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Topic: Long-Distance Relationships (Your Views)
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This thread is for expressing your views on long-distance relationships.
See Long-Distance Relationships (Your Experiences) for your experiences and for giving advice. |
They can be anything. They can be good if the people are trusting and committed. And not paranoid.
They can be bad if well, anything else happens. Although they can also be good for a "safe fling" in that you don't actually have to meet and there's no actually contact. Thing is you have to be comfortable with typing to them...
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Post: #165072  , Mon 21 Jul 08, 7:06AM |
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Well, I am currently in a long distance relationship. Honestly, I do hate them and I think they are hard to keep usually. The only reason I am in one now is because the girl I am with was forced to move down to Vigrinia about 3 years ago. And even though I hate not being able to be near her and things, I'm not willing to give up on her just because we are miles away from each other. I love her, too much to do that.
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Post: #165353 , Tue 22 Jul 08, 3:18AM |
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I think it really depends on how much the people care for, trust, and love each other. I've watched long distance relationships fall apart with most of my friends, and I can't imagine myself ever being in one, but that doesn't mean they can't work. I think QA has several good examples of lasting long-distance relationships itself *politecough*KimiandMona*politecough*.
There are a lot of factors that have to go into every relationship, and those who can look past the distance and make the commitment pretty much have it made.
"If you plant lettuce, and the lettuce does not grow well, do not blame the lettuce." --Thich Nhat Hanh
"You see what you wanna see, and you hear what you wanna hear. You dig?" --The Rock Man, "The Point"
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Post: #165385 , Tue 22 Jul 08, 6:03AM |
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imma revive this thread.
im currently in a long distance relationship.
we met on the internet in april, and have met 2 times since :]
she lives like 800 miles away from me. and we plan to meet more when we get money xD
we talk all the time.
ive really never been happier
:]
and yeah. thats all i gotta say for this thread. and its probbaly gonna go dead again xD
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Post: #193534 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 12:28AM |
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:: foppet1
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Really, what it comes down to is being able to handle being in a relationship where you don't see one another a lot.
I know, I had a pretty dim outlook on it the last time I posted here, but I've kinda changed since then.
I can handle being in a long distance relationship, just happens that two of my ex's couldn't handle it so... here I am today alone and single, but not hopeless.
"You can lead me by a leash anytime, if you keep looking at me like that" ~ Skye, CLOV
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Post: #193537 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 12:36AM |
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Nay. I've tried it, but I just get wayy too lonely.
I mean, if I find my soul-mate and he lives far away, I'd do whatever I could to change that fact. I don't really believe in the whole "if two people love each other enough, they can be together no matter what", because love fades if you don't get to spend time with that person. Like, no matter what.
So, I think that if someone's leaving for like a few months or a year or something, then it might work. But if it's a permanent thing, then no.
“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
- Maya Angelou
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Post: #193544 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 12:54AM |
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distance doesnt really bother me.
i tend to do better when i dont see people a lot.
people tend to bug me when i see them all the time. i start to feel smothered, and thats not cool.
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Post: #193638 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 3:06AM |
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they suck but i can be done.
He who binds to himself a joy
Doth the winged life destroy
but he who kisses joy as it flies
lives in eternity's sunrise
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Post: #193648 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 4:07AM |
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It's not perfectly fine. It puts incredibly stress on a relationship.
Currently I'm in one. When we first started dating he lived local. And since I trust and love him... and since we make an effort to see each other as much as possible. So it works. but it REALLY SUCKS
I love who I am now. I just wish that everyone else did too.
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Post: #193650 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 4:16AM |
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For 2 months. Yes.
Longer than that. No.
If it's gonna be longer than 2 months, you might as well cut the relationship tie, make it a friendship, and resume when they get back. Otherwise trust and understanding (phone/internet is not the same as real life contact) issues will cause you to loose everything.
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Post: #193673 , Thu 20 Nov 08, 6:51AM |
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Definately yes. I think that if both people make the effort then it can work out. Yea it can probably be difficult at times, but it you truly care for the person then there is no reason why it shouldn't work out. If 2 people can get through being away from each other for long periods of time then they can get through almost anything. So, yes, I am def for long distance relationships.
Plain and simple, don't live somebody else's dream.
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Post: #196306 , Mon 1 Dec 08, 8:44PM |
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I want to believe that long distance relationships are bonding experiences that will work out with any and every one. But, in reality? Life and love just do not happen like that; so easily. It definitely depends on the people involved. My first relationship, if you can even call it that, was with a girl from my state who I thought I liked. I've yet to see her in person. Why? Neither of us cared enough to make the effort. It wasn't real. I feel in love with Hannah [another girl] two or three years later. She, too, lives in my state and I met her online. I've seen her, kissed her, felt her, touched her...she's real and she's real to me. The distance IS a huge issue [but not a problem. I miss her and she misses me...but because of our love we can see passed it for another year or so. And then? And then we'll seldom be seperate.
Long distance relationships are worth it if both people but 100% effort into doing the best that they can to keep the love it's strongest.
Don't get me wrong, I DO hate long distances. But, sadly, I relate to more individuals who are far away from me. Bad luck? No. I'm sure it's just like that with everyone. I mean, two of my favorite people are Hannah [my lover] and "Spooky" [my friend]. Two fantastically wonderful girls who I have the pleasure of knowing only because of the Internet.
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Post: #196335 , Mon 1 Dec 08, 10:16PM |
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yes and no because it is always great to have someone who loves you but how long can you really deal with not seeing that person or talking with them in person
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Post: #196421 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 3:29AM |
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For me personally, they're really hard to maintain. I have such issues with not being able to see the person.
On the other hand, love is love and sometimes it's worth it.
“What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains.”
--Tennessee Williams
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Post: #196433 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 3:43AM |
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:: tayx0peace
:: QA4 A spot of tea please, Alfred! | |
im going to go out on a limb here and say
love is love and sometimes it's worth it
oh wait shit someone already said that
so ill just go with
yes they can work, but only if both people are realllllly strong
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Post: #196461 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 4:09AM |
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Wow, I sortof want to take back my previous answer.
If something happens and stops two people in its tracks, and pulls them apart, those feelings are going to stay right where they are. They might hide, or disappear temporarily, but if something triggers them (like seeing a person again), they will most likely be right where you left them.
For example, if two people were courting each other, then one of them moves before anything had a chance to happen, and even if they think they're over each other, if they see each other again, those feelings will resume where they left off.
This doesn't mean that they will be together in the end (although in my case, we totally will be). It just means that it will go from there, either positively or negatively.
I hope this made some sort of sense. I couldn't really word it the way I was thinking it.
“The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.”
- Maya Angelou
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Post: #196517 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 9:41AM |
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I think long distance relationship tend to work better if you have an open relationship. But its kinda hard to have real love in an open relationship so i try to stay away from both of them.
"God is the power of first cause, nature is the law, and matter is the subject acted upon."
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Post: #196546 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 1:53PM |
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NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO NO NO NO NO NIET, NINE NO! been there TWICE! it SUX!
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Post: #196553 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 3:28PM |
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No.
Simply no.
"She moves through moonbeams slowly.
She knows just how to hold me...
And when her edges soften,
Her body is my coffin."
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Post: #196554 , Tue 2 Dec 08, 4:37PM |
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I think it all depends on the circumstances. I consider my current relationship long distance (about 30-45 mins).
I think as long as the couple has had something before the distance and a strong enough connection it can work.
It's not easy though, not at all.
But if it works out, it's all worth it.
"I'd give you my heart and I'll let you just hold it. I'd give you my soul but I already sold it"
"I'd give it all just to have your eternity"
"I can taste your fear as you kiss my face"
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Post: #196708 , Wed 3 Dec 08, 4:09AM |
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