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If someone asked you if you were gay, what would you say? Just to narrow down some variables, lets say that it's a person from school that you were pretty sure was straight.
Anyone?
"I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated 'all my homosexual patients are quite sick'—to which I finally replied 'so are all my heterosexual patients'." -Ernest van den Haag, psychotherapist
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Edit: winnersmw, Tue 26 Apr 11, 2:36AM
Post: #369952  , Wed 31 Mar 10, 11:57PM |
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:: Im_Just_Me
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
Well... seeing as I'm bi-curious (pretty sure bi lol) if someone asked me if I was bi... I wish I could say I'd have the confidence to say "Yeah" or "Well... maybe I'm unsure at the moment." At least something like that.... the sad truth is I'd probably say no.
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Post: #369955 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 11:59PM |
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If they were close to me, I'd be honest.
But anyone else, I'd flat out deny.
Because I'm just quite pathetic like that.
"Don't let anyone, even your parents, break you." - Davey Havok
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Post: #369956 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 11:59PM |
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Yeah me too, I'd probably deny it... Although I'd like to think that I would tell the truth lol.
"I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated 'all my homosexual patients are quite sick'—to which I finally replied 'so are all my heterosexual patients'." -Ernest van den Haag, psychotherapist
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Post: #369959 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:01AM |
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If I knew them alright, then I guess I probably would. Because I'm the worst liar ever, so they'd guess anyway.
If they were basically a stranger, like I had only talked to them once or twice, then I probably wouldn't have the courage to.
"If birth is fission, then the love we make is fusion; and to make an End is nothing more than to realize a Beginning." --Evidence of Things Unseen
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Post: #369960 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:02AM |
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I agree with Davey, I would probably deny it or change the subject rather quickly.
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Post: #369963 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:04AM |
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Yes.
I'm proud of who I am and have nothing to hide.
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Post: #369965 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:05AM |
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:: Sleep
:: QA8 High Householder | |
If it was my immediate family i'd say no I'm not... my dad and my oldest sister know im gay, but thats cause they are okay with us homosexuals! But as for my mom and my other sisters, i'd say no. then give em this face -__-
I would be open to strangers and friends.
Perhaps the most important thing we can undertake toward the reduction of fear is to make it easier for people to accept themselves, to like themselves.-Bonaro W. Overstreet
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Edit: Sleep, Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:07AM
Post: #369966 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:05AM |
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No. Not at all. I live in far too small of an area and if I came out to one single person who I didn't trust completely, I might end up out to the whole school. Which in turn would mean my grandparents would find out, which in turn would mean I would get kicked out.
It was an exquisite irony: Just when we stopped wanting to kill ourselves, we started to die. Just when we were feeling strength, it was taken from us.
This should not happen to you.
Talk all you want about youth feeling invincible. Surely, some of us had that bravado. But there was also the dark inner voice telling us we were doomed. And then we were doomed. And then we weren't.
You should not feel doomed. Not in the same way.
you can only doom yourself.
-David Levithan. "How Beautiful the Ordinary: Twelve Stories of Identity" A Word From the Nearly Distant Past
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Post: #369971 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:11AM |
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I would say yes.
'"I don't see what you think is so wrong about being gay. Everyone is a human; the only difference is girls have boobs and a vagina while guys have penises," he shrugged. "You're attracted to who you're attracted to. Your body chooses not you." He turned and smiled at Craig. "Why limit yourself to annoying girls anyway?"
"Because it's normal," Craig answered bluntly.
"Normal meaning what. What society sees as right?" he scoffed. "I suggest you flip the world off Craig because not everyone is going to like you and I don't see why you should bother making yourself unhappy for the sake of everyone else."'
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Post: #369974 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:18AM |
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I'd say I was open to love whomever I happen to fall for whether it be a man, woman, ftm, etc. 
Though, I haven't outed myself at my post-secondary school but haven't denyed it either. I'm living under the guise of heteronormativity which is odd.. because I was OUT to everyone at my catholic high school. lol
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Post: #369992 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:34AM |
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My initial reaction would be "Why?"
Not because they're asking me if I'm gay, but because they're asking me...anything. Lol, I'm funny like that.
Ah, it's like - I hate to bbe questioned about anything just out of the blue like that. I'm proud of who I am, but on the other hand, sometimes I wish people could notice obvious hints or just believe the never ending rumours once in a while.
Then I would get over it and say "Yup, I sure am."
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Post: #369996 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:38AM |
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I'd probably stutter awkwardly for a while and refuse to answer the question, which would TOTALLY give away my gayness... *sigh* I'm the worst liar ever. I don't even think I'm CAPABLE of lying...
"The greatest expression of rebellion is joy."
-Joss Whedon, Master of all Masterfulness.
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Post: #369998 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:40AM |
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well i dont belive in hideing a fact like that about yourself personally, i feel like it's lieing. so i would just say "yeah, i am, why? does that bother you?"
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Post: #369999 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:40AM |
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:: Rawr!
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
I'd say no.
Because I'm stupid like that 
"Be what you are. This is the first step toward becoming better than you are."
-- Julius Charles Hare
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Post: #370006 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:51AM |
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If it was someone that wasn't in any of my classes, and I had never talked to them before, I would tell them.
Or if it was a close friend, then I'd answer.
But in most other cases, no
Only you
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Post: #370008 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 12:53AM |
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If someone asked I'd tell the truth. I'd probably tell them that I'm bi because bot many people know what pan is. I'm not ashamed of who I am and I'm not phased who knows. Most of my friends know, I've come out to two of my teachers I'm sure a third teacher suspects it. I don't hide it and I don't flaunt it.
JJ xx
You will only expect a few words - what will those be? When the heart is full it may run over, but the real fullness stays within... Words can never tell you, however, - form them, transform them anyway, - how perfectly dear you are to me - perfectly dear to my heart and soul.
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Post: #370018 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 1:02AM |
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:: Lynn
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
I would be like, "It depends on who is asking" *wink*.
XD No, i would probably just tell them I didnt really know myself.
Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Love is the poetry of the senses. ~Honoré de Balzac
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Post: #370040 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 1:36AM |
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Lol @ Lynn... "It depends on who is asking *wink*"
"I am reminded of a colleague who reiterated 'all my homosexual patients are quite sick'—to which I finally replied 'so are all my heterosexual patients'." -Ernest van den Haag, psychotherapist
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Post: #370043 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 1:39AM |
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God... I get asked if I'm a lesbian all the time. X__x I just say no. Or if they ask me if I'm GAY, I say "No, I'm bi."
I really don't care if people know my sexuality. It's not really that important. No one really cares at my school. Almost EVERYONE there is "bi" anyway X__x
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