Hello, everyone. I've managed to come out to my mother AND have her except me as Michah! Yay! She's still not on board with the whole physcal transition thing, but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.
My big problem now is when exaclty I'm going to socially transition in school. I wouldn't mind presenting as male starting with the first day of school, but I'm really afraid everyone is going to cast me out as freak or something. I'm going home in 7 weeks. I haven't seen my classmates for a year and I feel like it would be much too dramatic to return from a year abroad, plus as a boy.
I'm also worried about making friends/ keeping the few I already had. I wasn't that popular to begin with, and at the end of last year I had a fight with a friend and it made my friend circle all weird. I felt alone a lot of the time.
But this year I have grown as a person, I don't know how it is with veryone at my old school, but I have grown in confidence and I want to present as true to the person I am.
I've given myself two choices. I get home in 7 weeks. I'm either going to a: come out to the rest of my family/close friends and give teachers (my school faculty is liberal and friendly, the students... not so much.) over summer and then begin school presenting as male. EVeryone else will find out sooner or later. or b: Start school presenting as female to test the waters and in a month or so see how I feel about coming out at school. What do you all think? Is it better to start at the beginning or sometime later?
(They're have been a few out LGB students in my school and they never recieved any bullying. I go to a small independent school that prides itself on being diverse and tolerant and liberal; I know the teachers would be more than excepting of me as the first(?) out transgender student. It's just the kids I'm worried about, Junior year they should be a kittle more mature?)
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Post: #645531  , Wed 2 May 12, 7:46PM |
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:: Kuuipo
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With whatever you decide, I wish you luck. Never let the fear of not beig accepted stop you from being happy. Do what you want and screw anyone who has a problem with it.
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Post: #646037 , Fri 4 May 12, 11:40PM |
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If you present as female, that is going to permanently set you back a notch if you later decide to come out as a guy. I know from past experience how hard it is to change ones perception of another's gender.
My advice, take it or leave it, is to present yourself from day one as male. Sure, some people might have a problem but that's going to happen anyways if you come out later. It may sound corny but you don't want friends who don't accept you. Long run, that only ever leads to pain so don't hide who you are for the sake of popularity or fitting in.
It's good that the staff are liberal minded so they can definitely help. It's pretty amazing what having a teacher call you Michah can do in terms of peer acceptance. My boyfriend asked our history teacher to call him by his 'male' name and gradually the class started using it.
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Post: #646102 , Sat 5 May 12, 8:12AM |
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:: perdedor
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I agree with Charles. Starting off as female and suddenly transitioning might give off the impression that you're fickle and will generally confuse your peers. People will probably admire you for your openness if you transition from day one, too. It's good that your teachers will support you; I think that will help a lot.
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Post: #646147 , Sat 5 May 12, 2:34PM |
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:: Xeffy
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I second emma, itd be easier if they didnt have to see you go through the transition and saw you as a boy from day 1
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Post: #646167 , Sat 5 May 12, 3:28PM |
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