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Topic: How do you be comfortable being gay?
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As it stands now I'm not comfortable being gay. I know of a gay guy that makes jokes about being gay and I'd like to be that confident to joke about it. I often think that calling attention to being gay would make others uncomfortable therefore would make me uncomfortable. I'm not exposed to the gay community at all and I have no one in my life that is gay so I'm left to figure things out by myself. Perhaps apart of me still haven't accepted it yet or it could be my homophobic parents looming over me. I dunno...
How do you be comfortable with being gay? Any advice?
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Post: #577906  , Sat 26 Nov 11, 4:42AM |
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:: Neddy
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
For me, it's something that when I finally figured myself out it was like "Well damn, alrighty then." I was never really caught up in the 'Oh geez I'm gay!' Kinda stuff. I just kinda accepted it. So I joke about it all the time, but everything about me I joke about. My sexuality isn't much different.
Wow I don't think that helped at all.
Whatever you are. Be a good one.
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Edit: Neddy, Sat 26 Nov 11, 4:54AM
Post: #577910 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 4:47AM |
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I find that, unless someone brings it up in a negative manner, you being you is the easiest way! Don't even let it cross your mind! That's the way I'm comfortable with myself! It works like a charm for me, and maybe it'll work for you!! Try it out!
"It's better to burp and taste it, than fart and waste it!"
-Larry the Cable Guy
"If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything!" -Wiseman(Scott Glenn) in Sucker Punch
"You Jezebel! I pray George Lucas drowns you in his white man gold!"-very good friend of mine texted that to a guy who was pissing him off
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Post: #577912 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 4:47AM |
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:: UhHuhHer
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
It takes time and patience to be comfortable. Good friends help, and a sense of humor helps even more. I'm not saying brush off every nasty thing someone says to you, but being able to laugh about things make life easier.
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Post: #577913 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 4:49AM |
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:: lovinME
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
I think that within me I'm cool with it, but it still feels strange that after growing up in a completely straight school to have guys saying that jb is hot. Of course it's true, but it is strange.
Foop cats are cool.
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Post: #577917 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 4:52AM |
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same thing as Neddy. i was always really feminine, so when i figured it out i was like "well that explains..... well everything." nobody else was suprised either. xD
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Post: #577931 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 5:34AM |
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I found that it's easiest when people talk about a lot. You get used to it. It used to be an uncomfortable thing, like something it wasn't polite to talk about. But my friends and family helped. Just asking things like 'do you think that celebrity's hot?' helped loads. So yeah, immerse yourself in it! You'll get used to it, then you'll love it!  Hope that helped.
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Post: #577979 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 12:15PM |
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:: Caspa
:: QA3 Getting cosy | |
i am new at trying to find it comforting, yestarday i told my classmates and we cracked jokes about it, which i thought it would be weird and it was, going from hinding then to gay jokes in one day is not a pleasant thing but i guess the more i do it the better i'll get at coming to terms. but i don't want to let it be me, be so comfortable with it that i am know for being gay. their is more to me than who i screw.
so yea don't expect the joke cracking to be natural and easy, it's like everything you have to practise or what every..... i suck at advice sorry no help at all
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Post: #577991 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 1:24PM |
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It helps to have other lgbt friends. My gay friend always jokes with me, saying "god, dykes are weird!" and shouting "lesbian experience!" whenever I'm hugging another friend. Most of my friends know, lol.
I'm not comfortable around parents though, or family
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Post: #577993 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 1:30PM |
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I'm not really comfortable with family, but I am with my friends and people in school. It was very gradual. At first I just told a few people, and even now, when I tell someone new, I feel weird around them for a while, like somehow everything I do and say is gay. But it just goes away with time.
I think time is really important, that and exposure to other gay people. Any exposure. I only knowa couple of gay people in real life, but things like ths website realy helped, along with gay films, songs, books, whatever. You don't need to think about it all the time, of course, but it's good to just get used to the idea and feel like you're not alone.
As for joking about it, I don't think you can do that suddenly. You need to be comfortable talking about it with someone in general before you can joke with them. You need to know that bringing it up won't make them uncomfortable. Maybe a good start would be joking about it on here? I mean, this is definitely a safe place to do so.
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Post: #578005 , Sat 26 Nov 11, 2:04PM |
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