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Topic: Getting Your Kid's Ears Pierced?
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There's a mall really close to my house, and often when I'm walking around, I'll pass the Claire's there and see some little kid, around 3, sitting in the ear-piercing chair, screaming at the top of their lungs that they don't want to do this, while their mother or father forces them to sit still while an employee pokes holes in their ears. I don't understand why people always want to pierce their kids ears when the kids don't even want it, or they're to young to even say whether they want it or not because they can't speak yet. Especially since the kids aren't old enough to care for their own ears while they're newly pierced, which increases the risk of infection. Personally, I think that it should be the kid's decision whether they want to get their ears pierced or not. Of course, the parents have to give their permission first, but the kid should be allowed to have some say. I know a lot of parents want to be able to put cute little butterfly earrings in their little girl's ears or they argue that doing it young means they probably won't remember it later in life, but if someone was going around giving their one, two, three-year old belly-button and lip piercings, wouldn't you think that was kind of sick? Why are ears any different? What do the rest of you think about this? Did you have your ears pierced at a young age/without your permission? How do you feel about this now?
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Post: #624384  , Fri 2 Mar 12, 11:43AM |
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I wasn't allowed to get my ears pierced until I turned 10, at which time I was impatient to get it done. I don't wear earrings all that much now, but I like having it as an option.
However, I don't think it's for everyone. I don't know how I would have felt if I had gotten them pierced at a young age, but I can imagine it isn't exactly... fun. For the kid or the person trying to pierce their ears. So yeah, I think the kids should have veto power.
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Post: #624389 , Fri 2 Mar 12, 2:31PM |
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I'm not into modifying a child's body without their consent unless a medical condition necessitates it.
Apply this to other situations as you wish. Hint: One of them starts with a "C" and ends with "ircumcision".
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Edit: Merovingian, Fri 2 Mar 12, 8:53PM
Post: #624455 , Fri 2 Mar 12, 8:52PM |
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My mom wanted to do that when I was younger, but my dad was completely against it. So I didn't. I got them peirced a while ago. I can think about how hard it would be on a little kid. It didn't bother me too much. I just sat there and then it was like, DONE!
I don't think it should be alowed to be done if the child dosen't want it done. And if the kid really wants it, then they should be told that it might hurt.
My dad's friend was against his daughter getting her ear peirced, but then he went to do something and his wife got them done anyways. (Or should I say ex wife?)
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Post: #624458 , Fri 2 Mar 12, 8:59PM |
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:: Jaden
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Getting a kids ears pierced when they don't want it is horrible enough.
But parents let people pierce their kids ears with a gun meant for tagging cattle, that can't be cleaned from the micro blood splatter, only wiped down with a alcohol pad so now you've subjected your child to risk or raging infection and horrible disease along with the tissue damage done but a blunt earring being forced through at high speed. Unless it's one of the newer "safer" guns that still can't be cleaned properly and now only force them through at slow speed.
The most training the people at these places have is usually a half hour long video as well. No knowledge of proper placement, cleaning, anything really. A half hour video to mutilate peoples bodies and expose them to huge amounts of risk.
Before I knew any better I had my ears gunned. They were done the first time when I was like 10 because I really, really wanted them pierced. And a few times after that. My ear was actually damaged pretty good by a gun.
I wont let anyone I know get pierced with a gun now. If my children want to be pierced, I don't care if they're seven or seventeen, they're going to a professional piercer. It will be done cleanly, safely, less painfully, and it will be my kids choice.
Forcing body mutilation on a small child is just horrible.
And there really was a mother who pierced her toddlers nose. I believe social services were called on her and the piercing was removed. Because piercing your childs nose is so so much different then their ear lobes... Its all equally as horrible.
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Post: #624471 , Fri 2 Mar 12, 9:49PM |
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:: byoda
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I got my ears pierced at six months. While I love having piercings, I would have rather waited until I had a choice. I doubt I'll get my kids ears pierced until they're old enough to ask and they really want them. And never, ever get ears pierced at Claire's or Walmart, places that use peircing guns. Peircing guns are unsafe and lad to scarring and infections. Go to a professional 
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Post: #624527 , Sat 3 Mar 12, 12:45AM |
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I was nine months old when I got my ears pierced, and I don't think my parents made a bad decision. It's true that I don't remember the pain, and I love piercings so it doesn't bother me at all.
But I don't think I would let the ears of my child be pierced.
This reminds me of the circumcision discussion. Though in this case it's not as final since everyone can just take out piercings...
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Post: #624670 , Sat 3 Mar 12, 3:17PM |
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I'm 14 and don't have pierced ears. I don't care to either. When parents do that to kids it reminds me of Toddlers and Tiaras. :/
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Post: #624677 , Sat 3 Mar 12, 3:35PM |
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i got my ears pierced when i was a baby with a gun and now the holes are uneven which sucks because i want to stretch my ears i would rather have the needle rather than the gun
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Post: #624691 , Sat 3 Mar 12, 4:31PM |
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:: Crys
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I believe modifying your body to be a very personal thing. I got my ears pierced on my 10th birthday because I genuinely wanted to  I stretched them last year to 5mm and got a tragus piercing
Doing that to your child before they can make a concious decision is downright mean, especially if they are old enough to vocally protest. If they genuinely wanted it then it's a judgement call by parents. Agreed, getting your kid pierced anywhere else than the ears would probably get noticed, but ear piercings are rather common so many people don't think twice about it.
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Post: #625993 , Fri 9 Mar 12, 12:43AM |
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My parents got my ears pierced when I was about eleven months old (Dominican thing, apparently *rolls eyes*)
I never had a problem with it. I know I'd be too chiken to get it now, so I'm glad I don't have to but still can wear earings.
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Post: #626001 , Fri 9 Mar 12, 1:39AM |
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I'm against parents piercing their children's ears without their consent. Everyone should have a choice regarding something that will permanently affect their body.
My parents pierced my ears when I was about 6. I didn't want it then, and I don't want it now. I don't really like earrings and it's just a big hassle to have to wear them almost every day. I'm considering letting the holes close up.
I'm also kind of pissed because they wouldn't have done it if I was a boy. Just because I'm a girl they decided I have to and should want to wear earrings.
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Post: #626364 , Sat 10 Mar 12, 11:42PM |
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Personally, I love having piercings. But my parents didn't let me get my first set until I was 12 and asked for them.
But I am happy that my parents let me make that decission for myself, and I would never make a kid of mine get their ears pierced.
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Post: #626373 , Sun 11 Mar 12, 12:26AM |
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:: Twillz
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I got my ears pierced when I was in 2nd grade, so I was probably about 8 years old. It was my choice, but BOY do I ever regret it. I never got infected, and I don't believe there was any serious damage done by the gun, but those holes are there. Those stupid, feminine piercing holes. I stopped wearing earrings years ago, but they never closed up, so I've had to look at them, and get dysphoric about those stupid holes...for years. I finally decided to stretch them, because I feel like they'd be a bit more masculine that way...
My point is: I think it's horrible to pierce ears at a young age, ESPECIALLY if the child doesn't want it done. The child could grow up to be transgender and their holes won't close up...and those holes could make them feel really dysphoric, just as they have with me.
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Post: #626390 , Sun 11 Mar 12, 1:20AM |
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Nick: Tons of guys have earrings...you shouldn't let it get to you like that. I know more guys with ear piercings than without. Not dangly girly earrings, of course, but studs or stretched ears.
Anyways, I wish I'd had mine done as a baby. I'm terrified of needles, but I eventually sucked it up and got mine pierced because I wanted to be able to wear earrings. I wish it would've just been over and done with before I was old enough to sit around dreading it! xD
I'm definitely against piercings at Claire's, though. If you're going to get your ears or your child's ears pierced, go to a piercing/tattoo shop! They're trained professionals who use sharp sterilized needles. The people at Claire's have no training besides punching a few needles through paper, don't properly sterilize their needles, and use dull needles in piercing guns. The difference between a piercing gun and a regular piercing needle is that a regular needle makes a quick clean cut through your ear; a piercing gun literally rips the skin open, making the risk of infections (and pain) much higher.
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Post: #629524 , Fri 23 Mar 12, 11:59AM |
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I am very much against getting a child's ears pierced while they are too young to really decide of they want them or not. Alon with the risk of infection there is the fact that about 99% of young kids DONT LIKE PAIN. So when you get them pierced you run a high risk of them being crooked, or not properly centered, from the child's movement. That means that is the piercings reach maturity and you don't have to take them out because of infection, or the child's complaining, they will grow up with flunked up holes causing them to, most likely, regret having them done and cause some self confidence issues.
So it's a no go for me until they are old enough to decide.
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Post: #629543 , Fri 23 Mar 12, 3:28PM |
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:: rainbows96
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My mama pierced my ears when I was a little baby. I love my ears being pierced. I like piercings in general and want a lot of them. Even though I like my pierced ears I think the parents should wait to do it when the kid is old enough to have a say instead of taking matters into their own hands.
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Post: #629549 , Fri 23 Mar 12, 5:27PM |
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:: andyman
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well i guess the philosophy behind it that the kid won`t even remembered it and wouldn`t be afraid and have a bad memory of it when they get it done at an older age.
i saw kids at the age of 1 year getting tattoos(small cross on the right hand its kinda popular here) neither me or my siblings got one at young age
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Post: #629553 , Fri 23 Mar 12, 7:11PM |
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:: IzzyInky
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I don't like it when parents force anything upon their kids, regardless of what it is. Whether it's as relatively unimportant as having their ears pierced, or their religion, I don't think it's that fair.
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Post: #629561 , Fri 23 Mar 12, 10:01PM |
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I wish my parents pierced my ears when I was a little kid. My mom wanted to but my dad said no... I FINALLY worked up the guts to get them done when I was like, 13, but then they got infected and closed up so I STILL don't have pierced ears. >.>
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Post: #629580 , Fri 23 Mar 12, 11:48PM |
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