Topic: I need some advice...and help with girls.

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Sara

:: JejuneStar
:: QA3 Getting cosy

So, I haven't been on here since January, about a week after I first joined. When I joined, I was incredibly sexually confused. Well, I just finished my second semester of college, and I realized something.

Even though all of the sexual experiences I've had up until now have been with guys, I'm only ever comfortable doing anything with them when I'm drunk. And not just a little drunk...extremely drunk.

It's like the reverse of how straight girls will sometimes hook up with other girls when their wasted.

On the other hand...I'm completely attracted to women. All the time. I haven't ever had a sexual experience with another female, but I'm just so much more attracted to them than I ever have been to guys. Like, I find guys attractive, but have no urge to do anything sexual with them, whereas I have PLENTY of sexual attraction to girls.

Obviously I'm not flat-out bisexual, as I previously had convinced myself.

I just don't know what to do now. I want to try having a relationship with another girl, but I don't even know how to go about finding one. Or anything at all. Or how to, y'know, actually admit this to family/friends when I finally DO find someone...

Any advice would be truly appreciated.

"When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless." - Chris Colfer

Post: #649905

, Thu 17 May 12, 6:53AM

Skye

:: Oddwolf
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round

Seems you've got yourself in a bit of a predacment here, honestly there is many things you could do to go about such a thing.
Firstly about the girls: you'll find being in a relationship with a girl is very similiar to being with a guy (generally speaking, however this varies person to person). Like guys, girls like a girl who is confident about who they are and what sexuality they are but many will understand "first-time nerves". It's only natural. If you have any friends who are sexually attracted to females - or even a guy - then talk to them about it.
Secondly the coming out to family about the relationship: If you're family already knows about you being attracted to females they shouldn't be bothered about the relationship, if you haven't came out to them yet then you should talk to the few trusted members who you know are comoftable with LGBT people.
Third and final, you're bound to be nervous and anxious about this - especially if you have never been with another girl before - that is the time you need to speak to the person, you should talk to them about your nerves, get reassurance from them. And don't feel as though you are rushing into anything as it will only make you feel more uncomfortable hwen it comes to it

I hope this helps you and if I can help in any other way just drop me a message, good luch chick xx

I am me, I am myself, if you don't like, then you don't like me

Post: #649913

, Thu 17 May 12, 12:29PM

Sara

:: JejuneStar
:: QA3 Getting cosy

Yea...unfortunately it seems I'm really good at getting myself into predicaments :/

But anyway, thanks so much for the advice :] I think the biggest thing for me is going to be working up the nerve to come out to more people (as of now, only a select group of my friends and a few of my cousins know)...but I know that's a necessary step if I'm ever going to have a proper relationship.

I'm switching schools next semester, so I'm really hoping that will give me a fresh start, and hopefully I'll be able to meet some new people and work on not being an awkward nervous mess :]

Thanks, though...it's really reassuring to have some sort of guidance and encouragement and such in this!

"When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless." - Chris Colfer

Post: #650739

, Mon 21 May 12, 9:31AM

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