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I know most people say they have always been gay, (not always since they popped from the vag, but since very young). I have known, but not accepted, I was gay for AAAAAGES! years and years and years and years! A decade probably! haha
But I was just wondering is there anyone that was actually perfectly straight, and became gay through sexual contact with a male/female, or just a change?
There are people out there!  And for those of you who think you have always been gay, why do y'all think so?!
I distinctivly remember having vivid dreams about men... disturbing images looking back, considering my age and the level of sexual-ness they contained haha!
But what about you! Always been gay, or sprouted at a later age?
Interviewer: According to you, the girls run the world - but what do you think about the girls and the gays teaming up and running the world together?
Beyoncé: Well, that's what I meant when I said girls. (Laughs)
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Post: #655074  , Fri 8 Jun 12, 10:32PM |
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Very young... 3 was when it first began. If you watch the YouTube collab and you watch my how I came out to myself video then you shall have your answer as to why  .
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Post: #655078 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 10:39PM |
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:: XlobX
:: QA8 High Householder | |
I was 100% sure that I was straight until I was about 14. At the time, I had lots of sexual feelings for women and none for men, although, one could argue that these feeling were not as fully developed as they are now, or as well explored.
Now, I am bisexual with a strong tendency towards boys. I might even be gay... Not sure yet...
Like I say, maybe I was never truly straight in the way that I am now bi/gay. For example, my straight crushes were nothing compared to more recent gay crushes.
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Post: #655084 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 10:48PM |
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:: jacob!
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
I knew I was different and often tried to suppress it and I was homophobic I felt that strongly about not being gay and I accepted it when I was 15 before then I was adamant I was Bi! And back then I was stupid! But yeah, I was never normal.
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Post: #655088 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:00PM |
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I've always been gay, I just thought that I was straight. Once I realized I was gay, everything I had felt about certain girls in the past made sense.
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Post: #655093 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:12PM |
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Yeah I got yelled at for kissing a girl in fourth year so I straight-acted and convinced myself I was straight (without knowing the terms) until the summer between freshman and sophomore year when I realised I liked a girl and I finally was like: "yup, Hannah, you're a lesbian" and I got over it about 7 months later.
To see us dance is to hear our hearts speak- Hopi Indian saying
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Post: #655099 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:24PM |
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I'm sure I've always been on the gay spectrum. But I think for the most part my sexuality and romantic attraction are very fluid. c: So, that being said, my identity has changed as time went on too.
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Post: #655100 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:27PM |
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:: Loki
:: QA3 Getting cosy | |
I really admitted to myself that I was bi just after I turned 14, but looking back I kind of realize that I probably always was interested in girls. For example, when I was really young, my best friend (who was a girl) and I would play this game where we would sit across from each other, and try to lean as close as possible without actually kissing, and then we would quickly pull away and act really grossed out. Even back then I remember not understanding why it should bother me to be that close to a girl.
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Post: #655102 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:31PM |
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Admitting you're gay is the hardest part!
Interviewer: According to you, the girls run the world - but what do you think about the girls and the gays teaming up and running the world together?
Beyoncé: Well, that's what I meant when I said girls. (Laughs)
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Post: #655111 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:46PM |
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:: Ruti
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
I didn't realise that I was gay until I was nineteen
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Post: #655117 , Fri 8 Jun 12, 11:59PM |
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:: Inch
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
Mm, I don't really think "contact with a man/woman" can change you from straight to gay any more than I think corrective rape makes gay people straight. However, something can make you realize you're gay, or even make you realize you're straight after you thought you were gay.
Personally, I pushed myself to like boys from a very young age. Probably the influence of one of my more... emotionally unstable friends from back then, who taught the young, impressionable me that having crushes on boys is the most important thing on the planet.
Of course, this was all before I even knew homosexuality was a thing, and it was all very forced. I think maybe one of my supposed crushes involved any level of emotional attraction. Maybe.
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Post: #655121 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 12:13AM |
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Honestly, I think it all depends on the person. I thought I was straight my entire life. I remember when I was a kid I made fun of Elton John when I found out that he was gay, it made me a little uncomfortable. But now that I think back on things, things before I figured out I was a lesbian, I remember events and experiences that I had, or crushes. With everything that I have experienced and learned now with the knowledge that I have at this moment, it makes a whole lot more sense to me.
When I was figuring things out I didn't really have a big denial stage, the only thing I remember denying was that being gay was wrong. Once I went through the experience of coming out to myself, I realized that there was nothing I could do to prevent such a thing so in turn, there was no possible way it could be wrong.
I don't necessarily think that my experiences are what made me gay, I think that my experiences just helped me realize more about myself to make different decisions and then I chose the right path to self discovery.
" A weed is a plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered "
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Post: #655126 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 12:25AM |
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I agree with Inch that contact with the same gender doesn't change your sexuality. But I will say that it may make discover something about yourself that you didn't realise before.
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Post: #655153 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 2:07AM |
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I'm not sure exactly. I think for most of my life, being straight was just 'who you were', you know? I didn't know any different so I never really questioned it. I definitely was attracted to girls (as well as guys) when I hit puberty-ish. It wasn't until high school, though that I really started to question whether or not I was straight. I knew I wasn't gay, cause, well I LOVE boys. But, I knew I was most definitely not straight!
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Post: #655160 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 2:30AM |
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No, I don't think I've ever been straight. I tried to convince myself I was straight for the longest time, but in the back of my head, I always knew. Even when I was younger, I'd have crazy feelings for certain girls. Because I was young, I was certain it wasn't a real crush - just something strange, and eventually when I "grew up" I'd have my first real crush on a guy. Those moments never came though, and so finally I've realized that I've just been gay my entire life, and that's that.
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Post: #655182 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 4:36AM |
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Any thoughts that you were what you are not, as powerful as they may have been, are a basic human coping mechanism. You really don't switch what you are at some age, it is set in stone before motor functions.
Unless you have some magic brain that can retroactively change physiological developments, you are and always have been what you will always be.
http://scienceandreason.blogsp...osexuality.html
The part about the brain symmetry (something that is already in stone before you exit the womb) was actually noted by Nazi scientists during autopsies as well. So it shouldn't even be news just because we can see it in a living person now. But yeah, that's about as evident as something can get for proof.
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Post: #655222 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 8:52AM |
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:: Raven
:: QA3 Getting cosy | |
I definitely thought I was straight until I was about 11 or 12. But I believe I've always been gay, I just didn't know
I thought I fancied a boy in primary school. Looking back, actually it was that after a long period of dislike, he was becoming a nicer person and I was starting to like him in a friendly way. Confused that with a crush, because everyone else had their 'crushes' and I felt left out!
When I was about 11/12, I did notice that all my friends were oggling over boyband posters and boys in general, but I just wasn't interested in boys. I preferred staring at the posters of female singers/actresses
I thought I would be more interested when I got older, just an age thing. But after a while I made the leap from how I felt, to the word lesbian. Which was scary! And I didn't accept that for sooo long. But it just makes everything, I don't know, slot into place? It makes sense now
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Edit: Raven, Sat 9 Jun 12, 9:46AM
Post: #655229 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 9:45AM |
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:: xXGarXx
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
Well I have always been gay I believe. I thought I liked girls when I was younger and just knew what I was “supposed to like”. Like I thought Britney Spears was hot, and regardless of Sexual Preferences you can admit she is an attractive individual. But I also did stare at men’s crotches in the underwear isle, and their bodies ever since I could remember. I also would get the same gitty feeling over attractive men on T.V.
(On the note of Britney Spears, it is possible that when she was preforming on tv my father or someone said isn’t she hot? Or Isn’t she…___. And me being young and my mind a sponge took it up and I “learned” and “agreed”.But I don’t know if it was an independent thought or unintentially planted thought.)
I think when you know or find out your sexuality is when your body stars producing hormones. These hormones starting up your sexual drive, fantasies, masturbation. I know that I was drawn to the images of men on underwear packages more, and would purposely walk through the isle or go slow and just look at them. Or would find men on tv attractive and would know what guys were attractive. Not that being able to tell who is attractive in any gender or sexual preference means much. Anyone can see it. But it was that it was “My Preference” and “My Attraction”.
So when I first realized I was “Bisexual” from my heart beating like a MO FO over a hot boy in a senior class play I really had no issue with it. I have always been open minded and thought “Love is Love” and didn’t understand “racism” because skin and all that type of stuff. I identified as bisexual for a short period of time because I was uncertain. All I knew was I was at least gay and liked men. I don’t think I ever really masturbated while thinking of a female, I am not attracted to the feminine physique. I like chiseled bodies, manly jaws, deep voices,pecs…mm. HEHM. : )
I dated a girl for like 3 days in 7th? 8th? Grade. (I said yes because I didn’t wanna hurt her feelings and she was the first person who had asked me in a non-online relation …But I don’t count it for the fact that like she was older and I think over the span of three days we talked twice and hugged or w/e and mutually ended it XDDD) Before that though I had already explored going into “Gay” chats online a site called “Gaia” it isn’t an LGBT site but there was a “Town” for it once and a while and so I had “dated” online. Although those don’t count much since I was young and dumb. But I have dated online since.
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Post: #655258 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 3:19PM |
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:: Nealmonte
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I've always been gay. Even when house was played as a child growing up, I think me and my sister were 3 and 4? (All 3 of my sisters are older than me. The youngest and only boy of four. We were very intelligent for our age...) But that's another forum. Playing house growing up, I was always a mother or a wild and out daughter. We knew I should have played a guy but even then it was, um, you're gay.
Even playing dress up, I was always in and rocking my mother's clothes and stilettos. Lol.
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Post: #655267 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 4:12PM |
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I didn't realize I was gay until 4th or 5th grade but after realizing I was gay, I always liked guys. I mean, even my "kindergarden crush" was on another guy in my class. Of course I didn't know what it meant back then, but I can see it today that I've always been gay.
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Post: #655275 , Sat 9 Jun 12, 4:50PM |
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