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Topic: The Hardest Thing In A Relationship....
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So today after school I finally got up the courage to introduce myself to a guy I've really been crushing on. It was so hard for me to just say "hi" to him, I wondered what it would be like for me to talk to him, let alone even date him.
I don't know how, but it brought me to the conclusion that communication, although sometimes hard, is seriously vital. I want to know what you guys think. What is the hardest thing in a relationship and why?
If we both believe there is an end, maybe there really will be a beginning. And it will start with us, running away together. Off, off, off. Far, far away...
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Post: #368724  , Mon 29 Mar 10, 7:19PM |
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I'd have to agree with communication being the hardest thing. A lot of things are hard to talk about, and a lot of times something you forget to mention can hurt the other person. Something might not be a big deal to you, but it might be to them.
But I'd also have to say getting to know the person is also really hard, especially if you have trust issues. For all you know, the other person might be lying and you'd never know it, but you have to trust that they aren't and just get to know them.
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Post: #368728 , Mon 29 Mar 10, 7:24PM |
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It's definately communication. Sometimes it's hard to get things out without the other person taking it the wrong way and vice versa. Or, you don't tell them something because you don't want to worry them or are afraid they'll get mad or again, vice versa. Communicating properly is really tricky, and you have to work on it a lot in a relationship because without proper communication, it falls apart.
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Post: #368730 , Mon 29 Mar 10, 7:28PM |
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I don't think communication is that hard as long as you've talked to someone before jumping into a relationship. Honestly, I think it can be made so much easier if the time was taken to get to know them on a deeper level, rather than saving that part for when one is actually in a couple.
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Post: #368733 , Mon 29 Mar 10, 7:33PM |
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Communication is definately a VITAL part of a relationship. And it's not really the original communication thats hard, and talking gets way easier, its more the communication on how the relationships going. It's hard to tell your partner what bothers you about them and stuff.
I think the hardest thing in a relationship though, is trust and honesty.
Black days.
You've changed.
Oh have you left me here to rot?
I kid you not;
I miss you girl.
You're all that makes me true
Your breath, your scent
Follows drifting on the vapor
I can't escape her.
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Post: #368737 , Mon 29 Mar 10, 7:37PM |
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I'd have to say communication is the hardest part of a relationship. I have slight trust issues. I've been hurt by a lot of people, not just exes, so opening up and communicationg can be hard for me at times.
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Post: #369802 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 8:33PM |
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:: Im_Just_Me
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
Yeah opening up and communicating effectively is definitely the hardest part of a relationship
@Celina: same here - I've been hurt by a lot of friends and relationships, and as a result, I have major trust issues
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Post: #369804 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 8:36PM |
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starting one. im a very introverted person, so i find it hard to talk to people so...
My ear should catch your voice, my eye your eye, my tongue should catch your tongue's sweet melody, were the world mine
A Midsummer Night's Dream
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Post: #369808 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 8:41PM |
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:: Gummibat
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
I think the hardest thing in a relationship is to not get too caught up in it that you forget why you started dating in the first place. In a relationship there are rules, commitments, fights, expectations. I have seen so many times that people get so wrapped up in all that that they forget to slow down and smile once in a while. That's my opinion.
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Post: #369822 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 8:48PM |
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:: Lynn
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
For me it is telling them when I am actually mad. I have a habit of letting people walk all oveer me in a relationship really...
Hate leaves ugly scars, love leaves beautiful ones. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
Love is the poetry of the senses. ~Honoré de Balzac
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Post: #369841 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 9:23PM |
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Yeah, expressing how you feel is tough too. You have to be nice, but make sure you really get your point across....
If we both believe there is an end, maybe there really will be a beginning. And it will start with us, running away together. Off, off, off. Far, far away...
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Post: #369905 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 10:38PM |
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I agree with the communication thing. In relationships in the past, I've always ruined it because I never call up to hang out; i'm too shy. it's just so hard to get your point across when you don't know someone well enough. x.x
Ffft, wut.
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Post: #369926 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 11:31PM |
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Communication isn't the hardest thing in a relationship unless you or the person you're in a relationship with is actually uncommunicative or has difficulty with it.
I think the most difficult thing through the years is accepting change. It's hard enough being disappointed when the one you love can't make it for your anniversary at say, 6 months, never mind the idea that maybe you'll be fired from a job or lose your house or one day, your wife's baby will be a miscarriage. Dealing with change is also, my dad says, the thing that leads to most fails in relationships. If you can't change together or accept change well, you'll get angry and just break up.
You're stubborn, hard headed, sheltered, impatient, angry, and altogether you irritate and frustrate me more than anyone else on the planet. I love you.
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Post: #369941 , Wed 31 Mar 10, 11:46PM |
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I think the hardest thing about a relationship is keeping things spontaneous and not falling into a routine. At least that's been my experience.
"If birth is fission, then the love we make is fusion; and to make an End is nothing more than to realize a Beginning." --Evidence of Things Unseen
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Post: #370085 , Thu 1 Apr 10, 3:00AM |
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For me the hardest thing about my relationship is distance.. but that's pretty specific. The other hardest thing is communication. Sometimes my girlfriend won't tell me important things and I have to learn how to accept that.
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Post: #371002 , Sat 3 Apr 10, 2:22AM |
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I'd have to say communication and understand and expressing feelings. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost three years, and we still have our issues on "You said this, and meant this" and "No, I didn't, you took it the wrong way, it's not implied" etc. It's all about understanding and talking.
One-by-one we can help hold each of our hands against the world's bleeding wounds. We are the kind of people that actually care, we are not apathetic. We will do more than just watch, we will help. We want to be a part of something bigger than ourselves. We stand up for what we believe in. We want to see an immense change in the world, because we know that there is a big difference in the way the world is, and the way it should be.
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Post: #372776 , Tue 6 Apr 10, 1:32AM |
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I think distance is hard-both physical and emotional :/
But the emotional aspect can be solved by communication. Some times you just gotta say what you need to say
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Post: #670802 , Sun 29 Jul 12, 2:28AM |
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For me it's a mix of communication, the fact that I have trust issues and I have a tendency of getting very moody.
I love you.
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Post: #671285 , Tue 31 Jul 12, 4:48AM |
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For me, It's a mix of communication, and spending the right mix of time with someone. I've had experience where spending too much time and too little time together have ended a relationship.
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Post: #671296 , Tue 31 Jul 12, 5:22AM |
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:: TealSkye
:: QA7 Taking responsibility | |
As Rosie said, distance, when it's present.
I can speak my mind. So communication (on my end), isn't an issue. Honesty is given and expected in return.
I don't even mean Long Distance (personally hate those), but not being able to see my partner a lot. I like to lather my partners in attention, and love. By that I just mean, being able to cuddle, snuggle, and huggle, and all other forms of fruity shit. ^_^
I'm a very er...tactile creature. :3
My other Relationship issue; Insecurities.
I promise to always compliment, and hug you, and tell you how beautiful you are, but please know, it's not my job to compensate for your insecurities. Is it really fair to expect me to? I understand as a partner I contribute, but there is a point where you yourself must be held accountable for your own self-image.
I don't like being asked where I am all the time. Always being questioned. I don't like the "I'm feeling insecure, I'm going to make you jealous". That is the quickest way to infuriate me.
I'm also not fond of double-standards, no.
I get jealous too, but I recognize that it's my problem, not my partners if I get angry seeing them talk to someone they could potentially be attracted to. And if I trust them, there is no need to be jealous in the first place.
Which is my third things I suppose. Trust. 
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Edit: TealSkye, Wed 1 Aug 12, 12:51AM
Post: #671500 , Wed 1 Aug 12, 12:50AM |
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