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Topic: Asked out just because you're gay?
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She's got black hair that is usually streaked with a different colors every few months. She's in a grade below me, so it's the whole "don't interject with other grades" thing. I try to talk to her sometimes, and sometimes it works, but other times she just kind of gives me this why-are-you-talking-to-me look and walks on. I found out she's switching schools next year because our school sucks, which really kinda upset me but at the same time its motivation; never gonna see her again, might as well make a fool of myself instead of wondering
Lol, your last few statements made my day "then just get 'em drunk, kiss them slowly and stick your hand down their pants" XDD Completely caught me off guard!
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Khalil Gibran
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Post: #642803  , Tue 24 Apr 12, 3:27AM |
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:: Puff
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
"She's got black hair that is usually streaked with a different colors every few months." Ok, probably going to have to steal her now... Sorry :'(
Outside of school, are there any places you would really see her or have a reasonable chance of meeting up? And if she is leaving and you just tell her that you like her, what is the worst thing that could happen if you are already out and proud?  She possibly says she's straight and you lose nothing but at least you can kinda start to move onto girls who are interested instead of waiting and wondering
It works.... Trust me from experience ;) Being a gay guy and being able to think like a girl and control stupid teenage boys is so much fun  Explains why the Irish are such babes ;) Always getting you peoples drunk  x
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Post: #642807 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 3:36AM |
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Lol, Tom and B, you guys are literally having your own convo here... Gosh, it's not even about the topic anymorw hahaha. But it's entertaining so carry on xD
I'm as straight as a rainbow
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Post: #642813 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 3:45AM |
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:: Puff
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I'm just here, 4:50 a.m. avoiding a Hamlet essay now due in less than four hours, not started. Giving quality advice that you should please ignore most of B
Just quality commitment ;) x
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Edit: Puff, Tue 24 Apr 12, 3:50AM
Post: #642817 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 3:50AM |
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Haha, I'm supposed to be learning lines for a play, but alas, here I am what can I say? It's fun to have totally random conversations in totally random places :3
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Khalil Gibran
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Post: #642821 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:01AM |
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:: Puff
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Ok in fairness it's actually the stairs that are acting as an obstacle to the upstairs I'm tired and seriously don't want to face that challenge alone x
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Post: #642825 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:03AM |
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And it's 6am here, have yet to sleep in 24 hrs o.O And I have an art project to do. Lol, QA is the place to go to procrastinate!
Wow, my parents just got up for work and I haven't even slept yet x_X .
QA really is an addiction... QAddict xD hahaha
I'm as straight as a rainbow
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Post: #642826 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:06AM |
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:: crashley
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
I usually avoid dating girls younger than me or bisexuals so I can avoid that problem...
It sucks
I'm not a nice person,
But I'm a good person
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Post: #642828 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:08AM |
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Tom and W: what kind of people would we be if we didn't procrastinate? It's so much fun! It's only 10:15 pm where I am so I'm good for awhile
Ash: younger people? Is is more common with younger people? Because I kind of like girls younger than me. When I think about it, I guess younger people would still be trying to find themselves and such.
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Khalil Gibran
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Post: #642833 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:17AM |
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:: Puff
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
Ok, I do actually need to go now... It's getting bright and I think this essay needs to be done tbh.... Remember what I said about alcohol.... Use it ;) Night/Morning all x
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Post: #642836 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:23AM |
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Tom: haha I'll keep that in mind. PM me whenever you wanna talk
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Khalil Gibran
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Post: #642838 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:27AM |
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B + Tom: *sigh*, it's true, procrastination is fun! And B, count urself lucky: you have so much time to do ur stuff
Now for a proper response to what is *actually* being asked...
Firstly, we are generalising quite a bit here. I've never been in this situation, but I feel like younger people and bis are being severally sterotyped, and its not fair. Just putting it out there: not all bis will cheat on u/dump you randomly. It is your own insecurity to deal with if you don't wanna date a bi person coz of a stereotype.
People are allowed to be a little confused about their sexuality and some find experimentation the best way to figure things out. And obviously, the best way to go about that is experimenting with a person who's already sure of what they are. So if you're cool with that, it should be fine. Just think of it as a mentoring ;) lol, jk .
It just boils down to people being frank with each other. If you just wanna have some fun/experiment, tell that person so they know where you guys stand. And if you don't wanna be fooling around, remember, you're allowed to say "no".
And I've successfully sounded very preachy... Can tick that off the bucket list...
I'm as straight as a rainbow
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Post: #642840 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:37AM |
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Touché W, touché....
I understand that it technically would be stereotyping against younger people, and bisexuals, I don't really think it is. More or less saying to be cautious with them, not just deciding not to date them. Heck, I'd be all for dating a younger bisexual, and if I get hurt along the way, well that's life
P.S. well, at least it's something off your bucket list; one less thing on a long list of stuff to do
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Khalil Gibran
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Post: #642842 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 4:47AM |
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Thank you, thank you *elaborate bow* lol... XD
Oh, and directly answering your second question, yes, technically, you are being used. But not in a bad way. Well, that actually depends on the actual people involved.
You can only be used if someone comes into such relationship under false pretences, going back to being frank with each other. So if said person pretends to wanna actually have a meaningful relationship, but they just wanna experiment, they are using you. But if you are upfront about your intentions, all should be well.
Lesson of the story: be honest and don't play annoying mind games.
And this has been Story Time with W, I hope you enjoyed xD
I'm as straight as a rainbow
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Post: #642853 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 5:06AM |
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Haha, I suppose that's a good point. Just the whole kindergarten lesson "Don't tell lies" in grown up words
I'm surprised my forum has like two pages already. Granted, over half of its Tom and I, but still. I feel accomplished xD
I think I'm going to go to sleep too. It's been a long day and I can't function if I stay up too long. Talk to you later :{D
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone, but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.” ― Khalil Gibran
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Post: #642855 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 5:12AM |
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im not 'out' yet so no one realli knws dat im gay.
but i did kind of experiment wth someone and no one used anyone in dat 'relationship'.
Life is too ironic. It takes sadness to know what happiness is, noise to appreciate silence, and absence to value presence.
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Post: #642856 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 5:43AM |
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I didn't actually realize that this 'sort-of' happebed to me one time.
Basically, I'll do it quickly because I'm supposed to be working ;P
Basically, the guy in mention, was straight, then realized he was bi, fell in love with me and then realized he was 100% gay...then he realized he was straight...
That takes confusion to the freakin' max but shit didn't it hurt me...but hey, I guess I'm awesome enough to be able to say I was used for "experimental purposes".
Dick.
The First, Last and Only thing I will ever say...Never give up hope, Always believe and Hold onto your dreams...♥
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Post: #642996 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 10:26PM |
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Happened to me, I said yeah cos I didn't know what else to say
dont reccomend it
I'm a Loiner, apparently...
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Post: #642997 , Tue 24 Apr 12, 10:28PM |
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