So, me and my ex (who wants to be friends) hung out yesterday. Well, apparently, she has a boyfriend. Who she had sex with, which really hurt my feelings because she pretty much led me on to thinking I would be her first. And is thinking about running away and getting married (is she legally allowed to do that-she's 15?).
Anyways, I have been completely depressed and heart-broken about it. And guess what! She had the nerve to ask me if I was okay. After she knows that I am head over heels in love with her.
We were in a dress store with two other friends, because we walked there from an art show. She was looking at wedding dresses (which is how I found out about them getting eloped). She noticed my head gravitating towards the floor. She asked if I was okay and pulled me over to the side.
I eventually started bawling. She held me in her arms and said she was still in love with me, even more than the other guy; she just needed to sort things out. She wiped the tears from my eyes and kissed my cheek ever-so-gently.
What should I do? Should I continue to hang out with her in hopes she'll come back to me? Should I ignore her?
Well, this is breaking my heart so, so, so much! Not to mention today was already gonna be kinda suckish because of my last day of school.
So........ any advice?
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Post: #653369  , Fri 1 Jun 12, 7:51PM |
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honestly? I would distance yourself and take some time to think this out.... because there are a few things wrong with this story.... she led you on, got with this guy, lost her v-card to him, claims she's "in love with you more" and she "just has to figure things out" .... this does not seem very fair to you.... if you ask me. Oh, and I don't think the marriage part is possible but don't quote me!
I personally am almost in the same exact situation and learned distance is best. It will hurt you MORE to stay around her like you are now....
There's no diversity because we're burning in the melting pot.
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Post: #653380 , Fri 1 Jun 12, 9:00PM |
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Um really? She sounds like such bad news. People like that want to keep you in their life so you are there when they need you and not only is that not fair, it isn't healthy. Also, losing her virginity to this guy and automatically wanting to elope shows poor judgement and impulsive. Two traits that continue to reinforce her behavior. Don't expect her to change, she won't change for anyone but herself, don't expect her to leave this guy, she sounds indecisive, and also, don't expect her to let it go. Really, I would say the most healthy way to go is ditch her completely and find someone who treats you better. You should never have to give someone time WHILE they are with someone else, if they need time to figure things out, they need time from relationships all together. Seriously, as much as you may love her, you are young and waiting on this girl will just bring more heartbreak.
Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Love is the poetry of the senses. ~Honoré de Balzac
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Post: #653395 , Fri 1 Jun 12, 11:13PM |
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Thanks, I will try my hardest to keep some distance.
What a privilege to be here on the planet to contribute your unique donation to humankind. Each face in the rainbow of colors that populate our world is precious and special.
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Post: #653685 , Sun 3 Jun 12, 1:44AM |
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And i agree with the other person.... you are way young and there is PLENTY of time to find someone who will treat you better than this person can
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Post: #653740 , Sun 3 Jun 12, 4:51PM |
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I have had a similar experience, but I'm alright now. Which just goes to show, things will get so much better, I'd say you should just wait, you can hang out with her if that's what you want, but feel open to others, because you never know when you might come across a person who loves you or makes you feel so much better.
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Post: #653796 , Sun 3 Jun 12, 9:16PM |
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That one life-long scar...
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