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Topic: Thinkin' Heterowise
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:: thisway
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Someone asked me something earlier that made me ponder slightly. It won't be much of a poser to the bisexuals amongst us, but to the gays (and Will... and Jason if he ever returns)...
If you met someone of the opposite gender and you really really REALLY liked them, loved them or whatever, would you avoid being with them simply because of your "gay" label?
My answer was that if the situation actually arose, I would hope I would have the maturity to give myself the shot at happiness with this fictional person. However, it just wouldn't happen. Because I've known girls who I do have a personality match with and we get on really well. There's at least one who, if I was straight, I'd be going out with for sure. But the element of attraction simply isn't there and would never be, because I am gay.
So, in short, the answer would be no, but the situation would simply never arise, as far as I can see.
But what do the rest of you think?
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Post: #31923  , Fri 16 Sep 05, 12:06AM |
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Well this is very intresting...I believe all gay men and women will meet someone of the opposite gender who they get on with so well, if they were straight they would go out with.
Everyone has 'soulmates' or people they just connect with, and this is not limited to gays. but of course, nothing will happen between a gay and this soulmate (assuming the soulmate is of the same sex) because of the fundemental flaw in the concept of 'soulmates'-It doesnt take homosexuality into account.
This situation did arise to me, sometime last year. I was very upset at being in love with a girl, considering all the hard work and bullying i'd put up with for being gay. But then i realised; I wasnt totally gay, i was still being attracted to women. And i hadnt been with a girl or a boy before, in any way, so i felt i had to find out what i preffered more in order for me to make a decision. if i was disgusted by being with a girl, i would have my answer.
i'm sure a lot of people might disagree with that rational, but everyone is different.....
-Will
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Post: #31927 , Fri 16 Sep 05, 1:08AM |
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I don't know...
I think, have I met a person that is right the opposit sex of the one that corresponds to my sexual preference , and I am still sure this is THE one - I will, most likely, give it a try.
Don't look for me in the real world. I am just an illusion. A random vertigo of computer bits of information, reality and dreams. May be the beautiful ones, may be those that are scary. It's for you to decide.
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Post: #31937 , Fri 16 Sep 05, 2:31AM |
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It's easy to label ourselves one way, but what does it really mean? I identify myself as gay because I'm overall attracted to guys, sexually I'm attracted to guys. When I think of having hot steamy sex with someone, it's a guy. But it is pretty final to limit ourselves, afterall, nature didn't give a name to being attracted to the same sex, just like nature didn't give a name to the birds in the sky or the fish in the sea. We called them something, how do we know that we're giving names to the right aspects of our life. Do animals give eachother labels or do they see things for what they are. I don't imagine myself having sex with members of the opposite sex because it just doesn't seem to translate in my mind. But I can get emotionally attatched to someone of the opposite sex, and look to them as I would a sister, so maybe I haven't met a girl who would make me feel more. It's a hard thing to think about because we feel safe in "knowing" we can only fall for members of our own sex, and after accepting that we're gay, the thought of feeling something more than what we might want for the opposite sex is, well let's face it, scary to say the least. But if we don't see ourselves as straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual and just let ourselves feel how we would feel if we stripped it down to the bare emotion inside, we'd probably still chase guys around, but we'd be aware that nothing is just so and anything is possible, and then maybe we'd be more open minded. Great I hate how hippy that sounds.
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Post: #31988 , Fri 16 Sep 05, 12:36PM |
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:: qusm4
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Couldn't have explained it better.
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Post: #32009 , Fri 16 Sep 05, 4:45PM |
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There are and have been girls whom I get along with and who's company I enjoy like many of my brother's girlfriends , including his current one but I still don't feel the same about girls as I do about guys .
Girls that I like to me fit into the classic definition of friends , nothing more and nothing less .
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Post: #32022 , Fri 16 Sep 05, 7:11PM |
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:: thisway
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Nicely put, Chris 
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Post: #32206 , Sat 17 Sep 05, 1:28PM |
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