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Topic: I think I might be falling in love my best friend.
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I have a friend named Cameron. We've known each other for years and we've always been close. He's always had a bit of a crush on me. I knew it, but I didn't really feel the same about him. Besides, I'm interested in girls. That's changed recently though. His family has been going through a rough time(not to say that it was ever very good) and he's been spending a lot more time with me. He's been sleeping at my house a lot more, lately.
I mention that for a reason. Last night he was over, and he asked me if I would mind him sleeping in my bed. For some reason, I couldn't say no. It was like I had all these hidden feelings and they just appeared. Nothing sexual happened between us but it was kind of romantic. I put my arm around him and admired his features. His small frame, his soft skin, his delicate face, the smell of his hair. Then I drifted off to sleep.
And now, I'm so confused. I'm totally attracted to him, he's all I've been able to think about today. I'm a afraid to say it, but I think I might be a little in love. I don't know what to do, I've never felt this way before.
Damn, left the 'with' out of my title.
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Edit: Ryancandraw, Fri 8 Oct 10, 11:08PM
Post: #429880  , Fri 8 Oct 10, 10:47PM |
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Is your concern that you've never been attracted to a boy before? Because you can be just slightly bisexual.
"The sad thing is that we hate based on who they love." -Dr. John Corvino
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Post: #429886 , Fri 8 Oct 10, 11:10PM |
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Well...there are two ways people typically approach this.
1. They don't get involved with each other because things could go wrong in the relationship and then the friendship might be impossible to salvage afterward. And the friendship is too valuable to risk.
2. They do it because it might be the love of their life and if you don't live for now, when do you live for?
So, it's up to you man...
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Post: #429887 , Fri 8 Oct 10, 11:10PM |
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Personally, I would talk to your friend about it. It may be hard, but I think that its something you should really consider. And just take it slowly from there.
Good luck with this, buddy. I know how this feels, surprisingly.
If life gives you lemons, you paint that shit gold.
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Post: #429905 , Fri 8 Oct 10, 11:50PM |
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I agree with thefuzz. The details aren't as easy as that list, but the overall picture is. You either take the feelings and run with them (hint to him, ask him questions, get more involved) or you ignore them for the sake of the friendship. That's all there is to it, except for the details that bog you down once you make one decision. I guess it's the way my dad always puts it when he sees me facing a hard decision--you could regret doing something, but you could also as easily regret not trying to do it.
Also, I'd like to add that with the exception of knowing she had feelings for me in return, this was me two years ago. Now we've been dating for 1 year and almost 9 months.
You're stubborn, hard headed, sheltered, impatient, angry, and altogether you irritate and frustrate me more than anyone else on the planet. I love you.
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Edit: cheesecake22, Fri 8 Oct 10, 11:52PM
Post: #429907 , Fri 8 Oct 10, 11:52PM |
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This has happened to me before too, I made a friend who was really amazing to me and I quickly fell in love with him (though he was straight). It got to a point where it was so painful having to hide my feelings from him that I came out and told him I really liked him, he understood and was cool about it and then when I met my current boyfriend the feelings went.
I think the reason I fell in love with him so much is because he was there for me when I felt like I had nobody else and I was really lonely, so if I were you I'd tell him about the way you feel and if you two decide that a relationship isn't for the best you should try and find someone else.
Carpinslerk... You're covered in it.
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Post: #429916 , Sat 9 Oct 10, 12:20AM |
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:: codyts93
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I would talk to Cameron about it, tell him your struggle, he's your best friend after all, he's there for you, you were there for him when he asked if he could sleep with you....I want you both to be happy, perhaps that will happen with each other, but don't rush it.
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Post: #430277 , Sun 10 Oct 10, 9:50PM |
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:: Talsky
:: QA8 High Householder | |
I think you should talk to him about it, and give yourself some time to figure things out. Sometimes we have a moment with our friends, and we suddenly think that we're in love with them when the real deal is that we haven't felt like someone has been caring about us in that way. I'm not saying that you don't like him like that, cause maybe you do. But I do think that you need to talk to him about it and give it some time.
"I won't scream in my head and let it isolate me. I won't be left dancing alone to songs from the past."
Tegan and Sara
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Post: #430283 , Sun 10 Oct 10, 9:59PM |
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While I have some free time, I think I’ll give you guys an update. I’m sorry I didn’t do it sooner, but I had a busy and interesting, yet enjoyable weekend. On Friday, Cam came over to my house. I told him that we needed to talk, and then I did my best to explain how I felt about the situation. I told him that I thought I had some feelings for him, but that I wasn’t sure exactly what they were. He told me that he loved me and cared for me, but he didn’t want to pressure me into doing anything. We decided that we would try being together to see if anything developed, but that we would take it slow. We just don’t want ruin a long friendship by rushing into something.
So, he spent the weekend at my house, and we had a really good time. We had some interesting moments over the weekend, which made my feelings seem a bit clearer to me. We even shared a few kisses, which were very nice. The strangest moment was when I decided to tell my family what our intentions were. I guess they had been expecting this for years, and they were totally ok with it. I suppose sometimes the people around you know you better than you know yourself.
Things have been pretty good so far and I’m glad I took your advice.
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Edit: Ryancandraw, Mon 11 Oct 10, 9:35PM
Post: #430601 , Mon 11 Oct 10, 9:33PM |
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Yeah so I just saw your update. But there's my advice, anyway.
As others have suggested, talk to him. He's your best friend, right? I don't know the guy, so obviously I don't know how he'll react. But if he's worthy of being your best friend, I'm fairly sure he'll accept it, and hopefully help you figure that mess out.
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Edit: JULIEisGAY, Mon 11 Oct 10, 9:45PM
Post: #430604 , Mon 11 Oct 10, 9:44PM |
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 Don't stress yourself out mate. I'm agreeing with soem people here, you could be bi curious or gay, but there is nothing to stress about.
It's actually a natural thing. It happens to alot of people, so tehre are people out there who know what your going through.
So just smile, because this might ebe the whole turing point of your life.
If you need some more help or someone to talk to, my screen anme is up here.....I help alot of people out with these things every day.
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Post: #430611 , Mon 11 Oct 10, 10:15PM |
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I like this, a lot. I'm really glad that its going well! Keep us updated, and ask us if you have anything else you would like our advice on. =D
If life gives you lemons, you paint that shit gold.
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Post: #430706 , Tue 12 Oct 10, 3:43AM |
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I'm going to give you guys another little update. Last week was pretty normal, there was nothing particularly exciting. However, the weekend was kind of interesting.
On Saturday, Cam said that he was going to the mall to look at some clothes, and I decided that I would tag along. When we got there, he told me he had been wanting to do something for a long time but never really had the courage to do it. With me there, he said he felt like he could.
As it turns out the thing he wanted to do was to try on some women's clothing. Nothing really over the top, but a few skirts and tops. Oddly enough, they actually looked pretty good on him.
When we got back to my house, we had a little conversation. He told me that he had always been a bit confused about his gender but that he was comfortable enough around me to express those feelings. My words don't really do the moment justice... but it was really sweet and honest.
That's all I have for now, but I'll try update you on anything important.
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Post: #432569 , Mon 18 Oct 10, 10:30PM |
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It's been another week, so I feel like I need to give you guys another update. It's difficult to really explain what has happened. So much has changed over just the last week... my head is still kind of spinning. Cam has been opening up to me so much lately. He's stayed over every night, and every night we've had a talk. Every time we've talked, I've felt even closer to him.
I know I said we wanted to take it slow, but I'm not sure if that's even possible now. I want to be with him. I think we could make a great couple and I don't want to risk missing out on it. Every moment I've had with him in the last few weeks has been wonderful and each one has made me happier than the last. I don't know if it's true love, but we're both happier than we've been in a while.
I don't really know what else to say about it at this moment.
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Post: #434407 , Tue 26 Oct 10, 9:21PM |
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:: jacob!
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
i love a happy ending! 
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