So I still have a few years yet but......
When you are applying for residence at a college or university do they ask you your sexuality?
Like if I ended up with a double room and my room mate didn't know/was not cool with it I'd feel pretty bad and like I was violating them in some way (even though I wouldn't actually do anything to do that).
Does anyone have a room mate? Do they know and and did YOU have to tell them? Are they okay with it?
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Post: #457992  , Mon 17 Jan 11, 11:45PM |
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I don't think most places do that, my college didn't. I don't really think they're allowed to, actually. But I could be wrong.
My roommate is cool with it. Most normal people will be, especially when they get to know you as a person and not just 'some gay chick living in my dorm'. Of course, there is a chance you'll have bad luck and end up with a homophobe. In which case, you can probably ask for a reassignment. It's definitely better to be out to your roommate(s). Not necessarily immediately, but I feel like you should at some point. It's better to be open and honest with someone you're going to live with, but maybe that's just me.
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Post: #457999 , Tue 18 Jan 11, 12:00AM |
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:: Jaden
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I think most colleges try to weed out the homophobes when they do their roommate assessment sheet thinger.
Some may ask if you had friends in the LBGT community, if you are okay with the LGBT, if you would mind rooming with someone from, ect ect so on and so forth.
I'm pretty sure they aren't really allowed to ask you "Are you gay?!" but they can ask if you're okay with someone who is so they don't room flaming gay boy/girl A with gay hater B.
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Post: #458001 , Tue 18 Jan 11, 12:05AM |
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mine didnt ask me. you just will have to be straight forward and tell ur roomate and if they arnt okay with it then you can request a new roomate at the beggining
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Post: #458005 , Tue 18 Jan 11, 12:19AM |
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My college did not ask me.
The weird thing is, my first and ex roommate was brought up in an environment where homosexuality is viewed as wrong. Yet, she accepted me perfectly fine and we got along great.
I definitely think that by college most people are okay with everything and depending upon the school you go to it can just be completely chill.
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Post: #458022 , Tue 18 Jan 11, 1:34AM |
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:: Kitty
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I'm in boarding school.. my roommate is Chinese and she doesn't care at all. Neither did my roommate last year, or the two the year before that. 
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Post: #459331 , Sat 22 Jan 11, 9:50PM |
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The roommate assessment form for my college has an option saying "I have LGBTQ friends" and you rate how relevant that is to you. Then lower on the sheet they have you rate which questions are most important to you.
I'm not sure how it is in other colleges, considering mine is pretty damn small.
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Post: #459829 , Mon 24 Jan 11, 12:34AM |
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I helped my best friend fill out residence requests last year, and they did ask him his sexuality.
They also asked your stance on rooming with a gay person; "Doesn't bother me" and "No thanks" were both options. It's only to be sure that you're not rooming with someone who is a potential homophobe, which could create several problems.
I'm perfectly fine with them asking people that, because it ensures the safety of the people involved, and creates a better living situation.
When we lose the right to be different, we lose the privilege to be free.
-Charles Evans Hughes
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Post: #459832 , Mon 24 Jan 11, 12:43AM |
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I think it's a perfectly relevant and prudent question to ask. I can definitely understand how having a gay roommate could make a straight person uncomfortable--even if they're not homophobic, per se.
As far as coming out to roommates, maybe it's better not to come out right off the bat. When I go to college next year, I won't be like, "Hey, I'm Liza and I'm a lesbian." Wait a bit first so they know you as a person.
Although if I get my way, I'm going to Wellesley next year, and they're known for their massive lezzie population. So, I feel like any girl who chooses to go to Wellesley has got to be okay with having gay chicks around.
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Post: #459851 , Mon 24 Jan 11, 1:33AM |
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:: tk7432
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They asked about my sexual orientation when I filled out a survey before I moved in but nothing else really. My hall is a hall for a special scholars program but since the RD is a lesbian we are probably the most gay-friendly residence hall on campus. My roommate found out through other means that at the time I was bisexual but it took me 4 months to discuss about it. He knows that I am gay and he is completely fine with it. 
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Post: #459873 , Mon 24 Jan 11, 2:36AM |
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