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Topic: Long-Distance Relationships (Your Experiences)
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This thread is for sharing your expereinces of long-distance relationships.
See Long-Distance Relationships (Your Views) to express your opinions on them. |
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its always the communication and the connection.
soulmate please find me.
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Post: #624740  , Sat 3 Mar 12, 7:16PM |
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I'm not really a fan of long-distance. But it just could be because of my experience. Doesn't mean I wouldn't try again.
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Post: #626849 , Tue 13 Mar 12, 12:10AM |
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Although long distant relationships haven't exactly worked for me, it doesn't mean that it can't work for others.
I have seen a few long distant relationships be extremely successful and others be a complete fail.
I am now in a relationship with my girlfriend who lived an hour away, and while some may not consider that to be a long distant relationship I do to an extent.
We get to see each other only on weekends, and it does cost us quite a bit in gas for her to travel down every weekend. There are still some struggles we face like other LDR couples, but it has been very successful.
Trust is important, along with having a healthy relationship and some good communication.
" A weed is a plant whose virtues have not yet been discovered "
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Post: #628864 , Wed 21 Mar 12, 7:16AM |
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I was in a long distance relationship with a girl that was over 12 hours away from me. We only saw each other maybe once or twice a year if even at all. This relationship last off and on for about 5 years, the longest at once was a little over 2 years. The distance was definitely hard because if one of us was upset it was hard to be all that comforting without being there and it made it worse that she was upset a lot. That also contributed to the final breakup was all of her emotional-ness along with the fact that she cheated on me numerous times thus breaking the whole trust mirror. It was hard for me as well because she was, and still is, closeted to EVERYONE except me but it would have been the same with that even if it wasn't long distance.
I wouldn't be opposed to doing the long distance relationship thing again as long as I knew I could trust said person, but trust isn't a term I use lightly.
-Freedom is a lie we've learned to believe like a book with no pages we pretend to read.
-Young love is so hearbreaking to observe as a scientist. SO passionate, so innocent, and yet so utterly doomed.
-So I’m guessing you’ve never been in love then?
-Countless times my friend, the difference is I recognize the emotion for what it is. An irrational self destructive impulse which is disguised as joy.
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Post: #628915 , Wed 21 Mar 12, 1:38PM |
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It depends on how close you are with the person and how willing you are to wait. I was in a long-distance relationship for nearly a year and now we live together! if you think you have a future then its worth it but if you dont think youll ever see them then sometimes its not worth the heartache
Its my life and you know what - no-one invited you - so theres the door - billie joe armstrong
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Post: #628928 , Wed 21 Mar 12, 4:34PM |
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Im currently stuck in one, I lied about my age though. He is 21 Im 13 (DONT ASSUME PEDOPHILE! KEEP READING...). Weve been chatting with each other for maybe a year, and I told him I was in love with him. I lied saying I was 18 but eventually told him the truth. He wants me to see other people, but when Im actually 18 we can be together. We still talk and play games together though. He just doesnt want to call it a relationship. Any advice?
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Edit: DatFlip, Sat 24 Mar 12, 12:56AM
Post: #629600 , Sat 24 Mar 12, 12:52AM |
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I've been in one for over a year now and it's going great. <3
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Post: #629607 , Sat 24 Mar 12, 1:14AM |
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Just (and literally just) got into a long distance relationship.  my long distance relationship is with a guy I met here on QA and I'm interested to see how things work out. He's actually my first boyfriend so this should be interesting.
To see us dance is to hear our hearts speak- Hopi Indian saying
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Post: #629611 , Sat 24 Mar 12, 1:51AM |
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I'm in a long distance relationship now. It's hard, and I miss her all the time. But the bright side is that knowing i'll see her again gives me something to look forward to. As long as you completely 100% trust them, it'll be okay.
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Post: #633953 , Thu 5 Apr 12, 2:12AM |
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my friend had a girlfriend in ohio and we live in texas and sadly it might not work out and it is a tough thing to go through
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Post: #637023 , Wed 11 Apr 12, 1:44AM |
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:: Dood
:: QA6 Livin' it up! | |
I was in a somewhat long-distance relationship once, though today I don't really consider it much of a relationship.. It was with a guy who lived an hour away from me, I was in 9th grade at the time so it was just last school year and he was, I believe, in 7th grade. At first everything was great, I finally felt loved and it was just perfect but as time went on I began to feel a bit empty again. Due to the distance between us I never got to see him, our relationship consisted of 1/3 Facebooking and 2/3 texting, it was awful. This eventually began to tear our relationship apart, we began to argue and then, before we even knew it, we broke up. After awhile he began texting me back, apologizing, asking me if we could get back together, that he couldn't live without me, that our love was real but I said no. I knew it wouldn't work out, the distance was just too much, we would've gotten into more arguments and it would've only gotten worse so I said that we should just be friends and left it at that. However he didn't give up, in fact he kept on trying. After countless times of asking me again and again to get back together with him I was eventually able to get the point across that I didn't want to get back together with him and he finally learned to accept that and, sort of, move on. Looking back on it all today I think that I probably shouldn't of even really been in a relationship with him to begin with. I think the only real reason I did was because he was another gay guy who was around my age and lived in the same state as me, I mean honestly after I got to know him better I found out he was a major drama queen, cursed way too much and was way too flamboyant for my tastes. Plus he was also pretty immature about things in general and had a terrible temper. I mean sure we had some things in common but it just didn't really seem right to begin with, you know? It wasn't really true love that I felt and I realize this now. Honestly I probably should've known that a long distance relationship wouldn't have worked out, especially after watching all of my little sister's failed long distance relationships, and I do sort of regret it but not too awful much. Personally I sort of just took this whole experience as a lesson to be learned, I found out that long distance relationships are just too stressful for me to handle and are not my sort of thing. However, with that all being said, that doesn't mean that your long distance relationship wouldn't work out. I, personally, believe that you will honestly never know until you try and if this is your first long distance relationship than I say go for it! See what it's like and if it doesn't work out than know that it's not for you. Anyway I guess that's pretty much all I have to say. I hope this helped! =)
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Post: #637045 , Wed 11 Apr 12, 2:18AM |
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I feel like going on another ramble on this thread. I just realized that my S.O. and I are starting college together in four. and a half. months. When did that number get so low? That is nothing, practically. I mean, we've been together for fourteen months, so four? Pshhhhhh.
There are times where I just wish I could hop into my car and drive straight up the highway for hours to her house because I miss her so, so much. But besides the physical aspect (which after a while you kind of adjust to) it's not often that I really miss her - it's not like I don't interact with her or hear her voice or see her face. We talk every day, and skype as much as we can, and as busy as we always are, time seems to go by pretty steadily.
I used to be like, "All the distance is worth it!" And I guess that's true. But I have a problem with saying that sort of thing now, because it implies that instead of being in love and that in itself being worth fighting for now, this is just hardship and suffering and missing her and blah blah blah and it will all pay off later. I'm truly sorry if that's how it feels to other people, but I love my relationship as is, because I love Sam, no matter how many miles are in between us.
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Post: #637070 , Wed 11 Apr 12, 2:55AM |
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I don't have an experience as yet, but in September my girlfriend of 4 years is moving away for however long and actually, I can't think of anything less appealing than a long distance relationship. It must just be really rubbish to miss someone every single day.
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Post: #639704 , Mon 16 Apr 12, 9:26AM |
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Depends on the level of trust and faith!
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Post: #639850 , Mon 16 Apr 12, 6:13PM |
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didn't work for me.
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Post: #642278 , Mon 23 Apr 12, 2:14AM |
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:: Kuuipo
:: QA10 Community Goddess | |
As long as you trust the person anything is possible. :3
"The past can hurt. You can either run from it or learn from it." ~Rafiki
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Post: #647290 , Tue 8 May 12, 3:45PM |
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:: Dakota
:: QA5 Having the neighbours round | |
I've been in along distance relationship for three months now (four on the fourteenth <3), and I'm not going to lie - it's hard. Hayden and I have had our littler quarrels, which lead to mini-breakups. But.. We skype about every other day, text, email, etc. We're always in communication. And I love it. It is painful, not being able to physically hold the one you love.. but it's worth it. There's something about long distance relationships that make the relationship stronger. You learn to truth and have faith. And you develop a more emotional connection, rather than purely physical. We're hoping to meet up this summer - being as we live twelve hundred miles away from each other. :'( talk about long distance!
Kiss it all better, I'm not ready to go
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Post: #647331 , Tue 8 May 12, 9:19PM |
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It's quite painful at times, actually. I was talking to my crush and it turns out that my crush found someone. The words used to explain the situation:
"Hey Paul, yeah, I found someone. I know you like me, and I like you too, a lot! Quite a lot! But you are just too far away! It's not you, it's not me...it's this damned distance!"
Long distance relationship: Not even attempted.
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Post: #647372 , Wed 9 May 12, 12:02AM |
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:: minya
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I'm currently in one, and it's nearly 10 months now (ohmygoshohmygosh what no i did not realise -flails-). And when I say long-distance, she lives in Illinois, America. I live in Hampshire, UK. So... 6 hours time difference.  But it's going a lot better than any of my previous relationships and I really do love her. She's coming to England next year, hopefully, so... Yeah. It takes a lot of trust, I guess, but I do trust her. :3
This being said, I know four people in LDRs... One couple has been going for a long time- I think nearly 3 years- despite a short bout of cheating from the guy. The other couple is very on/off and one of them is the one who cheated with the guy I mentioned earlier. Yet both couples are together at the moment... sigh.
So, those are my experiences.
It's always darkest just before the dawn. So stay awake with me, let's prove them wrong.
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Post: #652536 , Tue 29 May 12, 5:45PM |
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LDR doesn't work for me but there are exceptions
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Post: #652794 , Wed 30 May 12, 2:22PM |
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