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:: queercheer2010
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at lunch today, my friends and I got into an interesting convo.. is it akward for you to not kiss before/during sex? i said it would be and one guy said that he hates kissing his gf when they are going at it.. what does everyon else think? doesn't have to be from experience... just opinion
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  Post: #211419 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:14AM
:: erical12
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I think it would be awkward. I don't think I could be with someone so intimately and not kiss them..it's part of being close or intimate with someone in my opinion
Plain and simple, don't live somebody else's dream.
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Post: #211420 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:18AM
:: sak0215
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I think that to not kiss before sex would be awkward and it would ruin the feelings. I am not experianced but its an opinion. The same goes with during sex. If would feel more like a meaningless act with out the kissing.
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  Post: #211422 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:22AM
:: j.cor
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Okay, so one of my friends and I have sex. We're both in relationships (the significant others are both alright with it) so the feelings are pretty platonic. We never kiss at all though. It seems way too intimate to me. I know that probably sounds really stupid considering we have sex but I consider kissing to be more like emotional pleasure. I don't get physical pleasure from it like I do with sex. But if I were having sex with somebody that I was with or had more than friendly feelings for, yeah, I'd kiss them.
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  Post: #211424 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:30AM
:: Potatogus
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For me, sex is about intimately connecting with a person, so yes, I do like to kiss before and during sex.

Although sometimes kissing can be distracting during the action...or maybe both of us are ADD.
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  Post: #211428 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:48AM
:: FutchBaby
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Pieces of souls are passed on lovers lips Emoticon: Grin :D

I think kissing is a very important thing to do before and during and even after sex. But, I also think that you should be very commited, or in a relationship, with someone before you have sex with said person.

It's like each time you have sex with a person, you're leaving a piece of yourself with that person and vice versa. I just don't like the idea of having my soul spread among many people.

Same with kissing, you're passing along a very important part of yourself along when you kiss another person.

I just find those two acts very intimate and people should be wise in choosing whom they wish to do said acts with.

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  Post: #211439 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:59AM
:: VeggieYum
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The kissing is very important for me. I guess I see sex as way more emotional than physical, so with my girlfriend, we usually spend more time kissing than anything else. It seems very strange not to. Actually, I don't think I'd get even the least bit turned on if there weren't any kissing.
  Post: #211458 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 2:39AM
:: Allison
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ummm im a virgin but i dont see how u would get to sex w/o kissing...
its not hard to make it through a day if you can make it through the moment
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  Post: #211459 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 2:41AM
:: erical12
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^yea I don't understand that either
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  Post: #211461 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 2:44AM
:: gator1
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There are many varied paths to sex, and not all of them involve kissing. Hopefully you never discover them, because for the most part they aren't fun, and some of them are downright degrading.

I like kissing before, during and after sex, because without it sex would seem less intimate and more work. Sex isn't supposed to always be about physical pleasure. At least I don't think so.
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  Post: #211482 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 3:32AM
:: Sunny.hypnoman
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:] I think people should kiss before, during, and after sex. If someone is close enough to have sex with someone then they should be able to share a kiss. And I know sex is more physical pleasure, but it is very much an emotional pleasure also just like kissing. Its good to share a kiss, it just shows how pleased you are with the other person... yeah Emoticon: Grin :D
  Post: #211504 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 6:11AM
:: awkwardsoul_x
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My personal beliefs is that sex is a very intimate action, and if you don't feel intimate enough to kiss, you shouldn't feel intimate enough to have sex.

However, this is not everyone's belief system. For most people, kissing symbolizes an act of affection. Sometimes when people set up open relationships, they'll put in a "no kissing" rule, because kissing is such an intimate act. What I fail to understand is how they think that sex isn't an intimate act, but it's their life, and I can't force them to think any otherwise. When I have sex, I will most definitely want to kiss, and I feel it would be unfair to myself to be with someone who only wanted me for sex and not for intimacy.
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  Post: #211513 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 8:49AM
:: burder01
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Well, from experience some guys hate it, but those same guys hate kissing other guys in general...

They're stupid, your supposed to kiss, touch and hold when u have sex, its a part of the experience. Maybe when ur hard at it kissing stops, but thats to prevent chipping of teeth or black eyes (trust me, I've done it before).

Dez, xoxo
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  Post: #211521 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 9:26AM
:: Michiko
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I couldn't deal with it. Kissing is a HUGE turn on... plus, as I see it, there's no intimacy when there's no kissing... it would make me think I'm doing it with a prostitute (they often refuse to kiss from what I've heard)
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  Post: #211523 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 9:31AM
:: mild_minotaur
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i think with all the people i've had sex with i have kissed before and during, its something i dont really think about, i just do it...

and i havnt ever been with a boy or a girl who didnt want to kiss during sex
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  Post: #211533 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 12:40PM
:: Savvywithyou
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man thats pretty weird.
i mean not kissing before sex? thats an awfully huge step to skip.

as far as during sex goes, i would never not kiss. unless it was like the position you were in it was awkward or something...otherwise i dont see why not.
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  Post: #211541 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 1:54PM
:: Cloaked
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I'm along the same lines as Jen. Sex to me can be either an extremely emotional act or it can be a purely physical act. Kissing, on the other hand, I get no actual physical pleasure from and typically only kiss my boyfriend. I can have sex with someone else solely for physical pleasure but I won't kiss them because I feel that's something that's only emotional.
The mere impulse of appetite is slavery, while obedience to the law we prescribe to ourselves is liberty. - Jean-Jacques Rousseau
  Post: #211583 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 8:15PM
:: sweetart
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how do u not kiss, i mean that would seem like an obvious part, i meen do u just hop right to sex? im a avirgin and i have never evan considered that it never evan crossed my mind to have sex without the kissing
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  Post: #211589 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 8:58PM
:: magicninjette
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As some of you said, I believe that sex is intimate.

I would much rather make love than just have sex. (however rough passionate sex is fun too. ;D)

I am not the type of person to be with many people at once. With me, I'm a one woman (or guy) lady. So when I share what I believe to be one of the most intimate acts two (or more, in some people's cases) people can share with one another, yes, I like kissing before, during, and after sex. Emoticon: Smile :)

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  Post: #211590 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 9:01PM
:: Cloaked
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>i meen do u just hop right to sex?<

Pretty much. If I'm just looking to get off, I know what I want and they know what they want. Pretty simple. Sex isn't inherently emotional for everyone. Similarly kissing isn't inherently emotional for everyone. I know plenty of people that go and make out with guys at bars all the time but they wouldn't hook up with them. Conversely I save kissing for special people but don't feel cheapened by the fact that I have sex with different people.
The mere impulse of appetite is slavery, while obedience to the law we prescribe to ourselves is liberty. - Jean-Jacques Rousseau
  Post: #211596 Link to this post, Thu 29 Jan 09, 9:51PM
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