:: Marina367
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
I just told my parents that I'm bisexual and wow i don't know what to feel. They seem okay but also they seem to think that because I am only 15 that means I can't really know what I am.
My mom kept saying that it will change and vary, she thinks I'm just going through a phase. She's saying that I'm a teenager and I'm just attracted to everyone.
And my dad just said "You're 15, how do you know what you are?"
Its like they don't think this is real, they think I'm just bi-curious. But I KNOW without a doubt that I'm bisexual and I even prefer girls. Ugh, this isn't what I expected at all. I know they'll eventually accept it but right now I'm not confident they understand how possible it is that I am going to marry a woman. Ugh I need advice.
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Post: #674659  , Tue 14 Aug 12, 1:06AM |
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Just tell them what I told them a few minutes ago xD
Tell them you are what you are and if you get married with a woman, it was your heart's choice. Cuz love is love. If they don't like it, give it time...it'll sink in.
Btw, my parents are totally okay with my coming out :3 but I had to explain it to them slowly and carefully proving my point. And telling them 'I don't care if they're a girl, a guy, a trans or anything else! They're human and I love them? I love em and that's it. And I don't expect your approval.' But formally, not in a 'U WANNA PIECE OF ME?!' tone xD
GAY MARRIAGE
or as I like to call it MARRIAGE
Cuz I ate lunch today, not GAY LUNCH
And I watched television, I didn't GAY WATCH IT.
So marriage? It's a human right, not an heterosexual priviledge.
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Post: #674668 , Tue 14 Aug 12, 1:12AM |
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:: Marina367
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
that makes sense but it just sucks because I want them to take what I'm saying seriously.. my dad just thinks I'm too young to know. If I had told them I was a lesbian I assure you they would have just been like, oh okay
im biromantic homosexual..ughh they don't get that the chances of me marrying a guy is much less than of me marrying a girl..ugh
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Post: #674671 , Tue 14 Aug 12, 1:16AM |
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Then tell them that!
I told them what was in my mind. They understood clearly.
Sure, I didn't tell them that I have penisphobia, but I did assure them that I could end up with a girl.
GAY MARRIAGE
or as I like to call it MARRIAGE
Cuz I ate lunch today, not GAY LUNCH
And I watched television, I didn't GAY WATCH IT.
So marriage? It's a human right, not an heterosexual priviledge.
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Post: #674677 , Tue 14 Aug 12, 1:20AM |
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:: Marina367
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
omg i literally have that too...biggest problem with the idea of me marrying a man
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Post: #674680 , Tue 14 Aug 12, 1:22AM |
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I would marry this guy I know from my church...But I would NEVER let a guy see me naked or anything like that...
GAY MARRIAGE
or as I like to call it MARRIAGE
Cuz I ate lunch today, not GAY LUNCH
And I watched television, I didn't GAY WATCH IT.
So marriage? It's a human right, not an heterosexual priviledge.
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Post: #675703 , Sat 18 Aug 12, 2:54PM |
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I'm not trying to say that you don't know who you are or what your orientation is, but I think it's worth pointing out that a lot of younger people question their sexuality (and/or gender), and change how they label themselves over time. Obviously, there are also plenty of people your age who identify now the way they will identify for the rest of their life.
It's great that your parents haven't made a big deal of your coming out, and I understand that it's frustrating that they don't seem to have taken you seriously. But just because it's frustrating, doesn't mean it isn't understandable.
It probably took you a little while to realise and come to terms with the idea of being bi, right? Your parents will need some time to get used to it too. And one of the things that they're going to be thinking about as they're sorting through their thoughts to get to grips with the ides is the fact that there are teenagers who come out as gay or bi- or even who identify as straight- and then use an entirely different label in 2, 3, 5 years time.
Basically, try not to be angry at them- at least for now- and give them a bit of time to adjust
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Post: #675711 , Sat 18 Aug 12, 4:09PM |
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It took a lot of courage for you to come out to your parents. That said, your parent's reaction of thinking you're 'too young' or my favorite 'its just a phase' is simply their own difficulty with understanding and accepting of any sexual orientation other then heterosexuality, rather than a difficulty with your personal sexuality. I think even if you were 100% into boys they would still have issues with you being a sexual person. Most people don't understand that being LGBT isn't just about sex. It's hard for parents to see that. Try to see your parent's point of view, too. I know it's hard.
No one ever says "you're too young to know" when you're straight! To me that's quite a double standard, but I suppose it has to do with societies views LGBTQ youth and sexuality. There is still a lot of misinformation and I'm sure your parents just need time to let what you told them sink in.
Stay strong.  
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Post: #675748 , Sat 18 Aug 12, 7:13PM |
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:: Zolin
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
I know exactly what you're feeling like. I came out to my mother (my only living parent) when I was 15 too. And I told her I was bi, and that I was dating this boy. She was like... fine!
That's what she said, she said she respected my choice but that she couldn't be sure of what I wanted. I let it be. Now she ignores the fact that I'm bi, but since I haven't had anything serious I just let it be for the sake of peace.
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Post: #675751 , Sat 18 Aug 12, 7:28PM |
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