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I just found outmy girlfriend is cheating on me with my best friend, and I'm absolutely crushed. Have any of you ever been cheated on, and if you have, how did you get over it?
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Post: #680076  , Fri 14 Sep 12, 11:58PM |
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Yep!
One time I was told and I was upset but got over it
Second time I found out on my own and ended the relationship
And When we first went out she never told meh she was still with he so called "ex" so I guess it was a total of three times she cheated on me in 5 months
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Post: #680077 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 12:03AM |
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I'm sorry... It really feels terrible, as I remember it. I felt inadequate and pathetic, but it took quite a long time to get over it. Now I guess I was kinda silly back then, because it has lost its significance in my life. I'm not one to tell you what to do, but maybe you need a break. (:
Edit: I forgot the part about what I did. Hmm, I cried a lot, a whole lot, and I spent lots of time alone in the woods. Then the sunlight came filtering through the leaves in the silence, and I let go. I really didn't do much, I just waited, but I guess the main thing that helped a lot was talking to a close friend/adult and analyzing it logically. Love can be blinding and irrational, but don't take it out on yourself because it is an unpredictable thing.
Violent delights...
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Edit: meowsandpurrs, Sat 15 Sep 12, 1:55AM
Post: #680096 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 1:52AM |
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:: Lynn
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Yeahhh I have been there. Really, I was super angry and then I felt guilty for being angry because she was crying so bad. To be honest, I don't think I have ever been as angry in my life as I was when I found out. Anyways, what I did was get out of the relationship and mope. NOW, what you should do is tell the both of them to kiss your ass and enjoy herpes... And then go paint balling or something. Really, the best thing to do is to fall back on your friends and do things that are good for you.
Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Love is the poetry of the senses. ~Honoré de Balzac
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Post: #680125 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 4:14AM |
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Yeah, and I didn't handle it all that well. That said, it couldn't have happened at a worse time (not that there would ever be a good time for that...). At first I handled it by being generally blue and blaming myself from time to time, then a friend snapped me out of it (albeit accidentally), and from there it was intense bike rides and running up mountains until I realised I was doing those things because I enjoyed them again and not to work off excess emotional baggage.
I'm a ratfish trying to practice doing back flips on your mattress.
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Post: #680143 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 9:38AM |
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Yeah I've been there. It sucks  . When I still thought I was straight my ex boyfriend (who I was then dating) was sleeping with his ex. I found out from a friend and I dropped his ass and that was pretty much it. He was a jerk for going behind my back like that and I wanted nothing to do with him. It hurts but I eventually got over it.
To see us dance is to hear our hearts speak- Hopi Indian saying
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Post: #680145 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 9:44AM |
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Yep it's happened to me and she posted a picture of her kissing her "friend"(who happened to be bisexual) , and told me it was only a bit of fun and that it was a joke , but i did not find it that funny :/ and i found out she been telling her ex that she would rather be with her than me :/ and she said she was lying to her ex :/ she keeps coming up with excuses that I'm not believing one bit , I've not broken up with her because i can't cope with questions from my parents and them telling me they knew it was a phase because i hate that! plus I'm scared if she got angry enough she could out me to my friends , because only most of my family know , and none of my friends at school, so i am sorta stuck with her until she gets bored of me and dumps me
A drop in the ocean,
a change in the weather,
i was praying that you and me might end up together
its like wishing for rain as i stand in the desert
but im holding you closer than most
cause you are my heaven xx
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Post: #680146 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 9:59AM |
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:: Kuuipo
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I dunno if you'd call this cheating but I was with someone for like 9 months then found out for the last 2 months of our relationship she was looking for someone else but didn't want to get rid of me until she was sure she had someone else, ha.
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Post: #680156 , Sat 15 Sep 12, 1:49PM |
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