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So I know a lot of people on QA have been bullied And I'm wondering if you met your bully today- a bully from way back in your child or someone who's bullying you right now- and you could say whatever you wanted, what would you say?
Would be angry? Scared? Sorry for them?
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Post: #651256  , Wed 23 May 12, 8:28PM |
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The bullies from my school I would just pity them. I would go back to them and say to their face, "I'm sorry that you have to bring me down because you aren't happy with yourself and I'm sorry that you have nothing better to do with your life. I'm sorry you never took the time to actually get to know me because maybe, just maybe we could have been friends." Course, if you were to ask me this my freshman year I would want to physically hurt them. But now I just feel sorry for those people. I'm actually doing something with my life and the're not. Probably because they spent too much time bullying me and not focusing on school.
Most of my bullies though, were my own family members. My dad, my grandparents and my mom. I feel anger and sadness towards them. I just hope one say they can just accept me. They don't have to support me or even like the fact that I'm gay, but I want them just to still be there and still be my family.
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Post: #651259 , Wed 23 May 12, 8:52PM |
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I never had true bullies (I felt bad about what some people said, but I was highly paranoid back then), but I suppose I'd break and bones or die trying.
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Post: #651262 , Wed 23 May 12, 9:06PM |
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I've never really had any real "bullies." I mean sure I've been bullied, we all have, but I've never had one person or one group of people harass me for a period of time. But if I did, I'd probably just say something along the lines of, "You aren't worth my time, you are of the lowest dregs of society, and nothing you say is relevant to me, seeing as I give zero f*cks about your opinion." just what I came up with off the top of my head xD OR I would just keep it short and sweet "That might have hurt my feelings if I valued your opinion."
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Post: #651280 , Wed 23 May 12, 10:28PM |
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:: Kuuipo
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I wasn't really ever bullied. But my brother was, really bad. They called him horrible names and made him want to kill himself, he was 10 when it started and he tried to take his life when he turned 11.
If I ever met the kids who did that to him I'd ask them if they were happy with their life choices.
Most of them are in jail, addicted to hard drugs, have kids they'll never meet.
I don't feel sorry for them, I never will.
How can anyone decide one day that they're going to make someone's life so miserable that they never want to leave the house, that they never want to speak to anyone, that they need to take their life just to get away from it all.
You're horrible people and I don't feel bad for you.
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Post: #651283 , Wed 23 May 12, 10:35PM |
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:: zee_to_a
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
If the bullies of my past were to come up to me or we happened to meet? Ignore. I spent a majority of my elementary school years being teased and mocked, but mostly it was being ignored. To me there's something cruel when your class talks about a party that they went to- every single person got an invite except you.
But I wouldn't do anything. Mostly because I don't care what they think of me anymore and that feeling of worthlessness? That goes away for a little while when you look at a group of young teen faces and they scream your name- and respect you.
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Post: #651291 , Wed 23 May 12, 11:46PM |
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:: Tiwaz87
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I would hit her back. I know that violence is never the best option, but she beat me with a broom, and I should have smacked her instead of cowering in the corner. I also would've confronted her (and everyone else) when I heard the things she said about me and other girls instead of just pretending I didn't hear.
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Post: #651317 , Thu 24 May 12, 2:35AM |
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I never really had a bully. I've been bullied a LOT, yes, and I still am, but it's by almost everyone, and I tell them exactly what I think of them every day. "Fuck off, assholes, you're not even worth my time."
I'm not afraid of speaking my mind, no matter what it is... *Shrugs*
The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry. -Ernest Hemingway
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Post: #651345 , Thu 24 May 12, 4:48AM |
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I have bullies but they bully me because of the way I look and act because I have adhd and I never used to take my mess so I would be so hyper and they bullied me because of the way I look and dress and I wish I could just get the courage to walk up to them and show no emotion when I say do u really think hurting me is making your life better is being a bully what you really want to do because you really do hurt people when you do that But if I got worse I would probably beat the sh*t out of them
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Post: #651364 , Thu 24 May 12, 6:08AM |
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:: upsidedown
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Thanks guys, really great, honest responses
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Post: #651491 , Thu 24 May 12, 11:23PM |
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You know what I would do? Absolutely nothing. I would just stand tall in front of them dressed in everything rainbow and act like nothing happened. I would tell them they don't have to like me, but that I believed in myself and my own choices. I would tell them to hit me and do whatever they wanted. It would confuse them so quickly and they probably wouldn't do anything
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Post: #651544 , Fri 25 May 12, 2:46AM |
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It's really empowering to read the responses of many of you, who know in your heart that you are better than your bully, therefore do not need to retaliate.
Feelings of anger and wanting to do to them what was done to you does not make you a bad person. It's understandable that you would feel that way, truly.
If I encountered my childhood bullies I would treat them as I wish to be treated. To quote Buddha, "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one that gets burned." They do not deserve that from me, so I won't do it. My anger shall not be wasted on anyone like that.
"You don't have a soul, you are a soul. You have a body."
- C.S. Lewis
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Post: #651555 , Fri 25 May 12, 5:07AM |
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I would say that I would get revenge on my bully, but I found out today that after dropping out of school he is now a window cleaner on base wage. I think he got what was coming for him...
42. That is all.
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Post: #651569 , Fri 25 May 12, 8:17AM |
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I tend to run into a couple of mine on a regular basis. We ignore each other, pretty much, act like strangers and all that. As much as I'd like to know why some of the things that happened actually happened, I've let go of most of the anger and the chances are I wouldn't feel the need for violence unless one of them instigated something.
To be honest, I don't feel much towards them at all, and treat them accordingly.
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Post: #651576 , Fri 25 May 12, 10:40AM |
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:: SapphiX
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
i haven't been bullied for years some people try it but fail since i don't take it now, i would do and say nothing because i don't have to hurt someone else to try an prove i'm better i just get on with my life and leave them to whatever they're in
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Post: #663333 , Fri 6 Jul 12, 2:51AM |
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:: JR91
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I was bullied a lot and the last one I had I beat up for picking on me very badly. I just don't see me forgiving them. All I want to do is prove them wrong and show them that I can be better than them 
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Post: #663390 , Fri 6 Jul 12, 4:57AM |
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Bullies usually have a reason for what they did. They aren't bad people, they just did a bad thing. Take it from one who has both been bullies and been a bully.
The regret is bad enough. For all you know, they could be trying to make amends as we type.
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