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Topic: Is your sexuality a big part of who you are?
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I've heard quite a few openly queer people say being gay is a big part of who they are but I really don't feel this way. My sexuality is at the bottom of the list of ways I'd describe myself. What do you guys think?
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Post: #625951  , Thu 8 Mar 12, 8:50PM |
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It depends on the person I suppose. For me having been bisexual for 5 1/2 years, that's a big part of who I am now.
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Post: #625952 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 8:53PM |
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Being a member of a very discriminated-against minority group has shaped how I perceive things quite a bit, so yeah, my sexuality is quite a large part of who I am. I can't help it; blame society for making it "abnormal" to be gay.
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Post: #625953 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 9:08PM |
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Its hard to say.. I suppose its easy to guess as I'm very expressive.. so I suppose so 
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Post: #625955 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 9:24PM |
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For me, its a part of who I am, but no more important than my favorite color or physical strength. Low priority.
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Post: #625960 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 9:42PM |
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For me, it's not something i necessarily define myself by, but it's something i struggled with for a long time, and has led me to some wonderful people (QA and my youth group) So yes it's a big part of who i am but it's not the ruling part.
Okay so i'm just going to sit in my corner and be my own brand of awesome, feel free to join me ^^
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Post: #625963 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 9:46PM |
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It's a big deal for me atm :L Just cos I'm thinking about coming out and who'll be okay with it and what'll happen and how it changes my life that I'm not straight and shizz. I hope It'll stay a big part of my life but in a good way and it'll never define me x
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Post: #625972 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 10:27PM |
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it's not a complete defenition to me, but it has made itself a big part of who I am because of the implications it has.
it brings implications on the issue of love and sex because I now have to think about it conciously whenever the topic arises because I have to alter the situation to my situation.
also, being a part of a group that has so much attention really, both good and bad, it has arisen to be a big part because of how it places me in a focused and changing position.
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Post: #625973 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 10:29PM |
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I would say so, yeah. On the flip side of everyone whose been out for years, I've been open with sexuality for about six months. But it's still big for me. Why? Well the reason I came out in the first place was cause everything I did, from how I felt about the evening news to what I wanted to wear today, was impacted by my sexuality. Now that I'm out it's still that way.
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Post: #625974 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 10:30PM |
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It wasn't when I first came out, of course everyone associated me with my sexuality, but I myself didn't. Now, when I look back on my first years of being out, going on my 6th year of being out, I realize that I really did. So, to answer the question, yes it is!
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Post: #625978 , Thu 8 Mar 12, 10:53PM |
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Interesting to hear from all of you
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Post: #626114 , Fri 9 Mar 12, 8:36PM |
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When someone asks about myself, the first thing I say is not "I like boys AND girls." Of course, eventually it's something that I want people to know if they're going to be around for awhile because I have no tolerance for judgemental or ignorant people, and I feel it's something that people need to a accept about me.
Looking at the question from a different perspective, my sexuality has played a very huge part of who I have become, especially since my first kiss, first relationship and first sexual experience was with a girl. I feel that it's made me a much more open-minded person, and also more sympathetic because I got a lot of crap from my family, classmates and especially school staff and teachers. I am from a small town and it was probably the first open gay relationship my school had seen in years.
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Post: #626115 , Fri 9 Mar 12, 8:57PM |
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I wouldn't say being gay is a trait for me, but the bullying and harassment I've suffered for it has shaped who I am. So I guess indirectly it is.
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Post: #626136 , Fri 9 Mar 12, 11:08PM |
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Even though it's not typically something I bring up in conversation, I guess you could say it's a big part of who I am at the moment, because lately I (unfortunately) can't stop thinking about homophobia, stereotyping and other such unpleasant treatment of gay people. I think if I could dial down how much I care just a notch (caring is good, but caring too much is just needlessly painful), then it really would just be a background part of who I am.
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Post: #626196 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 3:01AM |
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This reminds me of an interaction I had with my aunt while struggling with coming out.
She looked at me and say, "You're not gay, you're Jamie."
Sexuality is a part of who I am, but frankly, half the time I forget I'm gay. On a daily basis, it's not a big deal and doesn't define what I do. My beliefs, my goals, and my actions define me.
That's my 2 cents.
Respectfully,
J
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Post: #626203 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 3:19AM |
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Eh, yes and no. It really depends on what you mean by a "big part". My being queer is certainly an integral part of who I am. It's weird to think back to a couple of years ago when I believed that I was straight (because now this seems so normal to me), but did I radically change as a person, because of it? No.
I don't run around telling every person I meet that I'm queer, but my close friends know, and if it happens to come up in conversation, then so be it.
So I guess in the end I consider being queer like anything else. Yes, it's part of me, but it's no more important than any other part. I also happen to be shy and good at math, but I don't run around announcing that to the world, either.
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Post: #626206 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 3:25AM |
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For now, yes. But after I come out, probably not. It has a big impact now because I have to censor everything I say so I don't out myself, and I'm still figuring out when I should come out to different people.
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Post: #626207 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 3:26AM |
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Of who I am... I'm not sure. I don't really know who I am.  On QA I'm a genderweird bi/pansexual, so I suppose on some level. But out in the real world, I'm, to me at least, nameless, different, and in love with everyone to some degree. The gender of other people hardly phases me, and I don't even notice that much when it comes to attraction. I'm not involved in any big LGBT groups, I don't actively support gay rights, etc. I don't suffer maltreatment from anybody because I'm not "straight." So I dunno, I can't really answer the question. I'm just ranting in circles xD
I guess it's an ever-present part of my life, but it doesn't define me in one word. xP
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Post: #626219 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 4:19AM |
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well, it depends on how much love is apart of your life, or how much you feel it is.
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Post: #626230 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 4:40AM |
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Not at all. Its just a small portion of who I am and it definitely is not what makes me who I am. I feel that yes it has possibly helped me become stronger and more out spoken because of having to deal with homophobes but it really is not a big part of my identity.
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Post: #626249 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 5:51AM |
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