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This seems kinda weird to me. 
I myself am a gay dude but I can't stand other gay dudes. And no, it's not because of the whole "feminine" thing. Most "masculine" gay men I've met were just as bad. I do have a few gay guy friends, but that's because they can actually control themselves and are fun to be around without being obnoxious. I'm not very social in general though and hate most people, so that could be a big part of it.
This is also gonna sound weird; specifically I tend to dislike bottom/submissive guys. They've had the worst, most bitchy attitudes I've ever come across. They treated me like dirt or just an object with a dick they could ride. Perhaps it's that they remind me of women, maybe not how they act or dress, but their sexual role. I don't hate women, it's just a lot of girls have treated me like dirt and been mean to me in the past, so perhaps my brain is making that connection.
For some reason though, I usually love bi guys. Over half the guys I've liked have been bi. Their personalities have been a lot better. It seems like they know how to deal with everyone since they like both genders. They're not slutty at all, despite the popular belief (well, some may be). They almost never flaunt their sexuality like it's a fad. And of course since they're bi, I have a chance with them. xD And also a lot of them were better looking than the gay men I met, for whatever reason.
I like some straight guys too, but of course I make sure I don't get too attatched. Some are completely obnoxious, but my friends aren't.
And if anyone's wondering, as for women, they tend to hate me no matter what. I have like 2 or 3 girl friends, that's it.
So yeah is this weird?
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Post: #638195  , Fri 13 Apr 12, 5:25PM |
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:: Rakkaus
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I'm flattered someone actually likes us for a change  ...usually we're getting hated on by both gays and straights...
But anyway, while it's fine to have your own preferences, it's not very nice to 'hate' our gay brothers...
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Post: #638235 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 7:04PM |
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This reminds me of a post a while back. Though not as hostile this is still kinda insulting towards gay people.
I'm a Loiner, apparently...
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Post: #638236 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 7:08PM |
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Well, it's not weird as much as I react the same to anyone who goes down the path of claiming that a large demographic of people (such as an entire gender or sexuality) hates them or claim to be annoyed by an entire gender or sexuality: it's not just them, it's also you.
I've never met someone who claimed they hated/disliked an entire gender/sexuality or claimed they were hated by an entire gender/sexuality who didn't also have their own negative qualities that either attracted that hatred or made it harder for them to like people. That's just my experience.
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Edit: Merovingian, Fri 13 Apr 12, 7:27PM
Post: #638244 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 7:23PM |
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I would prefer not to experience this type of stereotypical 'banter' about all gay people to be posted on here seen as I and probably most of the gay people get it enough in real life. I am neither obnoxious or in the habit of treating people like dirt
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Post: #638246 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 7:25PM |
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I'm sorry I just gotta rant sometimes and don't know what else to do because it drives me crazy. It doesn't really make sense to me either why it would happen this way. I don't see how I would do anything wrong to make anyone hate me though. I think gay men hate me if I refuse to have sex with them. =\ Or don't support the pride parades or whatever they do. I really am not a fan of promiscuity. As for girls not liking me... it was mostly in school, they would hang around their clique of girls and the "hot" guys. An unnatractive, weird, nerdy guy like me had no chance befriending them. Even the girls who were the outcasts like me, I tried befriending them. Some of them were lesbian feminists who hated all guys. And some girls were just too sensitive and if you said the word "penis" around them they'd be like "EWW YOU'RE SO GROSS AND IMMATURE LOSER!!!".
I gotta wonder if I can turn myself bi somehow... it'd make my self-esteem higher for sure.
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Post: #638276 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 8:18PM |
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@weeird but not all gay guys are like that and I know that because I'm not. I've only had sex once and that was with a guy who I'd been with for over a year, and don't talk about 'turning' yourself bi, you'll have enough of people trying to 'turn' you in your life so don't be one of them yourself, for your own sake
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Post: #638321 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 9:21PM |
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^^ Well said, Dominykas.
All I'm seeing is a lot of generalizations about an entire demographic without any factual basis to prove that your theory has even a modicum of truth to it.
If a lot of people don't like you, it could be because you've written off everyone within the gay community as hateful and that you're going to dislike them solely because a few people didn't feel obliged to fit your standards.
Not everyone is going to be nice and accepting, but that goes for everyone; not just bottom/submissive guys and women.
This is just as insulting as your thread about transgender people looking more attractive pre-transition.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Edit: dancing_ninja, Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:09PM
Post: #638338 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 9:44PM |
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I only have one thing to say: Not all gays are submissive, obnoxious, or treat people like dirt. It's insulting when you say something like that because 1) That's hypocritical since you're also gay so why don't you just hate yourself and 2) It's rude and biased. All those things you've said about gays are not true because they aren't true about me and I'm gay.
Okay… maybe that was more than one thing.
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Post: #638360 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:18PM |
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Maybe the reason why you don't have a lot of friends is due to your lack of filter? You chose to put a pretty offensive topic on a lgbt site with a lot of gay people and to not expect this kind of outcome would be not very bright
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Post: #638370 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:35PM |
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I never said they were true for everyone, I did mention I had friends who were gay guys and friends who were girls who I got along well with. And if you're wondering why I don't go out with the friends I have who are gay guys, it's because I only see them as friends and not dating material. Lol.
Basically this thread was how people specifically treat me and seem like to me, in my experiences. Not everybody's.
I admit that I do make offensive threads. I rant a lot. I get bored and crave attention. Everybody does.
And yes I am quite a self-loather. I've pretty much been taught to hate myself.
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Post: #638372 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:36PM |
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Not everyone does crave attention. Some people don't want it at all.
"Are you ok?" "Yeah... I'm just tired." T orn apart, I nsecure, R eally faking a smile, E xtremely sad, D rowning in my tears "...yeah just tired."
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Post: #638376 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:46PM |
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:: XlobX
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"Hate" is a strong word.
There is nothing about my personality that is effected by my sexuality.
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Post: #638378 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:52PM |
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That's like saying you're a naturally angry person so it's okay to hit people. It doesn't make it 'right' or justifiable.
Your self-abnegation has nothing to do with the offensive nature of your threads, nor your condescension towards the gay community.
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Edit: dancing_ninja, Fri 13 Apr 12, 11:05PM
Post: #638381 , Fri 13 Apr 12, 10:56PM |
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wow some one likes bi men? holy shit i thought every one hsted us. any way though the fact that u hate guy men but like bi men seems a bit hypocritical dont you think cause if you think about it bi guys r gay too
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Post: #638641 , Sat 14 Apr 12, 1:34PM |
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:: Tiara
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
Hate is a strong word. However I see where you're coming from with bi guys; But at the same time, not really. I find I have more in common with bi guys and they're more likely to accept me. However, that's also a generalization. People are people, they're not they're sexuality. Perhaps you should pay more attention to the person behind the sexuality. You would work on meeting people and getting to know them for who they are, not all gay guys are going to be annoying and not all bi guys are going to be the "enlightened ones". You know? Judgements based upon a group like this is what caused the holocaust.
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Post: #641702 , Sat 21 Apr 12, 6:12PM |
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I've met a few shitty bi guys, can't say I've really met more than maybe one gay guy who I actually got along really well with.
Actually, if someone has an awesome personality and treats me nicely, I tend to automatically assume they're bi. >.>
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Post: #641704 , Sat 21 Apr 12, 6:14PM |
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I'm gay and a bottom and I have the same exact problem with other gay guys lmao. Nice to meet you..? 
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Post: #641713 , Sat 21 Apr 12, 6:39PM |
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it's not weird.
not all gay guys are like that, maybe you've just only met bad ones. but it's your right to have your own preference. i don't like being stereotyped and we're not all like that but we all stereotype people. maybe you've just had the bad end of the stick... just keep an open mind, you may find one you like.
it will be alright in the end, and if it's not alright, it's not the end yet.
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Post: #641753 , Sat 21 Apr 12, 9:02PM |
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:: Xeffy
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I hate gay guys who base their life around being gay... sexuality has little to do with who you are as a person.
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Post: #641756 , Sat 21 Apr 12, 9:25PM |
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