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Topic: When did you know?
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I guess I've always known, I just didn't know that there was a word for it until about the seventh grade...
our home which defines
us is elsewhere but not
so far away we have
forgotten it:
this is just a place.
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Post: #78549  , Fri 6 Apr 07, 3:31PM |
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Goodness what a question! I would say I have always known - in that I have always only ever been attracted to guys (rarely, I am pretty much exclusively gay  !!) but for religious and familial reasons, I was in denial until I was about 16 I guess... it's much easier to be in denial I think!  But it was all getting a bit strange, so I needed to come out a) to myself and b) to other people - thankfully it went ok, even if the rents weren't overly happy about it 
Doogles xxx
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Post: #78551 , Fri 6 Apr 07, 4:09PM |
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:: jazzuall
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
I knew it when I was around 13 (there was a rather embarrassing quasi-sexual experience with the cousin at the age of 11), but I only accepted it at 18.
But you are, Blanche!
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Post: #78567 , Fri 6 Apr 07, 9:14PM |
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The pieces matched together slowly, at 12 I started liking guys a bit more than usual, at 13 I was in such confusion I became slightly depressed and left an all boys school to home education which I'm still in now and at the beginning of this year I had a long 4 hour chat with someone who had been through it and was bi and also in those few months began to get feelings for someone I had known since September last year, a bit of a distance but that's when I finally woke up out and a took a look in front of me what was happening, how I felt and what I feel and think I am!
Best Wishes,
FK xxx
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Post: #79060 , Tue 10 Apr 07, 3:16AM |
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:: Finch
:: QA3 Getting cosy | |
In the beginning.. back in 1992.. man didnt know about a gay guy named steven..
*rips off an awesome ACDC song*
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Post: #79069 , Tue 10 Apr 07, 4:01AM |
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I knew that i liked guys when i was about 12, but i also realized at that time that i liked girls too. because im attracted to both, i just denied part of myself, and embraced the "normal" part of me until i was 15. Now im 17, and still confused! Go figure. lol.
"To define, is to limit." -Oscar Wilde
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Post: #79086 , Tue 10 Apr 07, 4:21AM |
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I never really did. It sorta just snuck up on me and I was like "... WTF?!".
Your very own hospital room, stocked full of pills and needles.
Enough to keep you awake for hours, or asleep for days.
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Post: #79092 , Tue 10 Apr 07, 4:51AM |
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i suppose i have always sort of known but it would have been about 14 when i started to question, i then went into denial about it and basically only accepted it at the end of last year.
we always end up hurting the ones we supposedly love the most.
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Post: #79279 , Wed 11 Apr 07, 2:43PM |
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I still don't know 
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Post: #79284 , Wed 11 Apr 07, 3:28PM |
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:: Emserai
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
Well when I hit puberty I knew I was meant to start fancying guys but I didn't, instead i fanied girls. But I did a great job of brushing it well under the carpet, invening a few crushes to keep myself and everyone around me in the dark. Then when I was about 15 I couldn't brush it under the carpet anymore and it all went a bit wrong.
I really got comfortable and relaxed with it all at college over the last few months, but my parents still don't know.
Come to the edge. We might fall.
Come to the edge. It's too high!
Come to the edge, And they came,
And we pushed, And they flew.
- Christopher Logue
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Post: #79295 , Wed 11 Apr 07, 6:22PM |
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I was about 10 when I first started looking at girls, but it didn't mean anything to me really, I was always aware of Gay men but not Gay women really.
I was about 15 when it first occured to me I was Bi, even then, it still didn't ocur to me that people could LIVE going out with girls.
I met my first girlfriend when I was about 21, and the one problem I always had was I could never see living with a woman, shopping, socialising, being together etc, so that faded out until I was introduced to a gay scene and millions of gay people when I was 28, I had a girlfriend who I lived with for over a year, but best of all I discovered all this 
Which is the reason I am here, so old and decrepid, here with you lot who realised when you were 11 and stuff 
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Post: #79307 , Wed 11 Apr 07, 9:25PM |
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I'm only 17 and with all the people who have been joining recently I feel like I'm getting old already. I can only imagine how you feel, Lilac.
The mere impulse of appetite is slavery, while obedience to the law we prescribe to ourselves is liberty. - Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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Edit: Cloaked, Wed 11 Apr 07, 9:32PM
Post: #79309 , Wed 11 Apr 07, 9:31PM |
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I've known ever since I can remember. Its just never been any other way for me. I guess thats a good thing - I would have freaked out if a 'change' occured
I love you
Not only for what you are
But for what I am
When I am with you
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Post: #79321 , Wed 11 Apr 07, 11:20PM |
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I've always known. I always thought there was something about girls that I was attracted too and I remember telling one of my friends (for the first time addmiting it.. even though I WAS slightly unsure..) that I "thought another girl was pretty" this was when I was in year 7 (aged 11) and it was spread around the school that I was a lesbian. So I never mentioned it again because I guess I was scared. I finally came out about it at the end of year 9 (aged 14) after talking so deeply to my mest friend about it, she was amazing with me. Pretty much everyone knows now =]
*Smiles*
-Sian xxx
"Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle." - Amy Bloom
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Post: #79370 , Thu 12 Apr 07, 12:44PM |
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I knew when I was about 4 years old, or earlier. When I first met my friend Bryce, and seen his leather Jacket, I knew I was different than the other kids haha.
In kindergarten when everyone played boys chase girls, I always wanted the boys to chase me.. So I knew really early on.
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Post: #79716 , Sun 15 Apr 07, 6:24AM |
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:: PoloMan
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
I always knew i was diff. i like dolls and i iked clean clothes...though i hated baths???...anyway i KNEW in the third grade...when i was 8....That was the year i found my gay bros porn stash!!!LOL
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Post: #79725 , Sun 15 Apr 07, 7:56AM |
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All my life i knew i was different, but i merely dismissed as me being me i guess, i tried to fit in well with the other boys and i did, very well i managed to convinve everyone that i was straight even myself to a certain point, but i always had my doubts and it is only recently that i have come to realise my feelings and open up, xxxxxxxxxxxx
Who survives? you decide, but who decides you survive?
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Post: #79732 , Sun 15 Apr 07, 11:50AM |
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:: RTD2
:: QA3 Getting cosy | |
Erm when my friend and I cracked a joke at the two of us getting married, and then it all fell into place
Just because no one understands you, does NOT make you an artist.
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Post: #79758 , Sun 15 Apr 07, 5:18PM |
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I always showed signs of being gay as a child. However, I did not realize my sexual preferance until I was about 10-11 years old. I told one of my friends that I thought a certain actor was hot, and she told me she thought the same way about an actress, therefore we concluded that it was a phase of puberty. Now she's a lesbian and I'm gay.
"Class is dead darling, it died with the dinosaurs. It traded its white wine and pearls for a Myspace and some Corona. Welcome to the 21st century, would you like fries with that?"
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Post: #79760 , Sun 15 Apr 07, 5:21PM |
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I knew very early on. I was at least five when I realized I liked boys and didn't figure out that it was called being gay, until like 3rd Grade.
And looking back, I was a very (as my sister says: eccentric) boy. When I came out to her, she said, "Funny, I always said you were a boy version of me."
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Post: #79814 , Sun 15 Apr 07, 9:18PM |
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