So, I know that if you're on this website, you probably won't be thinking of having children for a very long time. But I want to know what you'r views are. If you were in a same-sex marriage/long-term relationship and were seriously considering having a child, how would you do it? Would you, as a woman, get artificially inseminated, or, as a man, have a surrogate mother? Or would you adopt?
I personally think that there are enough homeless, parentless children in this world that I don't need to go out of my way to have another one. Also, I don't want to be pregnant. Having something... inside of me... creeps me out. Probably why I don't like dick...
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Post: #661193  , Thu 28 Jun 12, 9:59AM |
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:: Twiggey
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I would love to adopt a child cause they need a family and it would be weird having someone else with my kid I'd feel bad taking it of her since she carried it for 9months sometimes I dream of being adopted by famous people the most recent Louis Tomlinson from one direction 
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Post: #661195 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 10:03AM |
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:: Jayne04H
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I used to have this really strange idea of insemination, but almost like a surrogate, so technically it would be my baby but my future wife would actually get pregnant and have it. I used to think that would be better as you could say it's both of yours, but that would be really expensive, complicated and selfish. I don't want to get pregnant but i want the baby to be mine..?
Anyway, that idea's now gone  But i would still like the idea of her getting pregnant, so probably still insemination. I don't have a problem adopting, so if they didn't want to get pregnant either then i would adopt.
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Post: #661203 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 11:03AM |
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:: Volke
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surrogate mother, I feel bad but i really want my kids to be related to me by blood.
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Post: #661211 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 1:21PM |
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I'm not sure if I could bear the responsibility of having children at all, at the minute. It used to be a dream of mine, and I guess it will always be a possible future, but as I get older it's begun to dawn on me that maybe I wouldn't be a great father.
But if I was going to have a child with a man, I would probably get a surrogate mother. Maybe I'd adopt as well.
And if it was with a woman - well, yeah, that one's pretty easy to figure out.
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Post: #661218 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 1:53PM |
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:: Falconfly
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Adoption, defenitely. To bring a child to this world while others suffer in orphanages is selfish and stupid.
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Post: #661224 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 2:48PM |
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Definitely adoption. Even if I was with a man I'd want to adopt instead of having babies of my own. I just think it's a good deed done saving poor kids who have no parents and besides the world is packed with people already anyway.
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Post: #661232 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 4:22PM |
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Honestly, I would want my child to be my own, so I would probably seek a surrogate. It's natural to want your children to be biologically related to you and I have even more desire because I'm an only child and thus being gay, I would otherwise end the bloodline 
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Post: #661234 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 4:38PM |
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I would personally see what my partner would want to do. I'd prefer to adopt tho. There are so many abandoned kids in the world who need a home.
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Post: #661236 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 4:48PM |
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I doubt I would EVER want a child, but if for SOME REASON I ever change my mind, I would want a surrogate.
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Post: #661256 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 6:05PM |
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If I was with a girl and she wanted to have biological kids, I'd be all for it--as long as she was the one being pregnant. Yeah I know, selfish bitch of me and all. But I do NOT want to be pregnant or give birth. If she was okay with it, more power to her. But if neither of us wanted to be pregnant, I'd just say adopt.
I'm terrified of being a awful parent, but I actually really do want to have kids. :3
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Post: #661278 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 8:19PM |
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Adoption, but it has very little to do with being gay.
First and foremost, my genes are terrible. I would not want to pass them on just to hold up some silly sentimentality.
Secondly, I feel I would be doing a small favor to the world by not bringing in another life when there are lives without parents.
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Post: #661309 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 11:36PM |
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I'd love to be a biological father...but that's not going to happen.
As of right now, I don't have the funds to freeze (or whatever the damn procedure's called) my eggs/ovaries(?)- so, adoption is what I'm looking at in the future.
If my future partner is able to and wants to have a child- I suppose we'll go for it. But mostly I really want to adopt 
follow your gut. Or your heart. Whichever is talking loudest.
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Post: #661312 , Thu 28 Jun 12, 11:43PM |
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Adoption
1. I could not deal with the guilt of knowing someone had to deal with having a child and leaving it solely for me.
2. World has enough people.
3. I am genetically a horror.
4. Parental instincts kick in around all kids weather they are related to me or not.
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Post: #661400 , Fri 29 Jun 12, 5:18AM |
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I would probably look in to both with a bit more detail but if i have the money, I think a surrogate would my first option but i wouldn't ever rule out adoption as well
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Post: #661421 , Fri 29 Jun 12, 12:38PM |
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Adoption . I've been planning on adopting since I was little. Having the complications that I have it'd be hard for me to safely have a child anyway without being on bed rest and such . But that's okay cos I don't want to deal with the pain anyway .
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Post: #678119 , Thu 30 Aug 12, 9:38PM |
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For me its all about the surrogates. Its a trauma trying to work it, but I'd want the child to be mine. I dont know why, it must be instinctual, but thats how I feel
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Post: #678121 , Thu 30 Aug 12, 9:47PM |
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On one hand: I wanna adopt because you're giving a home to a kid that really needs one.
On the other hand: My brother's adopted and I have seen first hand the messed-upness of adopted kids. They can be very hard to live with.
So I dunno, will cross that bridge when I get to it
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Post: #678122 , Thu 30 Aug 12, 9:54PM |
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I really want to give birth to a baby someday, but I like the idea of adoption too. Since I plan on having at least two kids, maybe I could do both.
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Post: #678140 , Fri 31 Aug 12, 12:49AM |
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I do believe that adoption would be best. There are so many kids who need parents. A parent is not someone who shares your DNA. A parent is someone who looks after you and raises you to be a person. That's what a parent is. When there are so many kids who need homes that don't have any, I think that adoption is the only logical way to go. Besides, there are many young women who become pregnant and don't want the child. LGBTQ couples can adopt from them so it's a win-win.
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Post: #678143 , Fri 31 Aug 12, 1:06AM |
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