: QA10 Community God | |
Yeh, I hate it when that happens. One of my friends didn't get it at ALL. Like I was talking about my bf and everything. It lasted for like 2 weeks. Then he asked again, he's like "Are you seriously? 'Cause I don't want to offend you or something." C'mon.
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Post: #114371 , Sun 30 Dec 07, 5:16PM |
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I'm always being accused of "only being gay for guys attention." As if. One time a few of my friends and I were at this music festival and these guys were asking us which of them were more attractive, so I told them I was gay and my friends screamed "you are not!!!"
So I know how you feel, sometimes you just cannot get it through to people that your are, in fact, gay.
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Edit: AnaAddiction, Sun 30 Dec 07, 7:48PM
Post: #114395 , Sun 30 Dec 07, 7:47PM |
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I've come out to people who haven't believed me. It's really one of the most annoying things, because I'm never quite sure what to say to make them believe me, except, "Why would I joke about this?"
Although I suppose I can understand. I think most of them have no idea I'm gay until I tell them, and if it was me and one of my friends came out to me, I might be a little disbelieving at first as well.
"Once social change begins, it cannot be reversed. You cannot uneducate the person who has learned to read. You cannot humiliate the person who feels pride. You cannot oppress the people who are not afraid anymore. We have seen the future, and the future is ours." - Cesar Chavez
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Post: #114548 , Mon 31 Dec 07, 5:09AM |
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yeah, when I came out to my friends that's what happened.
"guys, I'm gay"
"really?"
"yeah."
"nawww"
"uhh, yeah."
"really?"
"didn't we just do this?"
"but come one, really?"
"guys.."
it got kinda old.
the world is a beachball and it's turtles all the way down.
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Post: #114685 , Mon 31 Dec 07, 7:33AM |
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Yeah, the first time I came out they asked if I was joking at first, and I said "why would I joke about this?"
The one friend got it fairly fast, the other one was still asking me sporadically if I was joking as long as 15 minutes afterward. She just didn't want to believe that I was gay.
Dyke tested, fag approved
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Post: #114858 , Mon 31 Dec 07, 11:32PM |
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My best friend is bi, and I'm fully gay; but, the people at our school think I'm just saying I'm gay to get the chicks...? They think he's 100% gay though, so... I don't know, a lot of people think I'm doing it for the attention.
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Post: #114867 , Tue 1 Jan 08, 12:23AM |
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Where do you work? These people are complete morons!
That would be enough to drive me insane!
For never was a story of more woe - than this of Juliet and her Romeo.
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