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Bradly Send Bradly a private message
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(This topic is probably exhaustive to the regulars on a LGBT forum, so pardon my newb-hood)

So I've identified myself as a straight throughout my life, in spite of my general feminine attitude and that all my friends are girls. But I've recently(last few weeks)been having fantasies about men more and more frequently, and it's not going away, and... I think I like it.
I know I like women. I REALLY like the female physic.(I know I'm a lecherous pig, not apologizing) So I'm thinking I'm starting to realize I'm bi.
In retrospect, I've noticed that my eyes wander a little longer than they should around guys.

The real question: Is there anyway to be sure you're gay? Or how did you become positive of it?

(Again, I'm sorry if this is subject is tiresome to everyone and that the post itself is rather unfocused. I'm just throwing my thoughts out there and hoping that I'll get something substantial thrown back.)
  Post: #647584 Link to this post, Wed 9 May 12, 1:28PM
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Maybe don't try and label yourself as anything, just be who you are and like who you want to like. Emoticon: Smile :)
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  Post: #647585 Link to this post, Wed 9 May 12, 1:30PM
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Labels... they really suck. People on here reminded me that labels can cut you off from opportunity. You don't have to be sure, now or ever. If you NEED a label, use bi or something until you figure it outEmoticon: Smile :) That way, you can just be open and not close yourself off to the possibility of finding happiness with males or females. Just be yourself and everyone that's awesome will love you for itEmoticon: Smile :)
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  Post: #647587 Link to this post, Wed 9 May 12, 1:35PM
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No there is no sure fire way to know if your gay/bi. Well, there kinda is... Don't get hung up on labels.
  Post: #647624 Link to this post, Wed 9 May 12, 5:19PM
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It's one of those things that you have to feel around for yourself. One thing you could try is to ask yourselfa series of relevant questions. eg. Do I find girls attractive? yes/no How do i feel about that? Do I find boys attractive? yes/no How do i feel about that? Do I find wombats attractive? yes/no etc. this technique of self questioning really helps me whenever I'm not sure about something. It won't tell you anything that you don't already know but it will help you order your feelings in one place for analysis.
(sorry about the wombats that was just me being facetious.)
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One of the things I learned when I was trying to figure out my sexuality was, ask yourself "Do I see myself getting older and marrying a woman or a man?" Just don't overthink it when you ask yourself this, just imagine what it will be like getting married or being in a long term relationship and see if you imagine yourself with a woman or man. It doesn't always work, but personally it helped me a lot.
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Hm...experiment?

Some people just know. Others experiment to kind of help them figure themselves out.

Whatever floats your boat(: You is who you is Emoticon: Grin :D
  Post: #647830 Link to this post, Thu 10 May 12, 3:27AM
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Honestly, you are who you want to be. You dont have to be a label if that's not what you want...or if you want to identify with a specific community that's cool too. Dont let society's constant need to put people in a box make you feel like you always have to be for sure one thing or another. There are gray areas inbetween the black and white. Love who you love ;)

I just realized I kinda sound like a hippie haha
  Post: #647861 Link to this post, Thu 10 May 12, 4:16AM
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