I would have to say dissapointingfhurting my mother. She had 4 kids (2 before me and 1 after) and I'm the only girl. Shes always wanted me to get married and have kids. And thats still possible but I was afraid I would hurt her because I knew it wasn't the life she wanted for her only daughter(did I mention she always wanted a girl?) When I came out to her, she seemed okay with it but a few months later when she was dying my hair she was talking about my upcoming graduation (Im a senior in high school) and said that it was probably the most she could hope for.
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:: Lgbtfan98
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My biggest worry was losing friends. MMy friends mean the world to me and I was really nervous when i told all of them. It went well though. I would also have to say that i was extremely nervous about my parents reactions. That didnt go so well. They freaked out and pretty much disowned me. Luckily, we are all talking now... but they dont accept it at all.
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Post: #588963 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 12:59AM |
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Losing friends. I have very few friends, and pretty much no family. So friends mean a lot to me.
I had a situation like Sahara with my parents. I've been disowned. None of my friends freaked even slightly though. I guess I chose them well.
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Post: #588974 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 1:17AM |
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Simply ' what if he finds out I like him '
That was it
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Post: #588988 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 1:33AM |
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:: ash2342
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losing my friends and family(still is a fear cause i haven't come out yet)
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Post: #588998 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 1:57AM |
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That my parents wouldn't support me I guess. Honestly I wasn't worried because I thought it was all going to go smoothly. I wasn't worried about my friends, they're awesome to begin with that's why I started with them.
"Tell them to look up. Tell them to remember the stars...The stars are always there but we miss them in the dirt and clouds. We miss them in the storms. Tell them to remember hope. We have hope." -Renee Yohe
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Post: #589000 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 2:00AM |
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Being rejected and defined by my sexuality.
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Post: #589001 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 2:03AM |
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For me, it was the fear of being pushed out of the sports I played, which ended up happening.
I began coming out, and the guys began excluding me. Before I knew it, the "alone in a croweded room" thing was a daily occurance, and I was constantly the odd man out. I ended up dropping sports all together because I was so worn out with the exclusion and torment provided by my "team mates."
It was for the better though. I discovered that I'm better with music than I'd thought, and it's going to pay for college tuition next year! Their mediocre sporting isn't going to pay for a single penny of their schooling.
I. Win. (:
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Post: #589033 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 3:51AM |
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My biggest fear is that my mom (whom I'm most closest to) will reject me. She's kinda...homophobic (as is the rest of my family). I don't want to lose her...
Plus, I live in a small town. So, yay me? I don't plan on coming out anytime soon.
Maybe after I graduate from high school...ugh. Or university. Or after I find a place to live, just in case. O.o
I don't know.
I think I'm most worried about being rejected..or that no one will believe me when I tell them.
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Post: #589254 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 2:38PM |
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I was worried my family would treat me differentially for me being who I am.
Although I was lucky in my case because they didn't judge me and just accepted me for who I am.
Although throughout coming out i'm sure like a lot of people I have lost friends and gained new ones it's been one of the most important times in my life coming out and at times it can be hard, but hey what knocks you down in life can only make you stronger. 
What knocks you down in life , can only make you stronger.
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Post: #589258 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 2:46PM |
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@Taron I understand. I'm close to my mom and I didn't know how she would react. And I also live in a small, judgemental town. It's definitely scary especially since everyone around here is religious (even those who aren't very religious have been raised to dislike homosexuality) but I'm definitely happy I did. But if myour mom is homophobic then I understand your hesitation to come out...I had that to I just couldn't hide it any more.
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Post: #589267 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 2:58PM |
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My biggest worry was that my crush/best friend would disown me. I don't know how I'd live without her to look forward to every day. Thankfully that wasn't the case, and she was very accepting, even curious.
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Post: #589277 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 3:32PM |
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I was most worried that my friends would either make a big deal about it (Like, "Wow!! I didn't know that!!! I never could've guessed!!! Why are you just now telling me?? When did you figure out???!!!! How??? Do you like any girls that we know??") or disregard it as unimportant, because as I would like to keep it quiet and just between the people who know, I wouldn't want it like, "Kay." and totally ignored. I want it to matter to them, and I want them to remember, and not to have to come out to them over and over again just because they forgot (Like I have to do with my sister...). But it didn't happen. <3 They didn't make a big deal about it, but it still comes up fairly often. Just often enough to let me know that they haven't forgotten about all the trouble I went through to tell them. <3
The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong in the broken places. But those that will not break it kills. It kills the very good and the very gentle and the very brave impartially. If you are none of these you can be sure it will kill you too but there will be no special hurry. -Ernest Hemingway
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Post: #589280 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 3:44PM |
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I am scared beyond words of losing friends. I love my more than the sun in the sky and all of the stars in heaven and they are my reason for being happy. Not to be whiny, but I do have to deal with a lot of shit and just the thought of my friends makes me feel better. If I lose my friends, I would have no reason to be happy.
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Post: #589308 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 5:13PM |
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My biggest fear was everyone thinking I was fake and only saying I'm gay just to be shocking. I'm lucky to have good friends who are supporting me through all this. I never should have been worried.
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Post: #589343 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 8:01PM |
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