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Topic: I cheated on you... :/
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If you cheated on someone would you tell them? If it was a:
- Kiss, would you tell them?
- Oral, would you tell them?
- Penetration, would you tell them?
- Anything that happened more than once, would you tell them?
What about if it was you being cheated on, would you want to know, which of the above would you want to know? Would you be bothered?
I personally would want to know. It would depend on who it was, and how long it had been happening for. I most likely wouldn't be that bothered as long as they understood it was wrong and acknowledge it shouldn't happen again...
But what do you guys and gals think?
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Post: #646415  , Sun 6 May 12, 12:17PM |
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I would be pissed naturally, if someone cheated on me.
I would probably dump them.
If I cheated would I tell?
Yes,
No matter what it was.
But I wouldn't cheat.
If I wanted someone other than my bf/gf they wouldn't be my bf/gf
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Post: #646429 , Sun 6 May 12, 1:46PM |
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I would never ever cheat on anyone. There is just no point, it's the most stupid, selfish and obnoxious thing a person can do. They piss me off to the highest extent.
So in answer to the other question if a person cheated on me I'd tell them where to go without a second thought. There is no need for it and at the end of the day if the person was into you that much they'd never do it in the first place, no matter how "drunk they were" or if the person "kissed them first"...I would say you shouldn't have been that close anyway and you most definitely should not have carried on kissing them.
I just get so angry, I've been cheated on before, it's totally unneeded.
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Post: #646437 , Sun 6 May 12, 2:06PM |
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In my opinion, if you can't be honest with your bf/gf and tell them it's over before you move on you have a problem. So yes I'd be mad. I also know there other kinds of relationships, wher that would be okay, I.e. an open relationship with a bisexual person having a boyfriend and a girlfriend, everyone knows about it, and everyone's cool with it. 
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Post: #646455 , Sun 6 May 12, 2:29PM |
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If you feel the need to cheat when you're with someone what's the point of dating them then. Even if it was only a kiss. If you can't be commited to one person, don't be in a relationship.
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Post: #646508 , Sun 6 May 12, 4:35PM |
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If you're in a closed relationship, anything is cheating, that includes emotional cheating. And yes, the other person absolutely deserves to know if you cheated/are cheating on them. If you don't tell them, it just makes it seem like you have absolutely no respect for them whatsoever. So yes, I would expect my S.O. to tell me, and I would tell them. But I would never cheat. If I had strong feelings for someone else, I would get over them if I loved my S.O. more, or I would take it as a sign that I should break up with my S.O. because we weren't meant to be. I wouldn't cheat.
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Post: #646526 , Sun 6 May 12, 5:20PM |
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i'd tell them no matter what it is, and yes i've been cheated on, so, i dumped him...even though that was also around the time i really started figuring myself out!
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Post: #646555 , Sun 6 May 12, 6:00PM |
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I would never cheat, but if I did, I would tell them about anything I did. And I would have to accept the consequences.
If a boyfriend cheated on me I would want to know if it was anything. I wouldn't tolerate cheating unless it was only a kiss forced upon them. We've all seen the movies where a girl forces herself on a guy and just as she shoves herself onto the guy and kisses him, his girlfriend walks in and thinks the worse. I'm just saying I'd hate to be in that situation and my boyfriend not to understand.
Other than that, they could go get f**ked for cheating.
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Post: #646561 , Sun 6 May 12, 6:06PM |
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- Kiss, would you tell them? Yes
- Oral, would you tell them? Yes
- Penetration, would you tell them? Yes
- Anything that happened more than once, would you tell them? Okay, before it got to this point, I would have broken up, because clearly, by staying with the person and continuing things like this will continue to hurt them and keeping the relationship would be pointless by then.
What about if it was you being cheated on, would you want to know, which of the above would you want to know? Yes. I would want to know if any of these happened. For me, honesty is the first priority. Would you be bothered? Well DUH, who wouldn't... but if it reached that point, then clearly it means something is wrong with the relationship, and rather than clinging to something that's not going to work, then it'd be better to end it.
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Post: #646572 , Sun 6 May 12, 6:47PM |
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I've cheated on people before and felt horrible afterwards. It only happened once, but I still regret it. It ruined any relationship we might have had, and I feel guilty every single day. So yes, if for some reason I was to cheat on someone again, I'd tell them afterwards and do whatever I could to get their trust back. Though if someone cheated on me, I wouldn't care, as long as they told me. *shrug*
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Post: #646573 , Sun 6 May 12, 6:52PM |
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I would want to know... And I would be hurt when I found out, but I would be more hurt if they didn't tell me. And yeah, it would be really hard to trust them afterwards. But I would want to know anything and everything they did. I'm big on honesty. So yeah, I'd be bothered.
Well, I would never, ever, ever, EVER EVER EVER cheat on someone. But if I did, I imagine I would tell them. Because I suck at keeping those kinds of secrets, and I would feel HORRIBLE about it.
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Post: #646576 , Sun 6 May 12, 7:03PM |
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I wouldn't cheat.
However if I did I would ask them if they wanted to know and how much they wanted to know. I'll have already hurt them enough. Wouldn't wanna go into too much detail uneccisarilly.
I'm a Loiner, apparently...
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Post: #646590 , Sun 6 May 12, 8:00PM |
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Damn... I'm about to say something that is going to be HIGHLY disagreed with. T_T
Please don't hate me but this is how I feel and this is why:
I will never cheat on my SO with like anything physical but I can be known as a bit of a flirt (I'm not at the moment because I'm happily frolicking in the pretty flowers of dating-kingdom) and I have flirted with girls in past relationships or whatever or people tell me that I said something flirty and I didn't mean it that way or whatever (which happens now but I don't mean it like a flirty thing I just say it because I'm really blunt) so yeah... In my opinion if you do something physical with another person then you need to break up with your real SO right away. In my opinion not much good comes from telling the person you cheated on them (because I've been cheated on and all it does is piss me off and hurt me) but just get out of the relationship. Just get out and at least here in the US you have rights to privacy and you therefore don't need to share what you did with someone else with your SO as long as you break up with them and basically sever all ties.
Now I know my view is controversial but I think we all should have our rights to privacy and as long as you break up with them IMMEDIATELY after cheating or if you develop strong feelings for someone else, etc... Then it's not really "okay" and you shouldn't have cheated on them but it's better than staying in the relationship and telling them is a violation to your privacy and it's only going to result in unnecessary turmoil.
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Post: #648505 , Sat 12 May 12, 1:36PM |
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If you truly liked the person why cheat in the first place. Also if you had a problem you should talk. Finally if you are unable to talk should you be together?
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Edit: azalight90, Sat 12 May 12, 1:59PM
Post: #648507 , Sat 12 May 12, 1:52PM |
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I'd want to know because I would have the respect to tell them if I cheated. Even if it's just once, let them know. I'd respect someone for being brave enough to tell me. I cheated once while intoxicated. I told my girlfriend of the time the day after and yes she was upset, but she forgave me. I haven't drank since because it makes me remember that mistake. So I definitely know I'd tell my boyfriend/girlfriend that I'd cheated but I'd expect the same respect in return.
I'd probably forgive them if it was a one off. Once is a mistake, twice is just stupidity.
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