Ok, the term 'straight acting' is used by some gay people to mean a manly gay. However, I think it's stupid and annoying and did I mention stupid.
Straight acting means you act like a straight guy. That means you act like a heterosexual. That means you have sex with the opposite sex. No. No you do not. If you wanna tell peoople you ain't a queen people should use 'masculine'.
Also, 'straight acting' is supposed to be a good thing. So appearing to be gay is a bad thing? Hmm. Think about THAT mind bomb!  XD
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Post: #646585  , Sun 6 May 12, 7:35PM |
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:: al96
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I totally agree with you.
I prefer using the term 'masculine' or 'manly'.
True, manly straight guys happen to be more than manly gay guys, but masculinity isn't bound to straight guys. Some people do manage to prevent their sexuality from affecting their behavior (gender-wise).
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Post: #646589 , Sun 6 May 12, 7:53PM |
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:: Haldo
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I completely agree. There is no fixed way that straight people act. If you want to say a gay guy has a masculine personality, just say he's masculine.
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Post: #646711 , Mon 7 May 12, 1:22AM |
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:: Kuuipo
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Agreed 100%.
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Post: #646720 , Mon 7 May 12, 1:35AM |
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That Always annoyed me too. Because your say that a masculine gay male is just trying to act gay when that is not true. He is just naturally masculine being gay has nothing to do with rather you will be masculine or gay. There are some straight men that are or more feminine than some gay men are. It blows my mind too no pun intended.
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Post: #646726 , Mon 7 May 12, 1:47AM |
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Uh, unless you're having sex with women, you're not "straight-acting", my gay friend. Sorry.
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Post: #646735 , Mon 7 May 12, 2:10AM |
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:: perdedor
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Maybe it means that he appears to flirt with girls as well?
Sometimes I say "straight acting" in referral to lesbians (or potential lesbians XD) and what I mean is that they seem to flirt with guys and not pay any special attention to their own gender, so it's impossible to tell whether they're gay or not.
I can see how it's offensive though; I'll try to stop that.
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Post: #646869 , Mon 7 May 12, 8:07AM |
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Personally, I think it's an idiotic term. It only serves to assign and reinforce stereotypes about gay guys being camp, effeminate and so on.
Trying to attach personality traits and behaviour to a group of people, even if you're part of that group of people, is just insulting.
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Post: #646874 , Mon 7 May 12, 9:30AM |
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I agree with y'all on this. People tell me two things: they say I act like a lesbian because I box, wear AXE deodorant and I like sports bras and then people tell me I act straight because I have a picture of Peeta Mellark on my English binder (look if I was a guy I would totally want to screw him but I am a girl and a lesbian and therefore I just think he's super awesome  ) and because I have long hair, wear make-up and I wear dresses sometimes and girly perfume or whatever. It's like... I'm just me, I'm not straight acting and I'm not gay acting I'm just being me .
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Post: #648509 , Sat 12 May 12, 2:23PM |
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I disagree with your statement. First of all I think where just splitting hairs. Some people call it straight acting others call it masculine, its just whatever there use to saying or is comfortable with but it all used in the same context. We have to keep in mind that in this ever shrinking online world what could be viewed acceptable for one may be viewed differently for others.
You deduced that straight acting means you act like a straight guy therefore meaning you act like a heterosexual therefore you have sex with the opposite sex. I disagree on this point as well. An orange may look like a tangerine but its still and orange no matter how you look at it. Likewise if I say that I'm a straight acting gay guy only means that I share similar idiosyncrasies as a straight guy.
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Post: #648698 , Sun 13 May 12, 3:58AM |
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:: Twiggey
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
when i hear the term straight acting i think of guys and gals that aren't out yet and are acting straight until they're ready to tell someone like me i talk to my friends about girls but my hearts not in it like they always talk about watchin girls do it online and i'm just like yeah yeah that's sound great ohh i wish i'd seen that and i'm pretendin or acting straight no wat i'm sayin
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Post: #648701 , Sun 13 May 12, 4:06AM |
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:: Rakkaus
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I can't say I really understand the ideas of "gay-acting" or "straight-acting" (never mind whatever the hell "bi-acting" is supposed to be...) 
I think in fact my own personal habits are a bit too bizarre and abnormal to be classified as either "gay" or "straight"...and tbh, I prefer other people who do not conform to pre-existing stereotypes.
By being queer, one is by nature already not conforming to the norm, yet there do appear to be certain reactionary elements within the LGBTQ community who expect queers to all conform to their standards about what a queer person is supposed to act like.
As the banner at the top of this forum says, you should "be younique"...one should be a unique individual, not a walking talking caricature of a label. Of course if your own unique identity just happens to be stereotypically "femme" or "butch", there is nothing wrong with that, but one should not feel obliged to force oneself to conform to such stereotypes.
Anyway, the point is, conformity in any form, is a bad thing. Try not to be judgmental of others, who do not conform the norm.  
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Post: #648736 , Sun 13 May 12, 7:03AM |
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Yes, totally agree!
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Post: #648749 , Sun 13 May 12, 11:55AM |
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I got that reaction from straight guys a lot when I came out.
Me: 'I'm gay.'
Thomas: 'But you can't be.'
Me: 'But I am'
Thomas: 'But you act straight.'
I hate it when people do that.
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Post: #648799 , Sun 13 May 12, 3:13PM |
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I also get that alot when people find out I'm gay.. and It annoys me too! haha unless people are putting On an act they are just being themselves.. I don't act like a certain label or for other people, I've always just been myself, and happen to also be gay.
Soo unless people are putting On an act.. in my opinion they arn't acting gay or straight, they are just being themselves.
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