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Topic: How long did it take to fully accept yourself?
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:: beehappy22
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
It took me a really long time. Mostly I just didn't think about it too much and got really good at ignoring it for a few years, and then there was a time when I certainly knew I was gay but refused to actually admit it, and then finally I decided to look the monster in the eye and I was okay with myself. It took a long time.
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Post: #566921  , Sun 23 Oct 11, 5:15PM |
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:: leo97
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I actually didn't have that much of an issue with accepting myself. I've grown up with non-homophobic parents, and even before I knew I was gay I didn't have a problem with homosexuals.
So when I finally realized I was gay, I didn't really deny it. Sure, I spent a year or two debating whether or not I was bisexual, gay, or just straight with a slight dent for girls. But when I finally did accept that I was fully gay I was just happy I knew.
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Edit: leo97, Sun 23 Oct 11, 6:02PM
Post: #566928 , Sun 23 Oct 11, 6:02PM |
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when i first found out i was pansexual it didnt take long. i was quite excepting of myself. i wnet through stages of beileveing i was lebian, bi etc. but i got through it. with my gender indentity i still question it today and i still dont fully know who i am but ive excepted that i am whomever i am each day.
I look for help, can't find it anywhere, my own reflection is the one sight that I cannot bare, look to the sky and find, evan the heavens cry, anticipateing and debateing what is left in life -escape the fate
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Edit: WhereWeStarted, Mon 24 Oct 11, 7:46AM
Post: #567151 , Mon 24 Oct 11, 7:46AM |
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Initially, as it wasn't a realisation as such, I already accepted it and never really paid all that much attention to the fact. Since then I've had a few minor freak outs in which it's taken me a while (as in a days-weeks scale, I guess) to fully accept myself all over again, but I reckon I'm good now, or for now, at least.
I'm a ratfish trying to practice doing back flips on your mattress.
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Post: #567155 , Mon 24 Oct 11, 8:22AM |
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:: GaBBi
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
Still in the process ;)
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Post: #567282 , Mon 24 Oct 11, 8:29PM |
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I've NEVER seen being LGBTQIA as a flaw no matter what my parents or peers said. As a little kid I actually thought they were really beautiful people. When I was about ten I realized I was trans, and it came as a shock at first, but I quickly brushed it off. I was fine with it. It's who I am, people are gonna have to deal.
get your toast out with a fork
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Post: #567285 , Mon 24 Oct 11, 8:39PM |
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:: Qwerty
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
I'd say I saw hints of it in grade seven+, but I denied it. Eleventh grade was when I said, "Fuck it, I'm willing to accept my sexuality." I didn't come out for a full year after that. It was really depressing going through it alone.
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Post: #567297 , Mon 24 Oct 11, 9:04PM |
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I'm still learning to accept myself, sexuality aside.
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Post: #567299 , Mon 24 Oct 11, 9:08PM |
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Still trying to.
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Post: #567902 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 1:40PM |
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I accepted myself as bisexual a long time ago.
I'm still coming to terms with being trans however, I acknowledge it and live as who I am, but it's just there are moments of self doubt but that's normal for anyone.
If you're lookin' for a ride I've a horse outside.
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Post: #567917 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 2:37PM |
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:: Tiara
:: QA9 Grand Elder | |
Well, I had a real issue with being pan. I knew at a young age because I've always grown feelings for others due to personality but when I was first coming out I came out as lesbian to a few people. Then I tried being straight for a bit and that didn't work out either. Then I came out to everyone as gay, and now I'm re-coming out as bisexual/pansexual(depending on who I'm talking to).
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Edit: Tiara, Wed 26 Oct 11, 3:18PM
Post: #567921 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 3:15PM |
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I just knew that I was different and hated myself for it, I knew I liked girls at the beggining of school and didn't really accept it myself until I was 15, and even then it was this whole am I bi or am I gay, I've dated guys and girls but I like girls more so what does that make me? and now i'm just like screw it! I like girls more than I like guys but who knows maybe i'll end up with a guy one day. Life is way too short labels! 
Okay so i'm just going to sit in my corner and be my own brand of awesome, feel free to join me ^^
How many Homophobes does it take to change a light bulb? None. They fear change, even if it can make the world a brighter place.
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Post: #567932 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 5:43PM |
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:: Kholie36
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
I still haven't accepted myself.
"That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good fucking life"-Chuck Palahniuk
"A lot of people are afraid of heights. Not me, Im afraid of widths."-Steven Wright
"One and one is two, and two and two is four, and five will get you ten if you know how to work it."-Mae West
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Post: #567945 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 6:45PM |
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:: Rhee
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
It took me right around two years from the first time I had thoughts about girls to accepting that I was pan. Though it only became a real prominant internal conflict for the last 3-6 months before accepting it.
As for gender... that's an ongoing process, in which I'm thoroughly engrossed right now.
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Post: #568008 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 9:41PM |
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:: Elliot
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
it took me about three years to fully accept myself as gay, and then another year for me to be comfortable wit my sexuality. but now that i have, i cant imagine living any other way.
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Post: #568015 , Wed 26 Oct 11, 10:06PM |
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:: IzzyInky
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
This is going to sound strange, but I didn't realise I was bi until I accepted myself. Before I thought "no, hang on a minute, I could be bi; why not?" I always thought it was just... prrfft I don't know. General teenage attraction maybe? I don't want to say that I thought it was a "phase" because that's so cliché and at the time I didn't think it was a "phase". I just thought it was... I didn't think it was really attraction. I think that's the best way I can describe it. Sorry, this post isn't making much sense!
"I shall show you how much of a rainbow I can be... just you wait ;)"
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Post: #568222 , Thu 27 Oct 11, 12:05PM |
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I thought that I was bisexual when I was a teenager, but didn't think much about it much because I didn't actually want to be in a relationship or anything like that. I identify as gay now, but I did find myself having "crushes" on girls as a teenager - at the time, though, it never occured to me that I was only sexually attracted to men.
I've never felt comfortable with the term "bisexual" in reference to myself (even when I used it - and I never came out as such), and started to understand why not long after turning twenty. Around that time, I started reading about asexuality, which made me realise that there had never been any sexual attraction in my few female "crushes", whereas it was always present when I had crushes on boys. If I had a crush on a girl, I never wanted to do anything about it because the thought of having any physical intimacy seemed contrary to my nature - even kissing or hugging them would've been gross! And with boys, I knew that I couldn't do anything because they were all straight...sigh.
For me, it was more an issue of understanding myself than it was of accepting myself.
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Post: #568302 , Thu 27 Oct 11, 6:16PM |
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Still working on it. I'm so restrained in my dealings with people that I don't know what I want. And whatever it is, it's still somewhat scary--but a lot of that arises out of my mom's having been disturbingly close to me when I was young. I'm still realizing just how much I've been afraid of turning out the way she did, passionate and blind, and still trying to figure out how she's affected me.
On the other hand, having recently realized that I've got issues with her, I can say that my subconscious feels totally free to start giving me many lovely dreams about girls, lol. So I must not be in horrible shape regarding acceptance.
She was a Phantom of delight when first she gleam'd upon my sight...
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Post: #568329 , Thu 27 Oct 11, 7:19PM |
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a long ass time considering i knew from the start that i liked boys
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Post: #568383 , Thu 27 Oct 11, 9:51PM |
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It wasn't accepting myself that was hard, I think. It was more the figuring out part. When I first considered that I might like girls, I thought I just might be a bit bi. For me, it was no big deal. Then I realized that I might be a LOTTA bit bi, and I wasn't really bothered by it. When I realized I was gay, it was a bit harder. Not because I'm afraid of being gay, but because I didn't want to rule out being attracted to guys so quickly. Now I've come to realize, though, that you can be any sexuality and still be attracted to someone. Lesbians can be attracted to men and gay men can be attracted to girls. If it happens, it just does. It doesn't make me any less of a lesbian to look at a guy and say, "He's an attractive fella." I'm an open-minded lesbian, I guess.
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