Be prepared for a rant & possibly a long post. And advice would be appreciated in the end, please & thank you.
Well I been crushing on my best friend since February & told her how I feel in early June. Ever since, I have been confused on the fact of wether she has feelings for me or not. All she has said is that it weirded her out a little but didn't necessarily said if she feels the same way. She has also offered to kiss me before but later changed her mind.
What really confuses me is that somedays when I flirt with her she flirts back or she flirts 1st, which flirting didnt really happen before I told her my feelings towards her. And sometimes wen we hug or she just grabs/hugs me, she pulls me in real close, so close at times it almost seems like she wants to kiss me. But other times she pushes me away as if she just wants to be friends or something.
It's so confusing but I think she may be confused about her feelings towards me. Or it could be the fact that she has been denying her sexuality (she bi) on & off lately & doesn't really know what to do. (her family tends to be homophobic and I guess she just afraid of what her family might think of her).
And also, for example, today was one of those days were she would just let me get real close. After school at one point ended up watching tv ib her cousin's room (a friend of mine as well) and we were just laying in bed watching tv with our legs interwind & my head resting on her shoulder and an arm around her waist. Acasionally I would move my hand from her waist to her cheek/neck & just hold her & she would leave my hand there  and then later on in the night we left to the living room & one of the moments we were left alone she was really close to me looking at the tv but I think she leaned in a little bit as if wanting to kiss me but I got really nervous because I didnt know what was going on and just turned away....
By the time my parents came to get me and it was time for me to go, I hugged my friends good bye but friend a (my crush) wasn't as enthusiastic about the hug like usual, which I thought was a bit odd...
Help?
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Post: #446701  , Fri 17 Dec 10, 5:50AM |
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It sounds like she's a bit confused.... or in denial yeah...
The best thing to do is to let her realize what she needs, this can be a slow and excruciating process that will drain both of you.
If it takes a month or two, talk to her about it... don't give her an ultimatum but tell her you are feeling a little hurt.
You could talk to her about it right away, but be passive about it, don't scare her away.
The best thing you can do is just BE THERE. Hold her when she wants to be held and hug her when she wants to be hugged.
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Post: #446776 , Fri 17 Dec 10, 1:02PM |
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Thanks sounds like a plan
Bubbles!
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Blossom!
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Post: #446834 , Fri 17 Dec 10, 5:26PM |
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