So, here's the breakdown: I'm a FtM transgender. I;m dating a girl who is about 98% out of the closet pansexual. My family still recognizes me as a girl, so I haven't said anything about her. She changed her relationship status today, sending me the request to confirm it.
Here's the issue: I have family on facebook. If I click 'accept' (which I /really/ want to do) they all find out I'm dating a girl, which will inevitably wind up in the whole "I'm not gay I'm a guy" conversation. My parents would probably be cool about it, but the rest of my family...
Then, if I ignore it, I have no way of knowing how my girlfriend will react.
What do I do?
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Post: #644321  , Sun 29 Apr 12, 12:58AM |
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What do you want to do?
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But words might just kill me
If you truly own yourself no one can use you against you~ Chris Colfer 💘
"It's not about who you are attracted to ultimately, it's about who you fall in love with." -Glee
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Post: #644322 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 12:59AM |
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Have you tried talking to your girlfriend about it? I'm sure that if she knew your situation she would understand. In the end, it's all up to you.
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Post: #644325 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 1:13AM |
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:: Xeffy
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Just like in the "10 Crack Commandments" I like to keep my family and business separated... no fam on FB
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Post: #644352 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 2:18AM |
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:: Kholie36
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I'm pretty sure you can hide your relationship status from certain people. Don't know if you want to, just saying.
"That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good fucking life"-Chuck Palahniuk
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Post: #644916 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 7:31PM |
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You could also just have your relationship status as "in a relationship" instead of "in a relationship with ______" Of course, then everyone will want to know who.
I agree you could talk to your girlfriend about the situation.
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Post: #644992 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 11:04PM |
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Do not do anything until you've had a chance to talk with your girlfriend about it. It's an important decision which includes the two of you. Don't pu her in the position of having created a major family problem for you.
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Post: #645057 , Tue 1 May 12, 2:40AM |
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Yeah.
Talk to her.
I mean I bet she would understand if you told her
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But words might just kill me
If you truly own yourself no one can use you against you~ Chris Colfer 💘
"It's not about who you are attracted to ultimately, it's about who you fall in love with." -Glee
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Post: #645060 , Tue 1 May 12, 2:44AM |
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