So, I have been thinking a little bit about dating and guys and whatnot, and I keep thinking about this. What would happen if a relationship consisted of two tops or two bottoms? Would it fail?
Do you think it is a good idea to find out a person's sexual preference before you consider entering a relationship with them?
This doesn't only apply to sex, but also to things like cuddling, kissing, etc.
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Post: #642858  , Tue 24 Apr 12, 5:49AM |
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Here's a tip for you. Try something new. A relationship is about give and take, if that means putting it to him or vice versa then so be it. Most people I have met don't fit neatly into the category f bottom or top.
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Post: #642866 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 8:05AM |
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IMO bottom or top is mostly only talking about sex positions and not status in the relationship. If your both bottom im sure you can work something out.
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Post: #642885 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 11:30AM |
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No, they're not allowed. 
Of course they can. That's like saying that only opposites attract.
While "top" and "bottom" traditionally refer to someone's sexual style, I'm assuming that you're actually using them to refer to whether someone is masculine or feminine in a relationship. In this case, whether someone is attracted to a "top" or a "bottom" has nothing to do with whether they themselves are tops or bottoms. It depends on the individual's personal preferences.
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Post: #642953 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 8:04PM |
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Are there that many guys who are exclusively one or the other anyway? I mean, I don't know much about the topic but it seems unlikely that most people only ever do one or the other.
Anyway, sex is only one element of a relationship, and being a top or bottom only really applies to one aspect of sex. I mean, if both guys only want to be in the same position, there's always plenty of other stuff they can do, right?
Of course tops can date tops and bottoms can date bottoms. (That sounds so weird. Can someone maybe come up with nicer names than top and bottom?)
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Post: #642957 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 8:11PM |
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Top and bottom does sound really funny to me to. But that's kind of just it, it sounds to me kind of like asking a hetero person, "Can people who prefer doggie style date people who prefer missionary?" Of course they can.
If the relationship is based even a little more than on just sex, I'm sure you could talk and work out what your preferences are. After all, relationships are give and take. And I also find it hard to believe that most guys are either exclusively "top" or "bottom".
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Post: #642961 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 8:18PM |
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If you truly become attracted to each other, you may (not change, or get forced into) but be 'inspired' to become a top/bottom... if that makes sense?
Hahah, i see where you are coming from though! And your opinion if very valid, it would be an obstacle in a relationship!
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Post: #642964 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 8:23PM |
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Eh I knew guys who were like this. Their boyfriend HAD to be dom or sub. I kinda don't care because I look for personality over sex position.
But to be honest, I'm a versatile/switch who needs a versatile/switch. >.<
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Post: #644673 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 10:03PM |
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No
Tips are hotter anyway, it wouldn't be fair ;(
And a bottom plus a bottom... All I see is a bitch fight about who's penertrating who xD
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Post: #644687 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 10:36PM |
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Okai. Maybe I'm going against the grain here but I am attracted the way bottoms tend to act and I consider myself a bottom as well... That being said you cannot categorize people so I like those who like me... And for me it's simple that way.
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Post: #644712 , Sun 29 Apr 12, 11:57PM |
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^I'm kinda more top and I like tops better usually... >.>
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Post: #644714 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 12:01AM |
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Where does someone like me fit in, who thinks of themselves as sexually a top, but has the personality more characteristic of a bottom?
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Post: #644719 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 12:19AM |
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Of course it can happen. The more you experience it the more you realise that rarely is a man purely a bottom or a top. The roles change to suit their partner. If you want a committed emotional relationship then you need to be prepared to give as much as you take in all areas
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Post: #644730 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 1:35AM |
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^Lol "give as much as you take".
@Dominykas You're a submissive top. Which means you'd probably look for a power bottom. I'm kind of the same way, I guess.
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Post: #644754 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 2:51AM |
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I think they can. You know, love doesn't have to revolve around penetration. That's sort of a lame way of viewing love. But with me, honestly, if I'm not bottom, then penetration just isn't happening. :/
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Post: #644757 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 3:00AM |
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I think its fine. Personally, its obnoxious to always receive and not give or give and never receive.
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Post: #644848 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 1:27PM |
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Many gay men don't even have anal sex anyways, so the answer is "yes".
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Post: #644852 , Mon 30 Apr 12, 1:44PM |
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I personally consider myself more of a top but I wouldn't mind being with someone else who considers themselves a top because I mean if you love each other than it really shouldn't matter and personally I don't think I'd mind all that much being a bottom, it's just that I see myself being more of a top. I don't know if others would feel the same way but that's how I feel about the whole thing. =P
Also there is the option of "taking turns" that I've considered, and would probably enjoy the most. Lol x)
Now if you were talking about whether a relationship between two "masculine" men or two "feminine" men would work out then yes I believe they would most definitely work but, again, it all depends on if the couple truly loves one another or not. Love is what holds a relationship together, nothing else should get in the way of your love for someone unless of course they're like cheating on you or some B.S. like that in which case they never truly loved you to begin with. Anyway I'm getting off topic, for me I personally see myself being with more of a "masculine" guy despite being a more "masculine" guy myself. I dunno why this is but I've just never really been attracted to the more "feminine" kind of guy and so yea I think a relationship between two guys who are "masculine" or two guys who are "feminine" would work out perfectly fine. =)
While I know that the first part of this reply was what you were probably talking about I just wanted to make sure and so yea... Lol x)
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Post: #645045 , Tue 1 May 12, 2:20AM |
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I'm a top, Not because I'm masculine.. Which I am, but because I don't like to bottom..
And neither does my boyfriend, we're both tops.. But that doesn't mean we don't have sex.. it's just that we don't have anal sex 
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Post: #686264 , Sun 4 Nov 12, 5:58PM |
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I think that it is totally okay, one of the pair will find that they are willing to bend the other way a little bit. If the relationship works, the people will adapt.
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