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I'm into carpentry, so I was really excited when I got into a class for it at school. The class is three hours long. I'm the only girl, in a class with 20 or so 17-19 year old boys. They make a lot of sexual jokes, which is fine, you have to be able to take a joke in a situation like this. Except about 10 of them took it way too far today. They were being pervs, so I told them to calm down. Someone mentioned my girlfriend, which led to questions I refused to answer. They started saying how they could make me straight. Said they could just gang rape me, said/ asked things I won't repeat, threw money down my shirt, grabbed my chest and ass, tried to rub against me, and even poked me in the ass with a 2x4 several times. It was getting too far, and I started to feel trapped, so I went to the bathroom. Two of them followed me in.. If I ignore them, I'm being slutty by going with it. If I say fuck off, or report them, I'm a bitch and a narc. It's too late to transfer classes, and my teacher could care less. I tried to ask my mom, and she said I was probably just being a slut. What can I do/ say to get them to back off??? I have over three hours of this a day :/ it's not just in class.. one followed me in his truck after school, and pulled over to ask if i'd 'suck his dick just to try it'.
Love is never black and white, so why not rainbow? (:
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Post: #547338  , Tue 30 Aug 11, 4:56AM |
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I'm sorry you're so miserable. Even though it's going to feel quite narc-ish, I suggest telling a school official. What these boys/apes are doing is probably grounds for expulsion, if not, at least suspension. You shouldn't have to tolerate this, especially in an environment deemed "safe". I think they'll get you out of that class given the circumstances.
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Post: #547345 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 5:17AM |
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I think you might want to tell the teacher that if something isn't done about the situation, to make the class safe for you, that you're going to take the claim further.
Many teachers are afraid of having a scandal and will take care of the problem. If nothing is done and the teacher starts treating you badly, then take the claim to the Administration.
No one deserves to feel disrespected and threatened, like that. By not reporting it, it could happen to someone else. Women have every right in the world to have a 'man's hobby' without being harassed. That is bullshit.
You deserve to be respected and I hope that you'll decide to do something about the situation. Reporting them won't make you a 'bitch'. Don't allow them to bring you down like that. That's what they want. I believe you're stronger than that.
Best wishes!
"So paint it black and take it back. Let's shout out loud and clear." -"Welcome To The Black Parade" by My Chemical Romance
“Taking the first step with the good thought, the second with the good word, and the third with the good deed, I enter Paradise.”-Persian Proverb
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Post: #547361 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 6:20AM |
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Reporting them definitely wouldn't be 'bitchy' or 'narcy'. It's your right to feel safe and comfortable at all times without harassment, and to be able to carry out any classes or hobbies you wish. What they're doing isn't only against your human rights - it is against the rules of every school, and would be enough to get police involved if you so wish.
But by the sounds of things you'd rather not take it too far. Agreeing with previous replies, I think you should report it in some measure if they don't back off when you ask them to. If the teacher won't listen you have grounds to complain about the teacher as well as the guys in your class, and it would be best to take it to the next level up or ask another teacher for advice. The school can get the harassment to stop, and make it safer and more enjoyable for you.
And don't worry - the guys should be able to tell that they've taken it too far, especially when it's pointed out to them, and if not? The opinions of people who think behaviour like that is acceptable don't matter too much in my opinion.
I hope it works out in your favour, harassment sucks x
"It's better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you're not"
~ Kurt Cobain
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Post: #547594 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 8:01PM |
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WHAT THE HELL?!
If I was in that situation, I'd tell them to eff off and report them. I know, I'll sound like a bitch, whatever. But that's better than being harassed by assholes.
This really pissed me off. -.-'
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Edit: MissBookworm, Tue 30 Aug 11, 8:07PM
Post: #547598 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 8:07PM |
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Thanks guys., I really appreciate it. I'll try to talk to the teacher again tomorrow. If not, I'll probably go to the counseling center to report it. I'm glad it's not just me who thinks that they went too far.
Love is never black and white, so why not rainbow? (:
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Post: #547601 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 8:11PM |
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Basically the only solution you have is to report it. Staying safe should be the most important thing for you. I have to say though that it is unfortunate that other people are keeping you away from something you love to do, but I would suggest telling someone, maybe not the teacher if they aren't even as concerned as they should be.
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Post: #547605 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 8:16PM |
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I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time.Remember you are who you are no-one can change that.Your classmates are the one's who need to change.Can you not talk to a school counsellor about this?? Then they will deal with these people.Why not try talking to your mum again.Sit down when you are both chilled and have time to listen to eachother properly.If she still won't liste,Try talking to another family member/adult who WILL.You are not being treated fairly and violence has been a part of this.They should see it needs to stop.If you want to talk about it,just private message me.
Good LuckXXX
"I said I don't give a shit!!! I'm going to do it!!!"
Patricia Quinn
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Post: #547611 , Tue 30 Aug 11, 8:22PM |
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well, that's sexual harassment. i don't fly for that shit. if they were doing that to me i would:
1. tell them to fuck off
2. tell teachers or the principal
3. report it to police if its that bad.
you're a minor. so. you'd win. i wouldn't just not say anything. who cares if you say anything. would you rather be harassed by stupid guys all the time? happened to me before and i didn't deal with that bullshit.
"You can't type what a lesbian is. We're anything and everything. The one thing in common is that we make love to other women. So give up trying to limit us."
-Amanda Bearse
Dear mom,
I'm a lesbian.
Love,
Me <3
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Post: #609421 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 6:26PM |
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I'd beat em up
I'm that cliff-jumper your parents warned you about
I tear my heart open, I sew myself shut. My weakness is that I care too much
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Post: #609423 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 6:28PM |
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That's horrible... You should definitely report them! I think what they're doing may even be illegal. Definitely completely against school rules.
I'm really sorry you have to deal with that. =/
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Post: #609441 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 7:03PM |
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Report them. Report them right now. Don't even care that they'll call you a bitch. Your safety is more important than what people think about you, especially because it's happening outside of school.
"Look at all of the little lesbians
frolicking in the snow!" ~Koda
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Post: #609458 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 7:55PM |
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WTF!!!!!!!?!?!?!?????
You should tell your teacher or who ever unles you want this to continue it may seem like that's not the best way but the only other thing I could think of is to DAMAND!!!! You get switched lol that's what I would do! 3 hours! I couldnt deal
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Post: #609465 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 8:13PM |
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:: poisonight
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definatly tell somone in authority
i would say be flattery your getting that much attention but they are just sick
what can you do if you cant smile?
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Post: #609471 , Wed 25 Jan 12, 8:22PM |
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