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Topic: Is he... is he gay?
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There is this guy, and I really truly think he is gay. I'm not the only one. He keeps on having conversations with his best friend (also my best friend) about who he would turn for:
Like today we asked him who he'd turn for out of teachers and he comfortably answered with this teacher, that all the 4 other girls and I (in my head) agreed was not that, that attractive. He says he would 'turn' for All Time Low... hmmm...
He also said to my best friend, and to my face earlier that he would NOT turn for me... where is all this coming from?!?! While we were talking about these hot guys, I saw his face kinda light up and he had an sincere smile and showed thorough enjoyment!
Intriguing, I can seriously imagine him being gay. I don't think hes just 'a straight guy comfortable with talking about boys'... I dont know, I dont know if I should maybe talk to him or...
Interviewer: According to you, the girls run the world - but what do you think about the girls and the gays teaming up and running the world together?
Beyoncé: Well, that's what I meant when I said girls. (Laughs)
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Post: #664528  , Mon 9 Jul 12, 7:05PM |
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You'll just have to ask. You have your suspicions and your intuition is telling you that he is, but you'll never really know unless you ask.
I'm as straight as a rainbow
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Post: #664534 , Mon 9 Jul 12, 8:23PM |
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This type of situation really leads us to question our definition of "gay" and "straight", as well as how we determine if someone is either. If you're straight, convention tells us that you're only attracted to the opposite sex and can't understand attraction toward the same sex. In which case discussing who you'd "turn" for immediately makes you non-straight, at the very least. And discussing which people of the same-sex you find attractive has to make you at least a little gay 
Just a side note, does it really matter? Maybe for his well-being it'd be nice for him to know whether he were gay or not, but that's something that he should be able to figure out for himself. Maybe you could discuss this with him?
"I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated 'all my homosexual patients are quite sick'—to which I finally replied 'so are all my heterosexual patients'." -Ernest van den Haag, psychotherapist
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Edit: winnersmw, Mon 9 Jul 12, 9:01PM
Post: #664540 , Mon 9 Jul 12, 9:00PM |
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Don't talk to him about it! If it comes up then fine. But don't make a big deal out of it. That'll be so awkward for him if he is straight.
(Insert Short Non-Distracting Text)
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Post: #664607 , Tue 10 Jul 12, 2:49AM |
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@Cameron, I had that thought before I suggested he talk to him about it, but then I figured that being gay isn't an insult and he shouldn't be insulted at the question of whether he is or not.
Still, that doesn't change the fact that he might be insulted even though he shouldn't be. Weight the pros and cons, Shak 
"I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated 'all my homosexual patients are quite sick'—to which I finally replied 'so are all my heterosexual patients'." -Ernest van den Haag, psychotherapist
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Post: #664621 , Tue 10 Jul 12, 3:22AM |
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I totally agree it isn't anything to be ashamed of, but I am just looking out for Shak. I'm trying to give my advice diplomatically. Because on the other hand, if he is comfortable talking about guys, it may not be awks for him.
(Insert Short Non-Distracting Text)
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Post: #664626 , Tue 10 Jul 12, 3:36AM |
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I see what y'all mean, but hes not one of those really defensive guys about being gay! Im just waiting to see if he comes out...
At the end of the day, not everyone is as accepting of thereselves at my age... and most people do deny their sexuality as a defense mechanism so...
Interviewer: According to you, the girls run the world - but what do you think about the girls and the gays teaming up and running the world together?
Beyoncé: Well, that's what I meant when I said girls. (Laughs)
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Post: #665009 , Wed 11 Jul 12, 6:47PM |
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