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:: Dakota
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
This.... this is a tough topic. Sensitive to me, I guess. You see... I love kids. Love babies.. Love the thought of my tummy being filled with a little person. Of having kids running around the house, chasing them and listening to their first words.
And then there's my girlfriend.. I love her to death. Quite literally. And we discuss our future.. A lot. And kids.. They've sort of become a topic of conversation. I don't regret having a girlfriend at all - it's just part of who I am. And my sexuality doesn't define me at all, no, I don't believe so.
Though there's still pain. I want to have a baby with my girlfriend so badly. There's so much love... It just sucks, you know? There's just that one thing that holds us back.. The fact that we're two girls. And.. I wouldn't change that for the world. I love my girlfriend more than anything. And she's said that it would be okay if we were to get a 'donor'.. And I'll do it. Because I love her so much, and I love children, too. And the combination of both would just make me.. Happy.
What are your thoughts? What do you think about this matter? Just curious. Anything else that being an LGBT member... could 'limit' you to, so to say? Not saying that we're any less as LGBT members, but... Ah screw it. I think you know what I mean.
LGBT!! 
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Post: #644936  , Mon 30 Apr 12, 8:37PM |
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You're 14 and thinking about having babies with the girl you're with now? Slow down?
You have a lot of living to do before you should even be thinking about it! Sure, I'd like kids but I'm not gonna think seriously about having them with my boyfriend (if I had one atm)
Maybe focus more on your relationship and the closness between you and your gf before you even consider kids! 
I'm a Loiner, apparently...
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Post: #644938 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 8:41PM |
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:: Dakota
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Hah. I can see how you would say that.
Not really thinking. Just.. daydreaming. Don't worry, I've learned to slow down. But you're going to tell me you don't think about your future every once and a while?
I mean.. It's just a thought. You have to think about the future, right?
Just my thoughts.
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Post: #644939 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 8:45PM |
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My girlfriend and I have decided that for now neither of us want our own kids but I guess if both partners agree, getting a donor isn't a bad thing.
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Post: #644940 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 8:47PM |
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Ok sure, I do think 
I wanna adopt 4 babies at the maximum, 2 boys 2 girls and one has to be called Dexter.
However further than that, I don't really think about it That's for another time Though babies are pretty awesome
I'm a Loiner, apparently...
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Post: #644941 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 8:47PM |
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:: Dakota
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Exactly. Telling me you don't have thoughts about kids... Everyone does at one point or another.
Dexter? I like that name. ^^
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Post: #644942 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 8:51PM |
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:: Falconfly
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
If it helps, they did an experiment with mice that resulted in a baby mouse being born from the sperm of TWO MALES.
Since the only reason they still need a female is to have a womb where the fetus develops, I suppose there's no logical reason to not do the same with human egg cells. Both types of gametes work for that experiment, after all.
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Post: #644948 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 9:05PM |
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:: Dakota
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Damn Carlos.
You seem like a smartie. 
And yeah.. It does bring a little more optimism to my situation. ^-^
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Post: #644950 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 9:07PM |
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:: Dood
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
I've thought about this a lot as well although, since I'm a guy, I'd have to have a surrogate child which I personally see nothing wrong with, I mean it's expensive sure but having a child has always been a sort of dream of mine and so I think you being a donor, when you get older and are married, etc., is a wonderful idea and I fully support it! =)
Just remember to take things slow though, you don't want to go rushing into things when you get older only to find out that you weren't prepared for what was to come. Make sure that your life is stable and that you have the money needed to support a child before you fully go through with it. And, obviously, wait until you are old enough that it won't affect those around you as well as your own life. Wait until after highschool, and college if you plan on going, to even begin planning for having a child. Anyway I hope this helped, I'm pretty sure you knew about all of this already I mean it's kind of basic stuff but I just wanted to make sure so yea... Lol =P
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Post: #644952 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 9:12PM |
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I love babies! I have a 2 month old brother and he is the sweetest! It's kinda like having a baby only better cause I don't have to wake up at 3am to feed him!  I want to have 3 kids, two girls and a boy! But I wouldn't even consider having kids until after I am 25, preferably around 28 or 29.
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Post: #647200 , Tue 8 May 12, 5:23AM |
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@Carlos how is that possible without an egg cell? o_O
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Post: #647219 , Tue 8 May 12, 7:31AM |
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I really want kids when I'm older. Whether it's who I'm with now, or with somebody else, or by myself I'm going to have kids. I adore having kids around me and I adore taking care of kids so... yeah! Hopefully two kids and I hope it's a boy and a girl.
just give me a reason/just a little bit's enough/just a second, we're not broken/just bent we can learn to love again/oh, it's in the stars/it's been written in the scars on our hearts/we're not broken/just bent we can learn to love again.
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Post: #647222 , Tue 8 May 12, 9:12AM |
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I know it's completely irrational but I'm with Dakota. Every woman at one point in her life has 'nesting syndrome' where your mothering instinct kicks in like crazy. My mum swore she would never have kids, her whole young adult hood, and then bam! 29 and broody, and I came along nine months later.
I want kids, I don't care if it's with a guy or a girl, actually I think that doesn't matter, you just KNOW you're gonna have kids ...
I hope you and your girlfriend get your dream, Dakota
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Post: #647228 , Tue 8 May 12, 10:32AM |
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
I'm actually iffy on having kids..like some days are like "yeah, I'll be a good parent." and other days are like, "no, I'll just screw up their lives."
I'm not sure. I think the only reason I'd really want to have kids is to have someone to spoil all the time. x.x
Plus, I'm a fraternal twin...so I have a highhhh chance of having twins, which would be so cool T_T
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Post: #647241 , Tue 8 May 12, 1:17PM |
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:: perdedor
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
What if you got a donor and implanted the sperm with one of her eggs inside you? Technically, the baby would then be both of yours. Just thinking aloud here XD
If I ever have kids, that might be what I do with my girlfriend. But she'd have to carry them, because I'd rather not put up with all that for nine months (adoption is my first choice, obviously).
We're all under the upper hand, and go mad for a couple grams. And we don't wanna go outside tonight.
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Post: #647280 , Tue 8 May 12, 2:47PM |
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I'm adopted into my family so I'm a strong advocate of adoption. In this case, I would wait until you're older but a strong lesbian/gay couple would be great for kids' parents because then there would be more tolerance and kids would have better families and lesbians/gays can have kids. Long opinion made short, adopt! It's great!
Everybody trying so hard to be different only results in everybody being the same.
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Post: #647672 , Wed 9 May 12, 9:21PM |
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:: cookie98
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
It more that I want the experience of having a baby then I actually want one. I'll have plenty of nieces and nephews and little cousins to keep whenever I want. It probably wont be an issue to me.
I've seriously though about this since I came to terms that I wouldn't be able to have kids normally. So, I talked to me mom about it and she suggested being a Sergent Mother for women that really have kids
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Post: #647681 , Wed 9 May 12, 9:37PM |
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:: Dakota
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Yes, I love the adoption option (hehe it rhymes) and everything, but it can be expensive. Thanks for all the input everyone!!
Kiss it all better, I'm not ready to go
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Post: #647764 , Thu 10 May 12, 1:37AM |
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I think I would go for... a donor.
THOUGH! There's this new research that can convert an egg cell to a sperm cell. So a lesbian couple could actually have a biological baby without any donor. So that's cool. But it's also super expensive and rare since it's still being developed... :/
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Post: #647857 , Thu 10 May 12, 4:09AM |
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You have no idea how much I've cried over this. That was one of the main reasons I was so reluctant to admit I was a lesbian I think...I wanted to have a baby with my partner so bad and it's impossible if I marry a girl. Sure, I can still have kids and love them just as much, but it's not quite the same, you know? That was probably one of the hardest dreams I've ever had to let go of, but there's no point in wishing for things that will never come true. I'd rather be happy with a girl and a child that is only one of ours biologically than be unhappy with a man and a child that we made together.
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Post: #647859 , Thu 10 May 12, 4:13AM |
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