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Topic: getting married, but want a girlfriend?
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Ok so I am getting married in July and I love my fiance (Joey) and i am super excited, but there is this part of me that feel sad...
I am bi, but I have never truly gotten to experience sex or a relationship with a girl and a part of me has always just wanted to know what its like...
now that I am getting married I will never know, not that I would ever want to break things off of put them on pause to find out, but I think a part of me is scared to get married because one I am not used to people sticking around and two I am still curious...
thing is i feel horrible about this  am i a bad person for this? will it go away?
Thanks
belle
"IM Bisexual,
YOU"RE confused"
"Love is Love, end of story"
<3 Joey+Tah
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Post: #640081  , Tue 17 Apr 12, 1:02AM |
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In my experience curiosity has to be satisfied to go away. You could ask him to let you try things, make a firm decision to ignore your feelings, or ask yourself should you really be getting married if your not 100 percent certain about 100 percent of the time.
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Post: #640108 , Tue 17 Apr 12, 1:32AM |
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Thing is I am certain about him and wanting to be with him, i dont even really want to be with a girl I just wonder what it would be like I guess.
"IM Bisexual,
YOU"RE confused"
"Love is Love, end of story"
<3 Joey+Tah
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Post: #640111 , Tue 17 Apr 12, 1:36AM |
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so then ask him if you can try it, having open communication like that with him will be good for your relationship, if its something you want then try to make it happen, if he doesnt seem interested in it then at least you know you tried.
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Post: #640118 , Tue 17 Apr 12, 1:49AM |
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Dude. I'm totally in the same shoes right now, and I'm so surprised to see this. Thought I was alone, or just wrong about it. In fact, it got to the point that i had left the site until just a few minutes ago to try and totally repress that part of me.
I understand though- it's not that you're "unsatisfied" by any means, because the guy is great. Prince Charming-incarnate and all the sparkles and excitement of an upcoming wedding... but it's still easy to notice other women and just imagine it. It's those times you wish for just a kiss, just to hold her hand down the street. Not even necessarily a full blown affair, just the perks of a relationship that can trigger that desire.
It sucks, doesn't it?
Though, the more I actually let myself think about it, the more I'm positive that if I had to redo it, I'd choose the same path. If I ever had the opportunity to try something, I'd never take it- even with his permission...
I don't really have any advice on it, sorry... I guess I just wanted to post a thank you for posting it here, or this could also be one of those "no worries, you're not alone- I understand how you feel, and it doesn't make you a bad person" shout outs.
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Post: #640221 , Tue 17 Apr 12, 7:29AM |
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