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Topic: Do You Think I'm Pansexual?
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i was hoping that the topic title would draw in some people who actually pansexual... i dont know if i should identify as gay or pansexual...
i like guys. i like everything about guys. BUT... i have fallen in love with two girls in my past and loved them unconditionally.
so in short... i love guys but i have proven to myself that i am capable of loving a girl...
what do you think?
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Post: #352746  , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:23AM |
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The nice thing about pansexuality is that is affirms your capacity to fall in love with anyone. No limits. 
I'm pansexual btdubbs.
"If birth is fission, then the love we make is fusion; and to make an End is nothing more than to realize a Beginning." --Evidence of Things Unseen
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Edit: willworkforhug, Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:25AM
Post: #352750 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:25AM |
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I'm the same way, except opposite! lol - I've fallen in love with one guy before... maybe another? I don't know... but I'm more attracted to women, although I've never dated one. And I'm not sure what to call it... I guess bisexual would be most accurate, but it's got a bad stigma (like the "bi when drunk" or "it doesn't exist" crowd) and nobody knows what pansexual is, so it kinda makes it a pointless label.
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Post: #352755 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:28AM |
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Well, I'm pansexual myself but I identify more with bisexual, because if you say "I'm pansexual" people look at you and go, "You hurt your what?". 
Yes, I'm an artist. No, I'm not starving.
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
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Post: #352758 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:33AM |
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I usually identify myself as bisexual, but I think of myself as...I guess you could say pansexual. (I came out to my friends with the word open minded haha) I beleive that love can exist between any two people, and there isn't really anything else to consider.
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Post: #352761 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:39AM |
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I usually identify as gay (or if people insist on using the phrase "Are you a lesbian?" rather than confuse them, I say simply yes).
However, I'm a believer in love over all else. I don't want to eliminate the possibility.
The reasons that I identify as lesbian instead of pansexual:
1) I'm not physically or sexually attracted to men, and I don't really WANT to be involved in conversations about stuff like that unless I'm the listener and not expected to talk about it, too. I'd have nothing to say
2) I've never actually loved a guy, although I've dated a couple of really nice ones and had close guy friends that I thought could have been boyfriends except for the whole not-liking-boys thing
3) The idea of explaining "I've had a romantic crush on a guy before, but the idea of having a long, serious relationship, or sex, is out of the question, except it's not just the sex, it's being with a guy for too long, and I'm not asexual, nor am I afraid of commitment" all the time
4) Having to hear endless "Don't knock it until you try it" advice.
Basically, I do it for convenience. I mean, I've never in my life found a man appealing in the way of love, lust, physical attraction, long-term romance, or sexual attraction. But I don't like to completely rule out anything.
One reason I'd like to identify as pansexual, though, is because I think it's entirely more possible for me to fall in love with or be attracted to FTM or MTF transsexuals/transgenders/genderqueers than it is biological men. Go figure.
You're stubborn, hard headed, sheltered, impatient, angry, and altogether you irritate and frustrate me more than anyone else on the planet. I love you.
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Edit: cheesecake22, Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:49AM
Post: #352769 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:48AM |
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I'm pansexual. I can like anyone. I'm not a whore I'm just more into personalities.
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Post: #352771 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:55AM |
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to elaborate... in both of the situation where i fell in love with a girl, it was mainly an emotional relationship. i personally believe that sex is a huge part of being with someone but i was unable to connect sexually with either. and i cant think of a girl as sexy, but i can recognize a girl as beautiful.
i know i wouldn't cheat on anyone but im pretty sure that would cause a problem down the line...
is there any point in me being with a girl if there is such a big road block? and would that affect what i would identify as?
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Post: #352774 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 12:59AM |
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That is pretty much the definition of pan 
I deffo think you are pan because i have done the same thing lol
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Post: #352871 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 2:12AM |
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Well if your romantic/sexual attractions are limited just to guys/girls than you might be bi. I think that pansexual is like saying gender makes absolutely no difference to you. Pansexuality is kinda recognizing that there are more genders than just boy OR girl. There's MTF, FTM, androgenous, and anything else that a person can choose to identify as. So if that sounds like you than you might be pansexual. I'm pansexual but usually I just tell people that I'm bi because then they'll ask less questions. "What the heck is pansexual?" *sigh*
The geography of my heart has hills of desire and valleys and meadows of love - for both men and women - a single day's trek passes through it all. ~Agavé Powers
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Post: #352874 , Thu 4 Mar 10, 2:19AM |
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sounds to me like you are Gay, but have strong feelings
which is not a bad thing i mean you can love a person without being sexually involved for example i love my best friend to the point where i would give up my life for her but then again only you know how you feel
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Post: #375561 , Tue 13 Apr 10, 12:39AM |
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It sounds to me like you're homosexual but panromantic. But only you can label yourself. Good luck, bud.
"If birth is fission, then the love we make is fusion; and to make an End is nothing more than to realize a Beginning." --Evidence of Things Unseen
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Post: #375564 , Tue 13 Apr 10, 12:48AM |
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i agree with simon(his was the only one i really read).
but i also have the same issue as you. i had a great emotional attachment to a girl once, found her very beautiful, but could not picture myself being sexually active with her.
i would say you could identify as pan emotionally, but gay sexually
My ear should catch your voice, my eye your eye, my tongue should catch your tongue's sweet melody, were the world mine
A Midsummer Night's Dream
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Post: #375566 , Tue 13 Apr 10, 12:49AM |
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I actually wonder the same about myself. I am wary of labels, but it does help to find an easy way to define yourself to others. I have definitely had attractions to both men and women at times, though I would say my attractions are based less on gender than specific people and personalities... also, someone being trans or genderqueer does not change the way I look at them, so I think I could be attracted to them. I guess that is pansexual... its just hard to label myself!
i am not a pretty girl
that is not what i do
i ain't no damsel in distress
and i don't need to be rescued
so put me down punk
maybe you'd prefer a maiden fair
isn't there a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere?
-<3 Ani
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