I just moved into the dorms at a new college two days ago. We have these suite style apartments and I share it with three other girls. There are four bedrooms, two bathrooms, a kitchen, and living room.
We were all hanging out in the living room last night and two of the girls were talking about how last semester, one of their suitemates was a bisexual and how it disgusted them. They were talking about how they wouldn't use the same bathroom as her and they never left there room without full-length pants and a sweatshirt on. They were saying some pretty cruel things and using words like "dyke" and "faggot".
I am bisexual
I don't know what to do.
I feel so ashamed for not saying something to them but I don't want to make this semester any more difficult them it already is. I have basically spent all my time locked in my room or on the campus because I don't wanna be around them when they talk like that.
I just don't want to cause any more issues but it's killing me not saying something.
What would you guys do? -____-
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Post: #608728  , Tue 24 Jan 12, 7:16PM |
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move out, get a new room.
that's what i think
it will be alright in the end, and if it's not alright, it's not the end yet.
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Post: #608732 , Tue 24 Jan 12, 7:35PM |
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:: Raijin
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Me?I would tell them I'm bi, then if they bitch about it go make out with the other person.......make them as uncomfortable as possible and like give them a look that tells them to dare say something.
Life's a bitch that why you've got people to make it more interesting 
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Post: #608734 , Tue 24 Jan 12, 7:41PM |
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:: eoretone
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Ouch, that sucks :/.
Honestly I don't think there is much that can be done if it isn't possible to change you room(which, while under normal circumstances it may not be, I'd think a lot of places would be willing to make an exception for cases like this etc.), I'd just try and battle through the next couple of months until you change.
Personally I think I'd end up getting into an argument with them, probably because I can't keep my mouth shut(and deep down... I kind of like arguing with people...), but in reality, what will that achieve? They sound too close-minded to change their mind, considering they've obviously spent a considerable amount of time with someone of a different sexual orientation as them and all they did was make judgements.
I wouldn't feel guilty, and the truth is the vast majority of humanity holds views that are somewhat bigoted, most of the people you know and interact with on a daily basis are probably 'a bit' racist, or have prejudices against certain minorities, but are hardly fully blown bigots.
While their political views may be abhorrent they could be completely decent people who are capable of holding a decent conversation etc.
I'd just try to cease any attempts of an initiation of a conversation that presents the potential to become bitchy.
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Post: #608773 , Tue 24 Jan 12, 9:46PM |
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Please switch rooms. You don't deserve to be belittled, mocked, harassed, and forced to hide for the entire semester. Switch. As soon as you can. DX
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Post: #608774 , Tue 24 Jan 12, 9:50PM |
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Talk to the people who are incharge of the rooms. Tell them that you don't feel safe with the current group of people you are with.
If that dosn't work a sharp knife and some bleach to clean up with should do
Or you could rent cheep lesbian porn and leave it on in the living room while you are out I think they would get the point right away.... or maybe not do that. Sorry i couldn't be more helpful.
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Post: #608777 , Tue 24 Jan 12, 9:54PM |
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I agree- switch rooms if you can.
If you can't- come out to them. Don't be timid about it or they will continue to be angry at you. Hopefully they'll find that you're not scary.
And until you can move, just don't spend much time in your dorms.
I'm not sure what college you go to, but most colleges have an LGBT center created for these kinds of things. Go there.
"The sad thing is that we hate based on who they love." -Dr. John Corvino
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Post: #608890 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 12:46AM |
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:: byoung4evr
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Switch rooms.... It'll make college more fun and exciting if you aren't fretting about what the people you room with think of you all the time.... 
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Post: #608902 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 1:00AM |
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Thanks guys.
I talked to one of my RA's last night and she said she "would see what she could do" about switching my room. So I think I am going to go talk to the head of the college suites about it.
I looked to see if we have an LGBT center here, but we don't. We are like one of the only schools in my state that don't have that type of program.
I am planning on telling my suitemates tonight though.. =/
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Post: #609486 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 8:51PM |
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Get a new room O_O You should never be uncomfortable where you live.
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Post: #609506 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 9:01PM |
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I would DEMAND to be switched to another room. Immediately. If the RA doesn't get you a new roommate situation within like a week, take it to the administration offices, the dean or whoever and tell them there is NO EXCUSE for having to live in such a hostile situation.
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Post: #609508 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 9:02PM |
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#Jason - I'm hoping it will be changed within the week.
I went and talked to the manager of the suites and she said unless I was threatened, I'd be put on a wait list for a new room. She wouldn't tell me how long the wait list was, just that I could get into a new room as soon as tomorrow, but it also could take till the end of the semester. :'( I feel like crying, I'm so upset from all of this.
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Post: #609635 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 11:45PM |
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*hugs* I don't know what to do, but I can give you a internet hug to make you feel better
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Post: #609800 , Thu 26 Jan 12, 2:18AM |
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:: fare
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I'm so sorry that you have to deal with them  You can get through this!
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Post: #609801 , Thu 26 Jan 12, 2:21AM |
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Just start bringing girls over, & make it obvious that you're bisexual.
fuck what though's ignorant girls think.
(sorry stuff like that makes me mad)
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Post: #609802 , Thu 26 Jan 12, 2:22AM |
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#Stevie- thank you! 
thanks guys. I just wanna go home
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