I just recently joined QA here. I was sure for a while that I was bisexual, but I'm unsure. I know some people think that because I'm 13 I don't know what I'm talking about, but I know that my feelings are changing towards men and women. I've noticed that with guys I usually feel more like friends or siblings and with women I've been becoming more attracted to them in romantic and sexual aspects. I still have some feeling for guys, but I can't quite decipher what it is. I'm so confused... Can anybody help?
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Post: #655899  , Mon 11 Jun 12, 9:16PM |
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Hi. Well, all I have to say is, it's kind of the same for me.
I'm probably a...4 or 5 on the Kinsey scale, but some, not all men are still attractive, even sexually.
It might take a bit for your hormones to calm down enough for you to decipher what you really are looking for, but once it does, you'll know.
And being bisexual isn't all that bad. I'm starting to wonder if I might be, but I'm still not sure and I'm 18!
Our bodies don't seem to know genders. They just know love, and that's how it should be. 
I hope this kinda helped. If you need any more advice, just ask or PM me. I'm pretty sure I can help.
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Post: #655907 , Mon 11 Jun 12, 9:29PM |
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thanks much
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Post: #655908 , Mon 11 Jun 12, 9:31PM |
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No prob.
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Post: #655913 , Mon 11 Jun 12, 9:38PM |
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Well, no one can tell you what or who you are except for you. So only you can know how you feel.
I was in your shoes once. I didn't know how I felt about my sexual orientation. I kind of took bisexual as my label for a while. As I grew and matured I discovered I was a lesbian (with the exception of Dean Dobbs, of course!) but that may not be the case with you. Maybe you turn out to be bisexual. Maybe you turn out to be homosexual. Maybe you even turn out to be straight. Maybe you're pansexual or demisexual. Maybe you end up transgendered. Who knows?
I know it can get really frustrating, not knowing who you are when you need to know who you are before you can help anyone else. I know it probably drives you insane and you write in your journal about it never-ending-ly or you try and pray 24/7 or you always bring this up when you are with your friends or something. I know it is hard.
Right now you are at a point in your life where you are starting to come to terms with what you want, what you are, and who you are. And it is important. I'm not going to say you're just confused, because I know that is my biggest pet peeve; however, I will say that you shouldn't try to label yourself so much. We fall in love with who we fall in love with, so why should we have to label that?
I'm not saying it's not important to think about it and to try to discover who you are, but don't let it get to you so much that you lose sight of all of the other things that make you a wonderful, special, unique person.
Well, I hope the best for you and if you EVER need advice or just wanna talk, PM me, k?
What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special.
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Edit: Whitney, Mon 11 Jun 12, 9:49PM
Post: #655914 , Mon 11 Jun 12, 9:39PM |
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thank you so much that really was helpful
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Post: #655933 , Mon 11 Jun 12, 10:38PM |
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No problem. And like I said, if you ever need more advice, I'm always glad to help
What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special.
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Post: #655934 , Mon 11 Jun 12, 10:39PM |
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You could be bisexual and have a preference towards women. Nothing to be ashamed about. You have feelings towards men, but your sexual attractions towards women are just stronger.
I have that too, I prefer women, but I like men
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Post: #657834 , Tue 19 Jun 12, 12:25AM |
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thx that's always an option
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Post: #659243 , Fri 22 Jun 12, 3:53PM |
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Well, I am basically in the same boat.
I'm 13 and bisexual, but I think I'm leaning a little more toward women.
It might take some time for you to really figure out who you like, but there's no rush. Have you had any relationships with girls? Any with boys? How did you feel about it?
Its really up to you if you can't figure it out now, you will know in time.
"the world would be boring without some measure of insanity" -unknown
"Don't ever bully anyone cause you know what? Karma has everybody's address and a motherf*cking stamp!"
-Lady Gaga
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Post: #659244 , Fri 22 Jun 12, 4:01PM |
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thanks I've had about two really close relationships with guys I broke up with them because they were more like friends and one really close relationship with a girl but we broke up due to her confusion over dating a girl and she asked me back out a week later....Two days after that she broke up with me for her ex-boyfriend and it hurt like heck but was good while it lasted :/ I've had several crushes on girls that were straight or in a relationship.
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Edit: helpb4imdone4, Sat 23 Jun 12, 7:25AM
Post: #659514 , Sat 23 Jun 12, 7:23AM |
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I was like that for years, I wasn't sure if I was bisexual or a lesbian. I found that once I stopped stressing about the actual title of my sexuality (I would've killed for a test that told me definitely that I was one or the other) I became more comfortable in myself. I still second guess myself though I'm 19, but just like who you like and don't worry if its not exactly 50/50 men and women. Nothing is straight forward and you have plenty of time to figure yourself out
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Post: #659578 , Sat 23 Jun 12, 2:59PM |
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thx much your all so helpful
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Post: #659822 , Sun 24 Jun 12, 4:42AM |
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