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Topic: Potentially gonna meet a gay guy
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And here we have another episode of "Dating Advice for Sean"! Funtimes.
Ok, background info: I was in a production of We Will Rock You as Khashoggi and the person who was Killer Queen (Khashoggi and Killer Queen do pretty much all their scenes together, so we built up a good friendship) told me of another youth theatre group she does who're doing West Side Story, and they're always looking for talented guys. Long story short, I'm doing it.
Now, through a mixture of conversation and FB stalking, I have learned that one of her friends from this youth theatre group(calling him O) is also doing it. Guess what? O is gay. He's the same age as me. He's pretty much what I look for in a guy. Someone pinch me!
Downside? The group is half-an-hour away, and he lives around that area. I know distance shouldn't stand in the way of relationships, so that's not what I'm worried about.
What I'm worried about is how to act. I'm kinda socially awkward (people don't usually text me/invite me out/blah blah blah) so idk if I'd come onto him too strong accidentally and scare him away, or try and act like I'm not interested so I don't scare him away, but he takes that as I'm not interested. Also, how do I actually drop in that I'm gay? Wait for a conversation to come up and subtly drop it in? I'm pretty sure striding up to him and saying "Hey, I'm gay, let's date" isn't the best idea... short of turning up to rehearsals dressed in rainbows and throwing pixie dust everywhere, not quite sure what to do!
So yeah, this is basically me freaking out even though I won't even meet him for, like, 2 months. I'm a sad little lonerpants who's kinda desperate for a boyfriend. Sue me xD
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Post: #649484  , Tue 15 May 12, 9:22PM |
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Disclaimer: I am no expect in this field and anything I say should be taken with a grain of salt...or a whole box for that matter.
I would start by intorducing myself and make smalltalk about the play. You both have a common interest in it so its so its a great way to get a conversation going. Its important to talk to him but its even more important to listen. We were given two ears and one mouth so we should listen twice as much as we speak.
Listen for cues of other areas of conversation that may work for great conversation later. Eventuly work your way up to asking him out.
I hope this helps.
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Post: #649494 , Tue 15 May 12, 9:49PM |
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I VILL TELL YOU EVERSING!!!
That's a quote from something... I don't remember what but whatever... 
I actually have the answer for you so I will actually tell you everything you should do
So basically you act like yourself. So what if you're socially awkward? If y'all have as much in common as you say you do then that shouldn't be a problem  . Be casual, ask him some questions: how long have you been acting? What roles have you gotten that you really liked? Do you do any other activities outside of school? Make the conversation about HIM. For those of you who are socially awkward the best way to have a conversation with someone is to ask them something. Smiling is important too, make eye contact and swallow your yawns. No one wants to think that they're boring you with their responses. As far as letting him know you're gay... Now what I'd recommend is NOT verbally saying it. He should get the drift if you are interested in him by your BODY LANGUAGE. Show him you are interested by smiling, maybe touching his arm every now and again and standing kinda close to him. Of course you don't want to always be looming over him like a total stalker-face because that'd be creepy and no one wants to date a creeper but be friendly, exchange numbers with him (like at the end of rehearsal after a few practices if things seem to be going well give him your number and tell him something sweet and kinda flirty like: "it'd be nice to hear from you when we aren't running lines, etc...") and if he seems into you and y'all have been texting a lot maybe ask him if he wants to grab a cappuccino or something before/after rehearsal and if he says yes... Well I think you should be able to take it from there ;).
To see us dance is to hear our hearts speak- Hopi Indian saying
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Post: #649508 , Tue 15 May 12, 10:41PM |
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Flirt? That's pretty alien to me xD I only have a few numbers in my phone (not because I don't want other people's, but just because no-one bothers to ask and I feel stupid asking)
I'm pretty sure the girl who persuaded me to do it is good friends with O, so I'll probably get to know him anyway. I just don't wanna appear all creeper as you said xD Or work up the courage to ask him out, then he's not interested and it gets all awkward and blah.
Like I said, this is all speculative. He might turn out to be a total jerk, not have mutual interests with me, etc... Heck, I feel like a stalker for even thinking this far ahead without even knowing him.
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Post: #649742 , Wed 16 May 12, 8:31PM |
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Yeah, don't get too excited. Like you say, he could be a jerk, or just not your sort of person.
But I think this body language thing is good advice. Also the way you dress; try to look gay (if you're not in costume that is! ). Also, your voice. If he has a gay, feminine way of talking, then let it softly effect your accent.
If you want to make sure that he notices, you could ware one of those rainbow bracelets maybe...
Gluck
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Post: #649751 , Wed 16 May 12, 9:42PM |
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