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Topic: Your personal reaction
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How did you personally react when you found out that you were not straight?
With me, it was kinda weird. See, I don't really care. With me, it was no different than finding out that I like a certain food or a certain rock band. I have always followed the motto "I am who I am" and what's more, I personally don't focus on individual traits like what my disposition is or what my favorite food is or, in this case, what my sexual orientation is; rather, I like to focus on myself as a whole. So my reaction was "Oh, I'm bi. Shit I shouldn't have skipped lunch today. I'm hungry as hell and I'm probably not going to get home until at least half an hour from now...but I have nutella...mmm, nutella...*proceeds to turn up the radio because Hey Joe by Jimmi Hendrix was playing* OH HELL YEAH THIS IS MY JAM!"
I was just curious to know how other people reacted.
PEACE!
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Post: #588293  , Tue 20 Dec 11, 6:09PM |
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I just got really scared; like s#!t scared. "You're lesbian" haunted me for a while. I also felt over whelmed by that fact and had sever anxiety attacks, accompanied with a whole lot of crying in my pillow. I was depressed slightly for a few weeks, although nobody noticed (I'm good at masking my emotions). There was only one person that knew, she had commented a few days before I realised that I was lesbian that I was the most likely of our group to be bi... She was close.
I don't even know why I felt so scared. I just think it was something I found it daunting.
I'm much better now (the above was just a couple months ago; Oct approx), but some days I still wake up with the overwhelmed feeling
I'm as straight as a rainbow
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Post: #588307 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 6:31PM |
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I see. Well, I sure hope you stop waking up feeling like that soon, but I am glad to hear that you are taking it better.
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Post: #588309 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 6:37PM |
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For me, it was kind of realizing it a bunch of times, but then denying it again and again, so i pretty much just got upset and cried everytime I realized it, but then was like "silly, you're just overreacting, you're arrow straight." But finally, I was just like, "Okay, I'm not lying to myself anymore."
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Post: #588310 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 6:41PM |
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hmmm so i see. well its good that you dont lie to yourself 
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Post: #588311 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 6:46PM |
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when i found out i was interested in girls, i kinda freaked and completely denied it and would tell my self that i can't possibly be gay, that i have to be straight and there was no other option. Everytime i caught myself checking out a girl i would tell myself that was wrong and look away. I also denied myself and stuck in confusion because i was also somewhat attracted to guys. This all started at around 7th grade, school year of 2006-07.
Years later in sophmore year of high school (10th grade), second semester (spring 2010), that part of me was comming out more and more to the point were i couldnt deny it anymore. Then what gave me a boost, was that a friend came out as bi and that made so much sense for me to be as well and so i told her about it and she helped me thru it and within a few months i was able to accept myself for who i am.
although, sadly, after i told this friend i fell for her and was crushing on her, about a month later, she started going as straight, occasionally switching back to bi, but now she seems to have made it official that she is straight...
Bubbles!
Buttercup!
Blossom!
The one girly thing from my childhood :3
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Post: #588313 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 6:51PM |
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:: zearbear
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
When I relized I was attracted to the same sex was my sophomore year. Started crushing on my bestfriend. I didnt think of it any diffrently. I would always be like this girl is really pretty, or she looks hot. So I guess it wasnt a big deal to say I was bi, bc I had two relationships with guys. But im starting to question that bc I always felt like nothing would ever come of that. It doesnt scare me, I just dont like the unknown.
I am who I am and nothing more, no one can make me change.
"be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind" - Jane Rizzoli from Rizzoli & Isles
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Post: #588315 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 7:02PM |
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:: IzzyInky
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
I can't really remember the first time I had feelings for girls, but I thought it was just a hormone thing that everyone had every now and again. When I realised it was a bit more than that... I don't know. It occupied my mind for a long time but I didn't ever think anything worse of myself. If I had realised when I was younger though I would have freaked cause I was a homophobic little shite as a child...
"I shall show you how much of a rainbow I can be... just you wait ;)"
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Post: #588329 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 7:30PM |
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I don't think I ever had an issue. It's just me. But now, five years after figuring it out and six after coming out, I couldn't imagine it any other way!
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Post: #588331 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 7:32PM |
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mine was simple. i'm gay....cool!
'Impossible is a word to be found only in the dictionary of fools'
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Post: #588332 , Tue 20 Dec 11, 7:32PM |
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i see. thank you 
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Post: #588869 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 9:54PM |
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i was like, what the heck? i mean when i first liked my like 35 year old gym teacher when i was like 10 it was shocking, not im used to it lol
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Post: #588871 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 9:59PM |
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For me I consider it a long thing, but at the same time I don't. I just one day realized I couldn't just keep "pretending" because that's what I did, I just acted like I didn't feel anything but straight feelings. So I spent hours thinking about what it means, and how long have I felt that way-was my main mind question.... but I'm pretty sure I took it pretty good.
If there ever comes a day
when we can't be together keep me in your heart I'll be there forever.
-Winnie the Pooh
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Post: #588874 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 10:02PM |
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I was in primary school, I'm not sure what year but I knew. My main concern at the time was that I didn't think I could have kids. So I blocked it out "If I forget about it, it'll go away"
This was obviously not the case as when I was about 12 I was lying in bed and it just dawned on me. "Shit. I'm gay" I was down all night and then I came to accept it and then came out for the first time aged 14
I'm a Loiner, apparently...
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Post: #588877 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 10:04PM |
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i remember a hazy, fuzzy spell that i think may have been my passing through the "questioning" phase. and one particular event that i can only assume took place within that period.
but really i remember "oh i'm gay" then it all goes hazy again.
not very helpful, yeah. but i thought i'd like to put my bit in here.
it will be alright in the end, and if it's not alright, it's not the end yet.
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Post: #588879 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 10:06PM |
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I was like "Hey they're sexy..hmm.. *shrug*" and got on with life  not much to it for me, I guess.
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Post: #588898 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 10:29PM |
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:: joe37
:: QA3 Getting cosy | |
Realising I was bi wasn't a big deal. Coming to terms with being TG was massive, but also felt like a weight had been lifted off of my shoulders
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Post: #588908 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 10:53PM |
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That's good
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Post: #588910 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 11:00PM |
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:: ash2342
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
when i was younger(13-14) i thought that all girls felt that way. i also denied it b saying that i couldn't be gay but when i got older i just shrugged and said to myself that i was and that was it.
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Edit: ash2342, Wed 21 Dec 11, 11:32PM
Post: #588923 , Wed 21 Dec 11, 11:32PM |
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I didn't really go through a stage of denial but I was pretty upset. I was convinced my parents would hate me or something because my sister said so (I've learned to stop listening to her, lol). I was depressed for quite some time, then I came out to my brother and I realized all was gonna be ok :3
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Post: #588929 , Thu 22 Dec 11, 12:02AM |
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