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Topic: Weight and society
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All my life, I've been bombarded with images of skinny men, and skinny women, or muscular men with 6 packs. I've found myself drawn to these attractive, desirable people. I find myself having urges not to eat because I feel as if I will never be able to get the 6 pack society has made me want so badly if I don't manage to get rid of this last bit of fat.
I really do enjoy sports, but I'd still as sad as it sounds I would rather stay at home and play FIFA 12 for hours on end than go out and get sweaty playing football. But no, I don't want to be what society dubs 'fat' or 'undesirable' I want to muscular and attractive.
No matter how hard I try, I don't think I'll ever be able to think I am good enough because of the 'perfect' pictures I see every day. I am 11 and a half stone and 5"11. My BMI is 22 and I know that I'm at a healthy weight, but it's not enough for me. Every day I look down at my tummy and am disappointed because I don't see a rippling 6 pack, I'm disappointed because I am not what society sees as 'attractive'.
This is only my view, but I personally feel that society has brought these problems of anorexia and eating disorders on itself by these stupidly skinny and attractive people that we see every day, and I hate it...
On a happier note I saw this picture on my friends facebook wall and it made me smile  http://i.imgur.com/Gl1mo.jpg
RAWR! I'm a hamster :D
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Post: #645222  , Tue 1 May 12, 6:51PM |
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I say screw society, you're healthy, so all that matters is that you're happy and that you find someone who loves you for you- six pack or not.
I personally don't think you need one
I'M A SURVIVOR! I'm not gon' give up, I'm not gon' stop, I'm gon' work harder. I'M A SURVIVOR. I'm gonna make it, I will survive, Keep on surviving :)
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Post: #645225 , Tue 1 May 12, 7:00PM |
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I understand how you feel. For years, I've had low self esteem and poor body image. I still have it, to this day. Most of the time, it's hard to shake off, and it just sticks and nags at me. I hate to think other people deal with the same problem - since I wouldn't wish it upon anyone, but I know it does happen. You sound very healthy, and as I'm slowly learning, the more you accept yourself for who you are, and not what everyone else is and wants you to be - the easier it gets. It's harder than it sounds. Although, at least you know you're not alone, though, right? (: I hope things get better outlook wise for you.
And to the picture thing: I saw that the other day, and it just absolutely made my day. If only more people thought like that. It isn't aspects of the person (weight, looks, etc), it's the person THEMSELVES. Everyone is beautiful, in their own way, inside and out.
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Edit: Naveseay, Tue 1 May 12, 8:21PM
Post: #645235 , Tue 1 May 12, 8:20PM |
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I want anyone reading this topic to remind themselves that the "perfect" images they see are most likely doctored. The "perfect" bodies that you see are not average. Your body is beautiful because it is yours.
You started as one sperm and one egg. Everything that has happened along the way is supposed to happen because you are you, you are not some model or superstar athlete. If you are fat, if you are skinny, if you are hairy, if you are tall, if you are short. All of those characteristics are yours, and I strongly encourage you to embrace them.
No matter how many "perfect" bodies you see in your life, none of them will be yours, your body is yours. Love it.
"You don't have a soul, you are a soul. You have a body."
- C.S. Lewis
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Post: #645238 , Tue 1 May 12, 8:26PM |
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I'm about 5" 7 and a half, maybe 5" 8 but I'm really short anyway :/ I weigh about 9 stone 5 pounds, probably a bit more since I've eaten alot recently. I have the exact same issue. About a month and a half ago I starved myself for 6 weeks to get to 9 stone. I very nearly got there, (9 stone, 2 pounds), but I always felt tired and I suffered from real bad headaches and I knew it was because I wasn't eating anything. In starting to diet again now, slowly taking myself off food as much as I can...I know it's stupid but I agree with what is said about the media and general society only sees the fittest of people and it makes everyone else feel incredibly fat. I hate it. Self-esteem is already rock bottom, I don't need anymore encouragement.
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Post: #645243 , Tue 1 May 12, 8:33PM |
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:: Tiara
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
Haha I'm also 5'7ish and 9.5 stone. 
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Post: #645261 , Tue 1 May 12, 9:42PM |
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Ohh dear, please don't think I'm calling you fat, I know how this may sound!! I am very sorry! It's just how I view myself
I hope you're not offended! :/
The First, Last and Only thing I will ever say...Never give up hope, Always believe and Hold onto your dreams...♥
The Never-Ending Maze of Surprises...
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Post: #645268 , Tue 1 May 12, 10:08PM |
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
I've suffered from an "eating disorder" I guess for a few years. I dot know if I'd call it that since I've been too scared to tell anyone. I gave diluted thoughts and the control my actions. I've gone weeks with only eating a few bites. It's horrible, you're killing yourself. And honestly. I love living.
I've come to the realisation that you should just fuck what society has to say about beauty.
"Beauty's in the eye of the beholder."
And it's so true.
Don't think you aren't beautiful because you don't look like an airbrushed model.
You're perfect just the way you are.
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Post: #645276 , Tue 1 May 12, 10:21PM |
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Ugh.
I thank myself for whatever in my body makes it hard to puke on purpose.
I have tried.
And I blame society for me hating my body every dang day
For trying to throw up hoping I'll lose weight
I'm about 5'4 and 115 pounds
I blame society for a lot I things
And not unjustly
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But words might just kill me
If you truly own yourself no one can use you against you~ Chris Colfer 💘
"It's not about who you are attracted to ultimately, it's about who you fall in love with." -Glee
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Post: #645418 , Wed 2 May 12, 4:00AM |
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:: Kateri
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
I was watching soul surfer the other day. They show footage of the real people the story is based on at the end of the film. None of them are as skinny or perfect looking. And if you've seen any movies recently you've probably noticed that "ugly" in a movie usually just involves the addition of glasses, or braces onto someone drop dead gorgeous. Hollywood lies. Everyone doesn't look like a supermodel and they shouldn't and you shouldn't feel like you have to look like that.
I'm 5'6" and 195 pounds and I'm happy.
The world is round.
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Post: #645424 , Wed 2 May 12, 4:15AM |
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Weight vs. Society is a battle I can barely even stand to think about.
I've been plus sized all my life, and my family had no problem pointing this out since I was little. As I got older I got bigger, and the bigger my size the bigger the criticism.
Even just a few days ago, my own friends did the math, and I was all so delightfully informed that I way as much as two of my friends combined and 1/11 of the third. 120+120+10= 250 lbs.
My BMI is high as hell, but no matter what I do (dieting, excersize) nothing seems to work out for me. Not even starving myself or making myself throw up worked to lower my weight.
Because of this, it bothers me when the people around me say they look 'fat' in a picture, or say they need to lose some weight ASAP because they don't want to get fat.
Then there's me, all on my fat lonesome.
Don't get me wrong, more often then not I love being me and I try not to fret over the size of me body and instead focus on the size of my heart.
But this doesn't always work, because as soon as the topic of weight does arise in my vicinity I'm reminded of so many horrible memories pertaining to my weight.
It's a difficult thing to get by. It's hard finding the beauty in yourself and saying 'meh' to the flaws.
Keep working at loving who you are and not what you look like<3
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Post: #645425 , Wed 2 May 12, 4:26AM |
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:: Tiara
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
No of course not. I've been much, much larger than I am now so my weight is fine for me. Haha I found it funny that we had the same measurements is all
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Post: #645429 , Wed 2 May 12, 5:07AM |
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All those people you consider ' perfect ' aren't even the perfect people you think they are! let alone the magazine ( shakes head saying ' no no no no no ' ) they photoshop it so much they spend more on the shopping than what they reap from the profits of the magazine!
http://www.queerattitude.com/i...14933/19875.jpg
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Post: #650343 , Sat 19 May 12, 7:36PM |
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I do blame society for this and it makes me very sad. Not for myself, but for people I know who've struggled with issues like these. Also, there's also ALWAYS something to be self-concious about.
If it's not your weight, it's your hair. If it's not your hair, it's your pimples/skin... this can go on forever.
Of course, most people use make-up or other methods to try to deal with these insecurities, since trying to cover them up is supposed to make them go away.
I'm personally opposed to this, and I never wear make-up. I feel awkward and self-concious most of the time, but I know that even if I did try to "beautify" myself I'd probably still feel self-concious.
Sidenote: I don't mean to offend anyone ever. I totally understand establishing your individuality through your look.
Also, I'm aware there's a good chance no one cares about my little spiel  .
"What a crazy random happen-stance!" -Dr. Horrible.
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Post: #650428 , Sun 20 May 12, 1:14AM |
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:: Twiggey
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I. Problems with self esteem it sucks soo much and I'm not even big at all most people seem to say I look good but my damn mind just says NO THEIR LYING YOU ARE FAT FATTY FATTY FAT it's so mean you know how they say follow your heart I try but my brain has such a BIG mouth it's not funny and then I see all those hot skinny supermodels with the abs and stuff and it just makes my brain louder but on the up side I'm slowly building like mental earplugs to my brain soo it's alright my biggest problem though is when someone says something nice I believe them for like an hour or two then click I think their lying and just trying to be nice 
To live is to do what makes you happy not others. If what you love is different then stand against the tide of "normality" never stop fighting for happiness.
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Post: #650439 , Sun 20 May 12, 1:32AM |
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Im not a skinny guy, i really think it is stupid for a society to judge. With clothes on i look buff, but with out well thats my bussiness lol but yea u see my point.
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Post: #651498 , Thu 24 May 12, 11:48PM |
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:: Inch
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
I'm around 5 feet tall, give or take a few inches, and last I weighed myself, I was around 160-170 pounds.
The thing is, I've never cared much about my weight, and I still don't. I recognize that I'm probably not going to be the healthiest adult because of my weight, but I can't bring myself to care much.
Most of my family is overweight. My grandpa was overweight, and he lived into his mid 90s. As long as I don't let it get out of hand, I'm not going to give it much concern.
I don't even worry much about looking "ugly". To be honest, I wouldn't be very attractive even if I was skinny.
When it comes right down to it, I have bigger things to worry about than my weight. I get enough stress from schoolwork and my feeble social life. Worrying about being fat isn't worth my time.
I will never be afraid again
I will keep on fighting 'till the end
I can walk on water
I can fly
I will keep on fighting 'till I die
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Post: #651514 , Fri 25 May 12, 12:30AM |
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At least you are at a healthy weight I eat so much and yet still remain severely underweight for my age with a BMI of: 17.8. Yet it has gone down and I can't get it up!
What knocks you down in life , can only make you stronger.
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Post: #651535 , Fri 25 May 12, 1:24AM |
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I used to be insecure about my weight..but then I realized it was just a number. What i mean by that is, it doesnt matter if you weight 210, but look 150. he truth of the matter is that you look 150 and bangin so who cares if you're 210?No one can tell
I'm 5'6 and weigh 130-135ish,I use to weight 160 and I got my weight down by doing cross country and sorta..eating healthier @__@
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Post: #662135 , Mon 2 Jul 12, 6:26AM |
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I know where you're coming from, I really do. I am the same way (well, I used to be, I'm getting better now), except for me, I don't think society really had anything to do with it, it's just something with me, myself, and I. I was going to post a full reply here but it got really long and strayed a little bit off topic, so I put it in a blog here: http://www.queerattitude.com/b...ry.php?id=17723
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