Hey everybody,
I'm new here so I hope this is the right place to ask this question. Is it possible to honestly be gay for just a short while as a phase? I ask because I've been straight all my life up until about 4-5 months ago (I'm 17). I've never been totally interested in guys. I've had a "boys are jerks" speech that I give to my relatives anytime they ask if I have a boyfriend. I would get crushes for like 3 days and then they would disappear. But recently, I've been more and more exposed with the LGBT community and I remember watching Rocky Horror Picture Show and just thinking "Hey, having a crush on a female celebrity is ok. It's all ok." And it just went from there. At first, it was just "man, that girl is sexy" but in a matter of months, I've developed a crush on one of my friends. I've always thought we were eerily similar and fun to talk to but now...I get so giddy around her. I've come to accept I'm bi (possibly lesbian...?) and don't get me wrong, it feels right. I swear. But I just want to know if its normal for it to be so fast. And then I shall go on daydreaming about my future girlfriend. 
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Post: #644370  , Sun 29 Apr 12, 2:49AM |
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:: Xeffy
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
anyone that defines sexuality as a phase is in denial... you know what else is a phase of all of our existence? LIFE! its such a small part of what goes on in our existence. Life is just a phase.
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Post: #644372 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 2:53AM |
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Well, usually you have had feelings for the same gender since you were born. That's just how it works. It just depends on when YOU realize you have these feelings for them. So you don't one day just wake up with these feelings, they have always been there. Now I'm not saying that's ALWAYS the case because gets have been some like rare cases or something. So you're fine. 
"You can't love someone as much as you can miss them"- John Green, An Abundance of Katherine's
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Post: #644373 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 2:54AM |
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:: Twillz
:: QA10 Community God | |
When I was in middle school, I was straighter than a line. Over the summer between 8th and 9th grade, I realized that I wasn't straight. By October of my Freshman year, I identified as a lesbian.
'Course now, I'm straight again because I identify as male now...but that's besides the point xD
It's perfectly normal for your sexuality to develop in such a short period. It happened in about 3-4 months for me. It's a little unusual that it happened later in your teenage years, but shit happens. Don't feel weird or bad or anything, you are who you are
"Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times...if one only remembers to turn on the lights" ~Albus Dumbledore |
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Post: #644376 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 3:00AM |
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Thanks for the encouraging posts, everybody. I feel welcomed, haha. I guess y'all are right. I should accept myself even if it has happened relatively quickly and I am in my later teens...in my defense, before I identified as bi, I thought kissing was gross. I am indeed a very late bloomer. I'm really glad I asked. I feel better already!
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Post: #644381 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 3:09AM |
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I had myself convinced for quite awhile that my girlfriend at 16 was "just a phase." It was easier for me to cope with the hatred at school and at home when people found out. I masqueraded as entirely straight for about 2 whole years, suppressing my feelings.
This past year, I realized I wasn't being honest with anyone, myself included, and all these feelings came flooding back. If anything, my being "100% straight" was a phase!
I'll reiterate what Nick said, just be you! I've found labels to be limiting and usually unnecessary, knowing what you feel is ok is the most important thing.
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Post: #644397 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 3:48AM |
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