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Topic: Super-Erratic-Sexuality
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:: Xeffy
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
one minute im bi, the next im pansexual, then im gay, then I get mad at myself for being gay so I try to convince myself im straight.
My sexuality is way too fluid and its kinda fucked up I like what I like but sometimes I dont want to like it. Maybe its society bringing me down but I get mad at myself for my sexuality very often. I consider killing myself very often because I cant handle the constant self loathing and then trying to accept myself because as soon as I start accepting it I start to get angry with myself. I dont want to like men but I just do and yes I do find it something to be ashamed of even though I know you're all going to say I shouldnt.
Im so Ashamed for having ever let myself even think for a moment that I liked men. Its corrupted my life.
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Post: #651253  , Wed 23 May 12, 7:41PM |
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:: Falconfly
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I get that feeling, but it's when I'm attracted to women. When I'm attracted to men, it feels natural to me, but fetishing women just feels sick and wrong.
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Post: #651260 , Wed 23 May 12, 9:03PM |
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:: XlobX
:: QA8 High Householder | |
Even though, when it comes down to it (at least to some extent), I'm bisexual, sometimes I convince myself really strongly that I'm gay. At these times I often feel like I'm just pretending to be gay because, in some slightly weird way, I kinda like the idea. So I overreact and tell myself that I'm just a boring straight person.
Its so stupid, but it doesn't bother me much. I've kinda accepted that I might be gay, so all the other sexualities I might think that I am don't cause any problems.
You just have to accept that you might be gay. Chances are; you're bi, but who knows!
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Post: #651285 , Wed 23 May 12, 10:40PM |
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:: Xeffy
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
I dont know what to say anymore.
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Post: #651321 , Thu 24 May 12, 2:43AM |
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:: XlobX
:: QA8 High Householder | |
Accepting who you are is something that has to be done, and only you can do it. I don't think this thread is really about a ' Super-Erratic-Sexuality', its about you, struggling to accept that you might be gay.
There are so so many happy, gay people living their lives as though everyone in the whole world were like them.
Most people like you just get on with life.
What good is refusing to accept yourself going to do you?
Lots of gay people love the fact that they're gay.
Being gay is natural; homosexuality is found in all animal species.
Its nothing to be ashamed of. You only think that because we live in an intolerant society- though its becoming increasingly more tolerant.
What would make you change your mind?
You will get a lot more out of life if you stop hiding from yourself and get on with it.
There are facts you already know, and questions you know the answers to, but really this is down to you. If you really want to be happy, then you will accept yourself.
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Post: #651369 , Thu 24 May 12, 8:23AM |
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:: Xeffy
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
everyone says that people are becoming more accepting but I just dont see it. I think people are still just as judgemental as ever.
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Post: #651416 , Thu 24 May 12, 7:50PM |
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:: Falconfly
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
And? Doing nothing will solve nothing. Hell, just coming out can change a lot of people's hearts, since they realise a perfectly normal person is gay and therefore their stereotypes are proven wrong.
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Post: #651418 , Thu 24 May 12, 7:59PM |
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:: XlobX
:: QA8 High Householder | |
You think people are just as judgmental as ever? Were you around 50 years ago? Nor was I, but from what I have read, things for us were infinitely worse. It's true that, while progress towards sexuality equality has recently been huge in terms of legislation, attitudes, in some parts of the world, are changing much more slowly. But they ARE changing. Look at Obama the other week: The most powerful human in the universe just expressed his acceptance of your sexuality. That's got to mean something to you.
If your issue really is with other people rather than yourself, then you have to remember that what they think is not important in comparison to what you think. Don't let yourself be judged. Anyway, how can you know that they're not accepting if you've never tested them?
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Post: #651440 , Thu 24 May 12, 9:42PM |
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