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Topic: Trigger warnings?
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
I don't know if I'm the only one, maybe I am. But I feel like maybe there should be an option in the account settings or something that lets you 'block' certain words, so the posts don't show up, or something.
I don't know how to explain it, like when people post topics that have to do with self harm/eating disorders, maybe there should be a trigger warning or something..
Like it's cool if you post a blog about your struggles, but when there's a thread about it just labelled 'cutting' I find it super triggering, even if it's just one word.
I'm trying to get over self hate and what comes with it and seeing posts like that, I find it super hard too. I know you mean well, and aren't trying to cause any trouble with it, and maybe I'm the only one bothered by it.
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Post: #661458  , Fri 29 Jun 12, 5:35PM |
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:: grum
:: QA Staff (Founder) | |
When you say 'trigger', do you mean that it makes you want to cut too? To keep yourself away from that, is part of the solution to avoid related material (discussions, etc)?
It's an interesting point. I'm coming to think that we do need some way of filtering the things that we don't want to see (there'd be no such functionality, necessarily, for us staff though, ha).
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Edit: grum, Fri 29 Jun 12, 6:19PM
Post: #661462 , Fri 29 Jun 12, 6:13PM |
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:: RyRyPanda
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
i find this useful. It would help people block things that they find upsetting or like you stated things that might set them off a bit.
i personally would enjoy it cuz i could avoid all the dumb game forums. =3=
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Post: #661468 , Fri 29 Jun 12, 6:34PM |
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:: Justhere
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Yeah, I get how that would be a trigger for some people.
Personally, I feel like it helps me when I talk with other people who've gone through the same thing as me. But that's just another unnecessary fact about moi. 
It would be cool to be able to block stuff you don't want to see or aren't interested in. 
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Post: #661507 , Fri 29 Jun 12, 10:02PM |
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I've seen other sites where it's standard practice where anything that could possibly be triggering has a "trigger warning" so people know it may be triggering and can avoid it if they feel necessary.
people would just put "trigger warning" in the blog/post title.
I think that's a good idea.
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Post: #661509 , Fri 29 Jun 12, 10:09PM |
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I agree with you there, having those things rubbed in your face when you're trying to get over them is not helpful
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Post: #661735 , Sun 1 Jul 12, 1:40AM |
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
Maybe even just having something like when you're creating a blog post that you have to click that'll filter the post of something.
Anything would be helpful so the posts labeled "cutting {etc{" won't show up in the hottalk or something.
I dunno T_T
I just find it super hard to be on QA when I see them.
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Post: #661901 , Sun 1 Jul 12, 5:16PM |
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:: benjn
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
I have found some of the posts that I've read on QA triggering and I guess it would be nice to have a warning, but different people are "triggered" by different things so I'm not sure how you'd profile a triggering post. Maybe if when someone writes a post they could tick a box or whatever if they think their post could trigger some people?
"Be what you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." Dr Seuss
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Post: #661919 , Sun 1 Jul 12, 6:42PM |
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:: thisway
:: QA Staff (Administrator) | |
Guys, we think this is a pretty promising and sensible idea, and we are going to look at ways of pursuing it.
Just to let you know though, like all other new features and developments we've got in mind, there won't be any until the next major version of the site (QA5), so don't expect anything straight away.
Thanks for the suggestion Dylan
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Post: #661927 , Sun 1 Jul 12, 7:11PM |
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
Thank you so much for taking it into consideration. I appreciate it so much! c:
"The past can hurt. You can either run from it or learn from it." ~Rafiki
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
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Edit: Kuuipo, Sun 1 Jul 12, 10:19PM
Post: #661975 , Sun 1 Jul 12, 10:18PM |
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I'm kind of the same way with the triggers... Like, if I see something about eating disorders or weight loss, I start feeling guilty whenever I eat and it upsets me... :/
The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry. -Ernest Hemingway
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Post: #662412 , Tue 3 Jul 12, 3:55AM |
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Lately, it has gotten to the point where I am pretty afraid to even come on this site anymore. It's been becoming a psychological mine field.
This is a topic that really needs to be addressed. Many of us here are self injurers, or "cutters". As most of us are aware, when a SIer is trying to recover, the slightest thing could set them back. So the topic here is sensitivity. When you post a topic, think it out. I am not trying to point fingers or offend anyone, because I know that right now you need someone to reach out to. There is nothing wrong with that. I just want you to remember there is someone else out there as well who is fighting this, and remember that while they don't have to read and be triggered by what is written in your post, they can read the title of the topic.
Another thing to keep in mind is whether or not what you are posting is better as a Forum Topic, or whether it should be a blog. Remember, blogs are for rants and such where you don't have any answer in specific you want back or a question being asked. Forums are a place for discussion. Where you ask a question, or bring up a topic you want to talk with people about like a video or politics or something like that. People can still talk to you and help you out in blogs.
So, forum or blog we need to find a way to make QA a safer place. There needs to be some discretion when coming up with a title. Some of these titles have been very very.. vivid. Suicide and cutting are really sensitive topics and need to be handled with sensitivity.
Let's work together here, and come up with a better way to handle this. Maybe a code word? Maybe a forum specific for venting about these issues? Maybe a [T] at the start of the title to help those who could be triggered avoid reading it?
For example "[T] I don't know what to do". A title like this is less triggering, has a warning, and offers a hint that you are experiencing some troubles.
Environment can be everything to an SIer. I am thinking of going and starting a Topic for people to talk and reach out, so maybe the number of triggering forums appearing in the Recents and Homepage and be less.
Anyone else have ideas? What can we do to make QA safer for people who are a bit sensitive or recovering?
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Post: #667062 , Wed 18 Jul 12, 2:52AM |
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I would support that. I don't have this problem and I don't know anyone IRL who does, so I'm not going to pretend I know anything about it, but even for me, seeing those topics makes me feel down and not want to come on this site.
A certain format for the title might be a good idea, better than having to have a separate section for them. A title that doesn't actually spell it outright, but indicates it's that type of topic. I like the idea of the [t] or some other code mark.
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Edit: Merovingian, Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:37AM
Post: #667067 , Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:14AM |
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This will sound very insensitive (it's not meant to be) but I am a former cutter so I have been there. I never got "triggered" by seeing anything about self injury. Why would that make anyone hurt themselves? And I was cutting pretty badly too, so it's not because it wasn't a severe enough case. My "triggers" were things that happened in my daily life. I believe people should be able to talk about cutting on here so they can get support. I know I always try to talk to people who are going through that when I see them post about it.
Also, that doesn't make SIers feel very welcome when you say seeing those topics makes you want to not log on. As I recall, some people were saying QA is less of a family. Wouldn't you help your family members through self injury? I wouldn't want to hush them up.
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Edit: Autumn1492, Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:24AM
Post: #667074 , Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:23AM |
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I am writing out a topic post right now with a [T] in it and maybe it can help set off a movement. The more people use a sort of warning or rating like the [T] the more it might catch on and help to make this an emotionally safer place.
The post I am making I figure could be an advice or "Ask Auntie" type where people confess how they are feeling and can reach out for help.
Its okay not to know anything about it, and I get what you mean by depressing. I've had days where I came on here to talk and distract myself and end up in a worse mood because there was a rather blatant title.
I recently relapsed after 9 months free, and having my safe place full of triggers is making me stressed. This is like home to me, its a place that I feel safe from things that hurt me and where I know there are people who accept me. I am starting to feel a bit homeless with it like this and I wonder if others are too.
I think that lately its come to be a realization in a lot of our minds that this is a bit of a weak spot for everyone and we need a solution that works out for all of us.
Yeah they talk about her She smiles like shes so tough She says "hey can you talk a little louder, I don't think my heart is broken enough"
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Post: #667078 , Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:28AM |
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I would full support the [T] if not for one small variable: what is considered triggering? For some, it is the posts about self-harm. For others, it is posts about abuse or assault. Then for a few it might be posts about relationships. My point is not to disregard your concern, only to point out a small glitch. Who is to say that after kick starting this plan, every post won't have a [T] in the title?
I want to apologize for your hesitation when visiting the forums. I know I speak for all the staff when I say the last thing we want is for people to feel discouraged from posting or viewing any of our material. I also have to speak for the other half of this issue, which is the people posting these topics. As a recovering person, I imagine one wants to stay as far away from these topics as possible. Yet the person posting them might really need help from other members. Where is the middle line?
I'm all for a reminder that titles that to be specific, but not graphic. A reminder to all members to keep other people in mind while posting is not a bad idea either. However, I don't know that keeping members from posting their true feelings is a good idea either. After all, we encourage members to be themselves and express freely.
The topic idea is a start, but once that topic no longer appears on member's homepages, they may not know about it and start their own topic. In addition, some people have very specific ways they need to reach out, and a general forum for all reaching out isn't really fair to members who have more specific questions.
Again, I do not mean to shoo away your feelings as I completely stand behind your idea. I just have some hesitations with the methods.
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Edit: dancerkayla, Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:35AM
Post: #667079 , Wed 18 Jul 12, 3:31AM |
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Personally, I love the idea of trigger warnings. Always have. Maybe it'd be something to post under the Post Rules that if you're posting potentially triggering content, it's necessary to add a trigger warning as common courtesy and then linking to a list of potentially triggering topics. Just an idea. I know that figuring out a way to execute getting trigger warnings to be general knowledge is difficult. I guess I'm just used to them from forums I posted on back in my early teens and from blogging now.
Here's a pretty good list of topics that some people may find triggering. http://privilege101.tumblr.com/triggers.html
Maybe it's a place to start?
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Post: #667100 , Wed 18 Jul 12, 4:21AM |
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Maybe there could be like, a check box so you can check it if there are triggers in your post? 
The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry. -Ernest Hemingway
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Post: #667368 , Thu 19 Jul 12, 1:01AM |
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There maybe one small benefit, if you can get over and out of it with people talking about it you would end up a lot stronger and less likely than just blocking it out.
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Post: #667369 , Thu 19 Jul 12, 1:05AM |
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
But for the people still struggling it's hard. I haven't cut is some time, and I'm getting better with what triggers me. But seeing post specifically labeled with the words "cut or cutting" in them. It's so hard for me. It's a big trigger and I haven't been able to get over it, even just setting a rule or something to use self harm or SH instead of cutting/cut.
But again, that's just me, and I know there are a lot of people on here that have dealt with or that are still dealing with self harm and having triggers on a site we come to for support is super hard.
"The past can hurt. You can either run from it or learn from it." ~Rafiki
“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” ~Dr. Seuss
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